Trust Me Mom

Why does motherhood feel so overwhelming, even when you're doing everything you can? And why do so many moms blame themselves when they can't keep up?In this episode of Trust Me Mom, I sit down with Libby Ward, mom of two, content creator, and author of Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself, for a candid conversation about the invisible load of motherhood, mom guilt, people-pleasing, parenting a highly sensitive child, and learning to put your own needs back on the list.Libby shares her personal journey from trying to be the perfect mom to reaching a point where she could no longer pretend everything was okay.After welcoming her second child, who struggled with feeding, sleeping, and sensory sensitivities, Libby found herself exhausted, overwhelmed, and increasingly reactive. She kept saying yes to everyone, ignoring her own needs and trying to meet impossible expectations.Eventually, she realized that becoming the parent she wanted to be required something unexpected: lowering her standards, setting boundaries, asking for help, and being honest about what she could realistically handle.In this conversation, we explore:The invisible mental load: Why so many mothers carry the responsibility for managing their children's needs, schedules, emotions, and development.Parenting a highly sensitive child: How different temperaments and sensory needs can dramatically change the parenting experience.The myth of the perfect mother: Why working harder and doing more doesn't necessarily make us better parents.People-pleasing and reactive parenting: How constantly saying yes to others can leave moms with little patience for their own families.Why self-care advice often misses the point: What exhausted mothers actually need beyond being told to sleep more or stress less.Practical ways to reclaim your capacity: How to say no, simplify routines, lower expectations, and make room for your own well-being.Finding yourself in motherhood: Why mothers deserve to feel whole as people, not just as parents.One of my favorite pieces of advice from Libby? "Do a crappier job."Sometimes, choosing a simpler dinner, leaving the house a little messy, or disappointing someone else means having more patience and energy for the people who matter most.Whether you're raising toddlers, parenting a neurodivergent child, or simply feeling overwhelmed by the demands of motherhood, this conversation offers relatable stories, practical ideas, and a reminder that you don't have to carry everything alone.🎙️ About our guest:Libby Ward is a mother of two, content creator, and author of Honest Motherhood: On Losing My Mind and Finding Myself. Through her writing and content, she encourages mothers to have more honest conversations about the realities of parenting, challenge unrealistic expectations, and prioritize their own well-being.00:00 Introduction: The Realities of Modern Motherhood01:25 Who Was Libby Before Motherhood?02:58 Two Young Children and Reaching a Breaking Point09:46 Why Raising Children Takes a Village13:07 Parenting a Highly Sensitive Child17:08 Why Common Self-Care Advice Doesn't Work19:07 Co-Regulation and the Challenges of Parenting20:58 The Titanic Analogy: Ignoring the Warning Signs23:30 People-Pleasing, Resentment, and Reactive Parenting26:00 Learning to Say No and Set Boundaries27:30 Why Moms Should Sometimes "Do a Crappier Job"29:05 Letting Go of Perfectionism in Everyday Parenting30:54 Libby's Book: Honest Motherhood34:01 Finding Support and Feeling Less Alone34:22 Libby's Final Message to Mothers#TrustMeMom #LibbyWard #HonestMotherhood #MentalLoad #InvisibleLoad #Motherhood #MomGuilt #PeoplePleasing #ParentingTips #ReactiveParenting #HighlySensitiveChild #ParentingSupport #SettingBoundaries #MotherhoodUnfiltered

What happens when a neurodivergent student who had an IEP or other support in school heads to college?In this episode of Trust Me Mom, I speak with Dr. Tara Williams, educator, author, speaker, founder of Innovative Collegiate Consultants, and author of The Neurodivergent Student Journey: Breaking Out of the Box.We discuss what changes when students transition from high school to college, especially for students with ADHD, autism, dyslexia, executive function challenges, anxiety, and other learning differences.Dr. Williams shares practical advice for helping students become more independent without taking away the support they still need. We talk about self-advocacy, college accommodations, executive function, organization, time management, perfectionism, asking professors for help, and learning through low-risk failures.00:00 Introduction01:22 Dr. Tara Williams’ journey into higher education04:11 What is executive function?05:48 How neurodivergent students can stay on track07:32 Building independence before college08:26 Why self-advocacy is critical10:40 Perfectionism, anxiety and accepting support11:51 Why small failures can help students grow13:04 How college accommodations differ from IEPs and 504 Plans14:59 How students can advocate with professors15:57 Preparing neurodivergent students for the workplace18:21 College resources parents may not know about20:18 Choosing a college with the right support system21:56 What happens when a student becomes overwhelmed23:17 The strengths and gifts of neurodivergent students24:27 There is always hope25:26 How to connect with Dr. Tara WilliamsYou’ll also learn:• Why self-advocacy may be one of the most important predictors of college success• How college accommodations differ from an IEP or 504 Plan• Why students should connect with accessibility services before the semester begins• How parents can gradually step back without abandoning their student• What to do when executive function makes it difficult to start assignments• Why the organization system that works for a parent may not work for their child• How perfectionism can contribute to late or unfinished assignments• What parents should look for when choosing a college• How neurodivergent students can build skills that prepare them for the workplace• Why community college or a different educational path can sometimes be the right choiceOne of Dr. Williams’ most important messages for parents: there is always hope.#NeurodivergentStudents #ADHDCollege #AutismCollege #ExecutiveFunction #CollegeTransition #Neurodiversity #CollegeAccommodations #IEP #504Plan #ADHDStudents #AutisticStudents #Dyslexia #ParentingNeurodivergentKids #CollegeParents #SelfAdvocacy #TrustMeMom

What does it really mean to raise a highly sensitive child?In this episode of Trust Me Mom, Ekaterina Konovalova speaks with Hayley Abram, founder of Sensitive Sprouts and mom of two, about the realities of parenting a child who experiences emotions, sensory input, transitions, and everyday frustrations more intensely.Hayley shares how becoming a mother challenged everything she thought she knew about effort, routines, and parenting. After years of sleep struggles, intense meltdowns, and trying strategies that simply did not work for her son, her family learned that he was highly sensitive.That realization changed their approach.We talk about why traditional parenting advice may not work for every child, how to recognize patterns behind meltdowns, why some children hold themselves together at school and fall apart at home, and the surprising strategies that have helped Hayley’s family.Hayley shares why sleep has been so important, how spending time in nature helps her son regulate, and even why entering the house through the back door can make the transition home easier after an overstimulating day.We also discuss the parent’s own nervous system and why sleep deprivation can make it much harder to stay calm during difficult moments.And importantly, we talk about the strengths of highly sensitive children: empathy, determination, attention to detail, a strong sense of justice, and an incredible capacity for joy.As Hayley explains, sometimes parenting becomes easier when we stop trying to parent the child we expected and start understanding the child we actually have.00:00 Meet Hayley Abram of Sensitive Sprouts00:56 Life before motherhood02:00 When hard work doesn’t “fix” parenting03:34 Raising a highly sensitive child04:20 Sleep struggles and bottle refusal06:29 Feeling alone when other families don’t understand07:30 Discovering her son was highly sensitive08:30 How understanding temperament changed everything10:53 Why standard parenting strategies may not work11:16 Spotting patterns and triggers12:00 Sleep and regulation13:00 Food, energy and what helped their family14:00 The surprising back-door transition trick15:00 Why rock music helps him regulate15:50 Why nature makes such a difference17:52 Why kids hold it together at school and melt down at home20:56 Regulating yourself as a parent21:30 The impact of sleep deprivation23:46 Parenting differences in the Netherlands27:40 The superpowers of highly sensitive children31:22 Hayley’s advice for parents#HighlySensitiveChild #HighlySensitiveKids #Parenting #ParentingTips #EmotionalRegulation #Meltdowns #SensitiveKids #ParentingSupport #Motherhood #TrustMeMom

What happens when a cybersecurity expert realizes that even the best parental controls cannot protect a child from every online threat?In this episode of Trust Me Mom (Season 2, Episode 49), I speak with cybersecurity professional and mom Nidhi Srivastava, whose approach to online safety changed after her nine-year-old son experienced cyberbullying while playing an online game. Someone he believed was another child gained his trust, learned personal information about him, and eventually began sending hurtful messages.Nidhi had parental controls and security tools in place, but the experience showed her that technology alone is not enough. Kids also need the skills to recognize suspicious behavior, protect their private information, respond to scams, and feel comfortable telling a parent when something goes wrong.We discuss why banning technology may not be the answer, how parents can talk to kids about their online lives, what children should know before chatting with strangers in games, and why Nidhi believes cybersecurity should be taught as a basic life skill rather than a one-time lesson.Nidhi also shares what parents can do if their child experiences cyberbullying. One of her most important recommendations is to create an environment where children know they can come to you without immediately losing access to their devices. She encourages parents to listen first, avoid blame, teach children what information should remain private, and make conversations about online life as routine as asking what happened at school.We also talk about AI scams, deepfakes, voice cloning, online impersonation, and why children need practice developing the critical-thinking skills required to navigate an increasingly complicated digital world.Nidhi leaves parents with a simple message kids can remember when something happens online:Pause. Stop. Think. Act.00:00 Introduction01:48 How Nidhi became a cybersecurity professional02:57 When online safety became personal06:58 The digital education gap for kids09:29 Why banning technology may not work12:04 Cybersecurity as a life skill16:20 What parents may miss inside online games17:44 What to do if your child experiences cyberbullying20:00 The online questions parents should ask their kids23:43 How kids can learn to recognize deepfakes25:47 Can we detect AI-generated content?26:46 The four words Nidhi wants every child to remember27:55 Final thoughts#Cyberbullying #OnlineSafety #InternetSafety #ParentingTips #KidsOnlineSafety #DigitalParenting #Cybersecurity #TrustMeMom

What should parents do when they notice that something about their child’s development has changed—but their concerns are dismissed?In this episode of the Trust Me Mom podcast, Ekaterina Konovalova speaks with Dr. Kimberly Idoko, a board-certified neurologist, children’s rights attorney, mother, and author of The Miswired Child.Dr. Idoko shares the personal experience that shaped her career in medicine and how becoming the mother of a child with Rett syndrome transformed the way she thinks about parental intuition, early intervention, medical advocacy, and navigating complex healthcare systems.The conversation explores what parents can do when they have developmental concerns, how families may be able to access early intervention evaluations, and why parents can play an important role in communicating changes they observe in their children.Dr. Idoko also discusses questions parents may want to ask when medications are being considered, the importance of working with qualified healthcare professionals when evaluating nutritional or micronutrient concerns, and why supplements should not be given to children without appropriate guidance.The episode also looks at everyday factors that can affect a child’s overall well-being—including nutrition, sleep, physical activity, and emotional safety—and how small, sustainable changes may feel more manageable for families than trying to change everything at once.This conversation is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for individualized medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always discuss concerns about your child’s health, medication, testing, nutrition, or supplements with a qualified healthcare professional.00:00 Introduction01:25 Why Dr. Idoko became a doctor02:41 Falling in love with neuroscience04:16 Becoming a mother during medical training05:30 When her daughter’s development began to look different06:11 Noticing an early developmental difference07:33 Choosing not to simply “wait and see”08:09 Understanding Rett syndrome09:41 The importance of early intervention11:42 What parents can do when they have developmental concerns13:06 Why parental observations matter14:01 Accessing an early intervention evaluation15:08 Why Dr. Idoko went to law school16:31 Becoming a children’s rights attorney17:14 Balancing medicine, law school, and motherhood18:11 Writing The Miswired Child19:19 Trusting what you notice about your child21:03 Advocating for your concerns to be taken seriously22:21 Looking at the bigger picture when a child is struggling24:33 Questions parents may have about medication25:26 Approaching medication thoughtfully28:59 When a child struggles with sleep, attention, or behavior31:43 What parents should know before giving supplements33:20 B12 supplementation: why individual needs matter34:08 Micronutrient testing and individual differences35:06 Can too many supplements be harmful?38:21 The cost of medical testing and access to care40:36 Making small changes instead of overhauling everything41:09 How one simple food swap can become a habit42:30 Food, sleep, emotional safety, and physical activity44:17 Closing thoughts#TrustMeMom #ParentingPodcast #ChildDevelopment #EarlyIntervention #ParentAdvocacy #Neurology #RettSyndrome #Parenting #ChildHealth #SpecialNeedsParenting #DevelopmentalMilestones