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• Consecration Before the Promise: Why Obedience Precedes Breakthrough

  Promises don’t break; people do—when we skip the prerequisite that unlocks them. Today we get honest about consecration: what it is, why it matters now, and how to practice it without turning faith into a checklist. We anchor in Joshua 3:5—“Consecrate yourselves, for tomorrow the Lord will do amazing things among you”—and explore the gap between revelation and realization, where obedience becomes partnership and purity protects power.We make it practical. Think of consecration like marriage: setting yourself apart isn’t prison; it’s how intimacy thrives. We tackle the soul-level habits that quietly corrode your walk—gossip that masquerades as curiosity, attitudes that justify clapbacks, unforgiveness that keeps the enemy invited, and a “self-care” that sometimes hides simple selfishness. Then we address the body: lust and porn normalized by our screens, media that desensitizes desire, and drunkenness that swaps the Spirit’s leadership for chemical steering. This isn’t condemnation; it’s clarity for anyone who wants to carry new wine without bursting.We also confront mixture. Purity means refusing to blend devotion to Jesus with crystals, sage rituals, manifesting by moon cycles, or astrology as identity. Those paths promise control while draining peace. With Achan’s story in Joshua 7, we see how hidden compromise undermines public victory—and how swift repentance restores momentum. Finally, we map a way forward: a real stocktake with God, simple replacements for harmful inputs, confession that frees, and daily choices to present our bodies as living sacrifices so our minds can renew and discern God’s good, pleasing, and perfect will.If you’re ready to trade lukewarm for wholehearted, press play and take the first step. Subscribe for part two, leave a review with your first action item, and share this with someone who’s hungry to be set apart.Thank you for tuning in beloveds. Don’t forget to comment , rate the podcast and share . Watch the Podcast here: https://youtube.com/@bulimakhubo?si=Whq1AiPP_Big4hyr Let’s connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/buli_makhubo?igsh=MWR5ZDExcndubDk1bw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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• The Cost of the Cross: Releasing What You Love To Fully Pursue Christ

  Following Christ demands more than aesthetic Christianity; it requires the difficult journey of allowing Jesus to be not just our Savior but the Lord of our entire life.• Praise Mwelase  shares her background growing up in a Christian household and her path to the entertainment industry• The difference between acknowledging Jesus as Savior versus surrendering to Him as Lord• How career success and good relationships can still leave us feeling spiritually "stuck"• Finding true identity through difficult obedience and letting go of good things• The challenge of yielding completely to God when it means releasing something you love• Learning to trust God's heart even when His direction seems confusing• Understanding that Christ Himself is the prize, not just the blessings He provides• The clarity and peace that comes after choosing obedience despite the costWhen you know God's heart and His character, even when difficult things happen, you remain confident in His presence and purpose. Spend time with Him, know the Bible, and understand His character—then you won't be moved by anything.Thank you for tuning in beloveds. Don’t forget to comment , rate the podcast and share . Watch the Podcast here: https://youtube.com/@bulimakhubo?si=Whq1AiPP_Big4hyr Let’s connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/buli_makhubo?igsh=MWR5ZDExcndubDk1bw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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• Double Dates & Separation: Navigating Couple Friendships

  When was the last time you thought about the complex dance of couple friendships? Those relationships that form when marriages intertwine, creating communities that laugh together, pray together, and sometimes even weather the storm when one marriage doesn't survive.In this raw, honest conversation, we dive deep into the beautiful mess of couple friendships – exploring everything from the strength these relationships bring during our lowest moments to the uncomfortable reality of comparison that can poison even the closest bonds. As one guest powerfully shares, "When me and mine are at our lowest point, we have a community that carries us where we are weak." But what happens when that same community faces the test of a marriage ending?We tackle the delicate dance of boundaries – knowing when to step in and when to step back, understanding that "how you iron cotton is not how you iron linen." Each friendship requires its own care and consideration. From navigating late-night texts to another's spouse to deciding how much of your marriage struggles to share, we offer practical wisdom for maintaining healthy connections without crossing lines.Most powerfully, we confront the reality of supporting friends through separation and divorce. As one participant vulnerably shares from personal experience, "I am Lebu before I am the wife" – a profound reminder that true friendship recognizes the person beyond their marital status. You'll hear first-hand accounts of how presence matters more than perfect words during these transitions, and how true community shows up not with judgment but with practical support and unconditional love.Whether you're building your couple friendship circle or navigating the changing dynamics when relationships shift, this conversation offers both comfort and challenge. Join us as we explore why, despite all the complexities, creating community around our marriages remains a risk worth taking.Thank you for tuning in beloveds. Don’t forget to comment , rate the podcast and share . Watch the Podcast here: https://youtube.com/@bulimakhubo?si=Whq1AiPP_Big4hyr Let’s connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/buli_makhubo?igsh=MWR5ZDExcndubDk1bw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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• Fathers are parents too: Redefining What It Means to Be a Dad

  What does it truly mean to be a present father? Beyond showing up at occasional soccer games or providing financially, the depth of fatherhood remains murky territory for many men—especially those who grew up without strong father figures themselves.This eye-opening conversation with Sbu Zikalala takes us on a journey across continents as he shares how moving from South Africa to Taiwan completely transformed his understanding of what engaged fatherhood looks like. The cultural differences revealed a startling truth: many fathers don't realize how much more they could be bringing to their families."Being with your children IS being occupied," Sbu explains, challenging the common mindset that time with children is somehow less productive than other activities. This powerful perspective shift represents just one of many practical insights shared throughout our discussion. We explore his surprising hierarchy of fatherhood priorities—with finances and security at the top, and love appearing last—not because love matters less, but because for many men, love is demonstrated through these practical expressions rather than treated as a separate emotional currency.For fathers who don't live with their children, we offer honest guidance about making the most of a non-ideal situation. And for those struggling with spiritual leadership, Sbu provides accessible approaches that don't require biblical expertise but still position fathers as family anchors.Whether you're a new father, a seasoned dad looking to level up your involvement, or someone trying to understand the men in your life better, this conversation offers fresh perspectives on raising the bar for what present fatherhood can and should be. Join us as we work to create a clearer template for engaged fatherhood—one that benefits children, strengthens partnerships, and fulfills men in one of their most important roles.Thank you for tuning in beloveds. Don’t forget to comment , rate the podcast and share . Watch the Podcast here: https://youtube.com/@bulimakhubo?si=Whq1AiPP_Big4hyr Let’s connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/buli_makhubo?igsh=MWR5ZDExcndubDk1bw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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• Whose Voice Is Steering Your Life?

  We're in a critical season of shifting where the voices we listen to will determine our direction and decisions. Guard your heart, for out of it flow the decisions that will steer your entire life.• When things reach our ears, they affect our heart, and our decisions are a result of what we hear• The voice of distraction pulls our attention away from God's mandate without being inherently bad• Misdirecting voices lure us away from our God-given purpose, causing us to invest in wrong directions• Our inner voice (flesh) cannot be trusted until it's fully aligned with the Holy Spirit• Popular figures don't automatically have sound doctrine—many use Jesus as a brand without substance• Read a chapter of the Bible daily to ground yourself in God's voice• Don't despise who God's word might come through—size of following doesn't equal spiritual authority• Take inventory of current voices in your life and be willing to cut cords with those not leading to GodTake stock of who you're listening to this season. If you unplugged from all your current influences for three months, would you still know what to do with your life?Thank you for tuning in beloveds. Don’t forget to comment , rate the podcast and share . Watch the Podcast here: https://youtube.com/@bulimakhubo?si=Whq1AiPP_Big4hyr Let’s connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/buli_makhubo?igsh=MWR5ZDExcndubDk1bw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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