The Divorce Planner

If you're going through divorce and feeling isolated and alone, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Hillary Livingston Giddings and Bethany M. Pace, the powerhouse duo behind Sincerely, Divorced, for an uplifting conversation about why community is everything during and after divorce.
Hillary and Bethany know firsthand what it's like to navigate divorce feeling like you have to figure it all out alone. As friends who both went through divorce during the pandemic, they turned their experience into something powerful—a community that's changing how people think about life after divorce through real talk, raw honesty, and their "breakdown to glow-up" philosophy.
We dive deep into how to use your vulnerability as a superpower to make genuine connections, why finding your people transforms the divorce journey, and how to rediscover joy and laughter when you never thought you'd feel that way again.
What we cover:
Why community matters during one of life's loneliest transitions
How to find your people when you're feeling isolated
Using vulnerability as strength to make authentic connections
The "breakdown to glow-up" philosophy and embracing both sides of divorce
Finding humor and joy again even in the hardest moments
Building a support system that actually works (friends, coaches, online communities)
Why it's okay to not have it all figured out and who can help at each stage
Real talk and raw honesty about what divorce actually feels like
How friendship saved them during their own divorce journeys
Whether you're just thinking about divorce, in the middle of the process, or rebuilding on the other side, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone—and that joy, laughter, and connection are not only possible but within reach.
Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 
Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.
The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.
Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're navigating a high-net-worth divorce, dealing with complex assets like stock options or business valuations, or suspect your spouse isn't being transparent about finances, this episode is for you. 
I sat down with Lisa Zeiderman, divorce financial litigator and managing partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, for an essential conversation about a type of expert most people have never heard of—but who could be critical to protecting your financial future.
We dive deep into the most expensive errors people make in high-asset divorces, the tax bombs that blindside even the most savvy clients, and how to navigate situations where your spouse controls the financial information or isn't being transparent about marital or business assets.
What we cover:
What a financial litigator is and how they differ from divorce attorneys and forensic accountants
When you actually need one and whether this is only for high-net-worth cases
The powerful combination of working with both a financial litigator and a CDFA
The most expensive mistake people make by NOT hiring a financial litigator early enough
Tax bombs in high-asset divorces and how financial litigators help you avoid them
Complex assets demystified including stock options, business valuations, and retirement accounts
What to do if your spouse isn't transparent about financial information or business assets
Cost vs. value of hiring a financial litigator and how to know if it's worth it for your situation
First steps for anyone considering divorce and when in the process to reach out
Whether you're high-net-worth, dealing with a business owner spouse, facing financial abuse, or just starting to educate yourself about divorce options, this conversation provides expert guidance on protecting your financial interests through one of life's most challenging transitions.
Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 
Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.
The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.
Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

Here's something nobody tells you about divorce: the entire process is designed to pull you backward. Every negotiation is about what happened—who earned what, who did what wrong. You spend months, sometimes years, staring into the rearview mirror. And then suddenly it's over, and you're standing in a life you don't recognize, because you were so consumed by the past that you never stopped to build toward a future.
Here's what I learned during my own divorce: you can't build a future by only looking at the past.
So I did something that changed everything. I wrote a letter to myself from my future self. And then, with every decision I faced in the divorce process, I asked one question: does this get me closer to that future? That single shift—from looking backward to looking forward—kept me on track, helped me make smarter choices, and let me feel hopeful about my life on the other side.
In this episode, I'll walk you through how to write your own letter from your future self and use it as your compass through divorce. It's the same practice I shared on the Divorce and Beyond podcast, where it became their most downloaded episode of the year.
Whether you're contemplating divorce, deep in negotiations, or just tired of making decisions from a place of anger and fear, this episode will help you stop reacting and start building something specific, hopeful, and yours.
Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 
Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.
The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.
Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you suspect your spouse might be hiding money during divorce—or you're in a situation where they control all the finances—this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Jennica Moore, a forensic accountant with over 10 years of specialized experience in fraud examination and family law matters, for a crucial conversation about finding hidden assets and protecting your financial future during divorce.
Jennica brings expert insight into the most common ways people hide money, the red flags to watch for, and what you can actually do to uncover hidden assets—even if you don't control the finances in your marriage.
What we cover:
What a forensic accountant does during divorce and how they differ from regular accountants
When to bring in a forensic accountant and whether your suspicions justify the cost
Most common ways people hide money including cryptocurrency, offshore accounts, cash businesses, and underreported income
Red flags to watch for before you even hire an expert
What to do if your spouse controls all the finances and how to access information safely in a controlling situation
What's actually traceable and the limits of forensic investigation
Biggest financial mistakes people make once they know divorce is coming
Legal consequences of hiding assets and how it impacts the divorce settlement
First steps to take if you suspect hidden money but don't have proof
Cost vs. benefit of forensic investigation and what you might uncover
Whether you're dealing with a business owner spouse, suspect hidden accounts, or just have a gut feeling something isn't right with the finances, this conversation provides expert guidance to help you protect your financial interests during divorce.
Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 
Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.
The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.
Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're stuck in decision paralysis, overwhelmed by every choice you need to make during divorce, this episode is for you. Today I'm sharing one of my signature coaching frameworks: the 5-5-5 Rule.
When you're contemplating divorce or in the middle of one, every decision feels enormous. Should you file now or wait until after the holidays? Should you keep the house or sell it? Should you fight for the retirement accounts or let them go? Should you tell your spouse you want a divorce or stay married?
The weight of these decisions can freeze you. You overthink. You ask seventeen people for advice. And then you still don't do anything.
The 5-5-5 Rule helps you zoom out when you're stuck in the weeds. It's a simple but powerful framework that helps you figure out which decisions actually matter, and which ones are just emotional noise you need to let go of.
Whether you're contemplating divorce, actively going through it, or struggling to make post-divorce decisions, the 5-5-5 Rule will give you a clear lens for moving forward with confidence.
Want more resources? Check out my blog, grab my free "24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney" guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. 
Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips.
The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation.
Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson