When you have experienced CPTSD due to your partner's infidelity, addiction and abusive behaviors, it's chipped away at your sense of empowerment. Divorce is ha...
133. Rebuilding Trust After A Life Saving Divorce: How to Trust Yourself Again
Trust after betrayal can feel impossible, especially after a life-saving divorce. In this episode, I explore the real question behind, “Will I ever trust again?”—which isn’t just about trusting others, but about learning to trust yourself again.If you've ever blamed yourself for trusting the wrong person, doubted your intuition, or felt stuck in fear, this episode will help you:Understand why trust feels so unsafe after betrayal trauma.Recognize how your nervous system mistakes vigilance for wisdom.Learn the step-by-step process to rebuild self-trust from the ground up.Differentiate between protecting yourself and keeping yourself stuck.Shift from fear-based decision-making to empowered discernment.Healing isn't about never making a mistake again—it’s about knowing you have your own back, no matter what happens. You don’t have to take a blind leap. Trust isn’t a leap, it’s a climb. And every step you take brings you closer to yourself again.🎧 Tune in now to start rebuilding your foundation of trust, one step at a time._________________________________________Brainspotting Intensive; The Body AwakenedApril 9-11 2025Divorce 101 Self Paced Guide to walk you through how to make the next right step for you, right now. Whether you are wondering what to do next, you are having a hard time accepting that this is your life now, or you are ready to take that next step forward in healing, this is for you. Each stage comes with a workbook and a bonus vidoe on tips to support your children through divorce as well.Check it out!Intimacy Within Course- Want to learn how to create healthy intimacy within? To know what to look for in a future partner? Have you considered practicing the 7 levels of intimacy for yourself first? Check out my self paced course that walks you through each level if intimacy and helps you connect back towards YOU first.DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP: TBAlearn how to date yourself, connect back towards YOU and love yourself FIRST! Click HERE to register today!Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check outThe Empowered Divorce Q&A- The first Thursday of every month, come and ask Amie questions and get coached around your particular divorce as well as feel supported by others who are going through similar situations. You are NOT alone and women need women.The Body Love Class- Free workshop to help you love your body again after betrayalTake Healing To Next Level with my SIGNATURE PROGRAMBelieving In You- becoming more aware of your human brain and how its keeping you from being the chooser in your life. Amie's group coaching program is an incredible way to get coached by her as well as feel support from other women, and most importantly really start healing and creating the life you want. Next group starts in January. Sports fill fast so get yours today!Register HEREWant to work with Amie? For a consult click HEREAmie is also on theChoose To BE PodcastWatch the podcast onYOUTUBE and get episodes a day early!FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIAInstagram- @amiewoolseyFacebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoachTikTok- @amielifecoach
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132. Using Healing Tools Against Yourself; Believing Your Body
In this episode, we dive deep into a common but rarely talked-about issue—how we sometimes use healing tools against ourselves. If you've ever found yourself meditating, journaling, or practicing deep breathing not to listen to your body, but to silence it—this episode is for you.When we override our body’s signals in an effort to feel “better” or “regulated,” we risk gaslighting our own intuition and staying stuck in cycles of self-doubt. Healing from betrayal, trauma, and divorce isn’t about forcing yourself to move on—it’s about learning to trust your body first.Your body is not the problem—it has always been trying to protect you. Instead of suppressing the discomfort, what if we got curious? What if we believed what our body was telling us? This episode will help you recognize how to use healing tools for yourself rather than against yourself—so you can stop fighting your body and start truly healing.Key Topics Covered:✅ The subtle ways we turn healing tools against ourselves✅ Why emotional regulation should never override your truth✅ How bypassing discomfort can keep you stuck in trauma cycles✅ The power of believing your body first before assessing or rationalizing✅ Recognizing when your body is responding to the past vs. the present✅ How self-trust is built by listening, not fixing___________________________________Brainspotting Intensive; The Body AwakenedApril 9-11 2025Divorce 101 Self Paced Guide to walk you through how to make the next right step for you, right now. Whether you are wondering what to do next, you are having a hard time accepting that this is your life now, or you are ready to take that next step forward in healing, this is for you. Each stage comes with a workbook and a bonus vidoe on tips to support your children through divorce as well.Check it out!Intimacy Within Course- Want to learn how to create healthy intimacy within? To know what to look for in a future partner? Have you considered practicing the 7 levels of intimacy for yourself first? Check out my self paced course that walks you through each level if intimacy and helps you connect back towards YOU first.DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP: TBAlearn how to date yourself, connect back towards YOU and love yourself FIRST! Click HERE to register today!Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check outThe Empowered Divorce Q&A- The first Thursday of every month, come and ask Amie questions and get coached around your particular divorce as well as feel supported by others who are going through similar situations. You are NOT alone and women need women.The Body Love Class- Free workshop to help you love your body again after betrayalTake Healing To Next Level with my SIGNATURE PROGRAMBelieving In You- becoming more aware of your human brain and how its keeping you from being the chooser in your life. Amie's group coaching program is an incredible way to get coached by her as well as feel support from other women, and most importantly really start healing and creating the life you want. Next group starts in January. Sports fill fast so get yours today!Register HEREWant to work with Amie? For a consult click HEREAmie is also on theChoose To BE PodcastWatch the podcast onYOUTUBE and get episodes a day early!FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIAInstagram- @amiewoolseyFacebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoachTikTok- @amielifecoach
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131. Was Any Of It Real? Understanding The Confusion After A Life Saving Divorce
In this episode, I tackle one of the most painful and confusing questions that often follows a life-saving divorce: Was any of it real?Was there any good? Was it all bad?I dive into the cognitive dissonance that makes it hard to reconcile the good moments with the harmful ones, why your brain held on to the good, and how trauma clarity can bring painful but necessary revelations.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:📍 Reality Fragmentation: Why your brain struggles to reconcile the good with the painful truth📍 Trauma Clarity: How gaining new language and understanding shifts your perspective📍 Attachment and Survival: Why you clung to the good moments, and how they might not have been as safe as they seemed📍 The Mask Is Off: Why they might seem different now, and what that actually means📍 The Power of Acceptance: How shifting from questioning them to focusing on yourself is the key to healing📍 Grief as a Path to Freedom: Mourning the illusion of who they were and reclaiming your own truthTakeaways & Next Steps:✔️ You are not crazy or alone in this experience. Your confusion is valid.✔️ Seeing them clearly now doesn’t erase the good, but it does change its meaning.✔️ You do not need to untangle their reality—your healing comes from reclaiming your own.✔️ Grief is the bridge to clarity and freedom—don’t rush it, but don’t fear it either.✔️ The good in your past relationship was created by YOU—and you can create even more goodness moving forward.________________________________________________________Brainspotting Intensive; The Body AwakenedApril 9-11 2025Divorce 101 Self Paced Guide to walk you through how to make the next right step for you, right now. Whether you are wondering what to do next, you are having a hard time accepting that this is your life now, or you are ready to take that next step forward in healing, this is for you. Each stage comes with a workbook and a bonus vidoe on tips to support your children through divorce as well.Check it out!Intimacy Within Course- Want to learn how to create healthy intimacy within? To know what to look for in a future partner? Have you considered practicing the 7 levels of intimacy for yourself first? Check out my self paced course that walks you through each level if intimacy and helps you connect back towards YOU first.DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP: TBAlearn how to date yourself, connect back towards YOU and love yourself FIRST! Click HERE to register today!Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check outThe Empowered Divorce Q&A- The first Thursday of every month, come and ask Amie questions and get coached around your particular divorce as well as feel supported by others who are going through similar situations. You are NOT alone and women need women.The Body Love Class- Free workshop to help you love your body again after betrayalTake Healing To Next Level with my SIGNATURE PROGRAMBelieving In You- becoming more aware of your human brain and how its keeping you from being the chooser in your life. Amie's group coaching program is an incredible way to get coached by her as well as feel support from other women, and most importantly really start healing and creating the life you want. Next group starts in January. Sports fill fast so get yours today!Register HEREWant to work with Amie? For a consult click HEREAmie is also on theChoose To BE PodcastWatch the podcast onYOUTUBE and get episodes a day early!FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIAInstagram- @amiewoolseyFacebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoachTikTok- @amielifecoach
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130. Becoming Securely Attached
Becoming Securely Attached is a practice that we all can do no matter where we are at in our healing from betrayal, abuse and divorce. Secure attachment isn’t about never feeling anxious or hurt—it’s about knowing you can handle those feelings and still trust yourself. When betrayal, abuse, or divorce shatters that sense of security, it’s easy to feel like you’ll never trust again. But attachment isn’t set in stone—it can be rebuilt. In this episode, we’re diving into what secure attachment really looks like, how betrayal disrupts it, and, most importantly, the steps you can take to cultivate security within yourself before stepping into another relationship. Because healing isn’t about finding someone else to make you feel safe—it’s about learning that you are your own safe place first.Today I will give you a few things to start practicing today towards having a secure attachment with yourself first. ______________________________________Brainspotting Intensive; The Body AwakenedApril 9-11 2025Divorce 101 Self Paced Guide to walk you through how to make the next right step for you, right now. Whether you are wondering what to do next, you are having a hard time accepting that this is your life now, or you are ready to take that next step forward in healing, this is for you. Each stage comes with a workbook and a bonus vidoe on tips to support your children through divorce as well.Check it out!Intimacy Within Course- Want to learn how to create healthy intimacy within? To know what to look for in a future partner? Have you considered practicing the 7 levels of intimacy for yourself first? Check out my self paced course that walks you through each level if intimacy and helps you connect back towards YOU first.DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP: TBAlearn how to date yourself, connect back towards YOU and love yourself FIRST! Click HERE to register today!Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check outThe Empowered Divorce Q&A- The first Thursday of every month, come and ask Amie questions and get coached around your particular divorce as well as feel supported by others who are going through similar situations. You are NOT alone and women need women.The Body Love Class- Free workshop to help you love your body again after betrayalTake Healing To Next Level with my SIGNATURE PROGRAMBelieving In You- becoming more aware of your human brain and how its keeping you from being the chooser in your life. Amie's group coaching program is an incredible way to get coached by her as well as feel support from other women, and most importantly really start healing and creating the life you want. Next group starts in January. Sports fill fast so get yours today!Register HEREWant to work with Amie? For a consult click HEREAmie is also on theChoose To BE PodcastWatch the podcast onYOUTUBE and get episodes a day early!FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIAInstagram- @amiewoolseyFacebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoachTikTok- @amielifecoach
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129. Knowing Your Attachment Style
In this episode, I dive deep into attachment styles—what they are, how they influence your relationships, and why understanding them is crucial for your healing journey. Whether you’re navigating life after betrayal, considering dating again, or simply wanting a healthier relationship with yourself, this conversation will give you powerful insights. But here’s the deal: attachment styles are not life sentences. They are simply information—tools to help you self-reflect, not labels to judge yourself by. My goal is to help you recognize your patterns, meet yourself with compassion, and move toward secure attachment.Attachment is not a label, but information. Understanding your attachment style is about self-awareness, not self-judgment.Attachment styles can shift.Breaking free from anxious attachment.Recognizing avoidant attachment.Understanding disorganized attachment.Moving toward secure attachment.You can practice security today.📍Take the quiz I recommend:AttachmentProject.comBrainspotting Intensive; The Body AwakenedApril 9-11 2025Divorce 101 Self Paced Guide to walk you through how to make the next right step for you, right now. Whether you are wondering what to do next, you are having a hard time accepting that this is your life now, or you are ready to take that next step forward in healing, this is for you. Each stage comes with a workbook and a bonus vidoe on tips to support your children through divorce as well.Check it out!Intimacy Within Course- Want to learn how to create healthy intimacy within? To know what to look for in a future partner? Have you considered practicing the 7 levels of intimacy for yourself first? Check out my self paced course that walks you through each level if intimacy and helps you connect back towards YOU first.DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP: TBAlearn how to date yourself, connect back towards YOU and love yourself FIRST! Click HERE to register today!Here are some FREE resources from Amie you can check outThe Empowered Divorce Q&A- The first Thursday of every month, come and ask Amie questions and get coached around your particular divorce as well as feel supported by others who are going through similar situations. You are NOT alone and women need women.The Body Love Class- Free workshop to help you love your body again after betrayalTake Healing To Next Level with my SIGNATURE PROGRAMBelieving In You- becoming more aware of your human brain and how its keeping you from being the chooser in your life. Amie's group coaching program is an incredible way to get coached by her as well as feel support from other women, and most importantly really start healing and creating the life you want. Next group starts in January. Sports fill fast so get yours today!Register HEREWant to work with Amie? For a consult click HEREAmie is also on theChoose To BE PodcastWatch the podcast onYOUTUBE and get episodes a day early!FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIAInstagram- @amiewoolseyFacebook- @amiewoolsey.lifecoachTikTok- @amielifecoach
About The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse
When you have experienced CPTSD due to your partner's infidelity, addiction and abusive behaviors, it's chipped away at your sense of empowerment. Divorce is hard enough, but divorcing after betrayal, abuse and a narcissist is another level of hard. I help women navigate divorce from a place of empowerment, dignity and strength. Learn tools to practice each week, hear from other women & professionals to help you feel supported along your healing journey. Divorce after betrayal doesn't have to be the story of your life, YOU create the story and are the chooser in it. Because You Can!
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