The Chris Voss Show

Good Daughtering: The Work You’ve Always Done, the Credit You’ve Never Gotten, and How to Finally Feel Like Enough by Allison M. Alford PhD

Daughtering101.com

https://www.amazon.com/Good-Daughtering-Always-Credit-Finally/dp/0063436426

A transformative look at the hidden work of all adult daughters who share the invisible load, from the eldest to the youngest, offering a fresh perspective on care, emotional resilience, and the power daughters have to shape healthier, more fulfilling family connections. For readers of both Susan Cain’s Quiet and Eve Rodsky’s Fair Play.

Daughters grow up believing their role in the family is simple: love your parents, help out when you can, and carry on the traditions that bind families together. But adulthood reveals a more complicated reality—one where women take on the invisible labor of emotional support, crisis management, and unspoken expectations that leave them feeling stretched thin and unseen.

So, what is “daughtering”? It’s the unpaid, invisible work women do to hold a family together—checking in, stepping up, and smoothing over—without ever considering its cost. In Good Daughtering, Dr. Allison M. Alford—a leading researcher in family communication—unpacks the untold story of adult daughters and the quiet, essential work they do. Drawing on years of groundbreaking research and personal interviews, she explores how societal expectations, gender roles, and generational dynamics shape the experiences of daughters in ways that are often misunderstood or overlooked.

Whether navigating generational expectations or balancing their own lives with the needs of their parents, Good Daughtering reveals the complexities of a role too often taken for granted. Daughters are the ones who do the planning and saving for their futures and those of their families, and support parents emotionally and practically as they age. This book speaks directly to eldest daughters who become family anchors, and the middle and youngest daughters who take on different, but no less important, obligations and responsibilities of being a good daughter. Using sharp insights, relatable stories, and actionable tools, Dr. Alford invites women to reflect on their relationships, recalibrate their roles, and reclaim joy in their lives.

Whether you’re paying the price for Eldest Daughter Syndrome or find yourself doing the work of caring for parents without recognition, it’s time to make your efforts visible and valued. More than a prescriptive guide, Good Daughtering is the long-overdue recognition of daughters who carry the weight in a family. It’s a roadmap for creating relationships that are not just functional but flourishing. This is the book every daughter deserves: an invitation to be seen, valued, and empowered in her role while honoring her own needs and desires.

About the author

Dr. Allison Alford is a researcher and author whose work brings visibility to the often-overlooked experiences of women—especially the family and social roles that tend to go unnoticed or underappreciated. Her current focus is on daughtering, a term she uses to describe the invisible labor and emotional work adult daughters provide in support and care of their families. Through her writing and speaking engagements, Dr. Alford shines a light on this powerful role, encouraging audiences to rethink what it means to be a woman in today’s world.

With a warm, relatable approach, she blends personal stories, academic insight, and cultural critique into compelling talks and essays that invite meaningful reflection. Learn more about her work and explore resources for adult daughters on her socials.

Antifragile Emotions: Build a Life That Gains from Disorder by Sidney Anderson Ph.D.

https://www.amazon.com/Antifragile-Emotions-Build-Gains-Disorder/dp/1971262005

In Antifragile Emotions, Sidney Anderson, Ph.D. applies the concept of antifragility to emotional life, offering a transformative approach to building emotional systems that grow stronger through difficulty. Moving beyond resilience, the author shows how to develop emotional capacity that doesn’t just withstand life’s challenges but thrives on them.

Traditional wellness advice emphasizes managing stress, processing trauma, and returning to baseline. But this approach creates fragility when life inevitably delivers loss, rejection, uncertainty, and failure. The antifragile emotional system uses controlled exposure to stressors, multiple sources of meaning, and systematic capacity building to extract value from difficulty rather than merely survive it.

Drawing on research into how people respond to major life disruptions, Antifragile Emotions reveals why some people emerge from difficulty genuinely stronger while others remain fragile. It examines the emotional barbell strategy, building redundancy, “skin in the game,” hormesis, and optionality. Readers will discover how to use anger as calibration, extract information from anxiety, build life structures with no single points of failure, and develop emotional range.

How’s My Driving?: Why Every Other Driver Doesn’t Seem To Have A Clue by Steve Dziadik

https://www.amazon.com/Hows-My-Driving-Driver-Doesnt/dp/B0CT6BGRLV

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How do YOU see your driving safety?

The primarily goal of this book is to encourage an increase in the level of defensive driving awareness for the reader. The author utilizes some of his family’s unfortunate driving experiences, wherever possible, for added emphasis. The benefit to the reader is an opportunity to feel the pain his family felt and learn from it.

His chapter on “Automobile Insurance 101” will break coverages down in a way that is palatable, as well as useful. Finding out AFTER a crash what protection should have been in place is tragic.

“Driving safely is no accident”. Understanding and practicing that phrase will result in a safer and happier commuting life for everyone!

About the author

Steve Dziadik has driven automobiles since a young age of 8 years old. He served in the U.S. Navy for 8 years in Nuclear Powered Submarines. He operated a commercial Nuclear Powered Electrical Generation Plant for 10 years followed by 20 years of training all of its licensed operators. He has sold Allstate Insurance for Home and Automobile coverages. He owned and operated a successful commercial driving school providing in-car training for thousands of Teenagers and Adults in proper safe and defensive driving techniques.

Christine Valdez Shares Her Real Estate and Leadership Journey

Christinevaldes.com

About the Guest(s):

About the Guest(s):

Christine Valdes is an accomplished real estate investor, entrepreneur, and capital partner who has spent several decades building a successful career. Her journey began with a role earning minimum wage and evolved into senior leadership positions overseeing large, geographically diverse sales teams. Christine’s leadership approach is centered around resilience, data-driven strategies, and nurturing high standards alongside human connections. Beyond her corporate role, she is actively involved in real estate investing, exploring opportunities in passive investments and capital raising.

Episode Summary:

In this engaging episode of The Chris Voss Show, host Chris Voss delves into the inspiring journey of Christine Valdes, a dynamic leader in the world of real estate investment and entrepreneurship. From her humble beginnings earning minimum wage and navigating life as a single mother, Christine has transformed into a formidable force in both her corporate role as a sales executive and as an active real estate investor. Her story is a testament to her resilience, strategic foresight, and unwavering commitment to personal and professional growth.

Christine shares her vibrant journey from her first investment in real estate during a booming market in the late 1990s to her recent endeavors in capital raising for innovative land development projects. She offers insightful perspectives on balancing a demanding career while actively pursuing lucrative investing opportunities. Key topics include her leadership philosophy centered on stewardship, the strategic development of geographically diverse teams, and her experiences with multifaceted real estate projects that highlight her adaptive approach to leadership and investment.

Key Takeaways:

Leadership as Stewardship: Christine believes leadership is an opportunity to steward individuals towards personal and professional growth. She emphasizes leaving people better than she found them.

Real Estate Investment: Christine’s journey into real estate highlights strategic investments in different markets, focusing on value-add opportunities and capitalizing on off-market deals.

Adapting to Market Changes: Even with market downturns, Christine stresses the importance of continually exploring real estate opportunities and adapting to fluctuating market dynamics.

Balancing Career and Investments: Despite her success in real estate, Christine continues to lead a large sales team, demonstrating her passion for leadership and ability to juggle multiple high-stakes roles.

Continuous Learning: Christine’s approach to personal development involves extensive reading and application of practical insights, underscoring the importance of lifelong learning.

Notable Quotes:

“My responsibility is to help them be better, be a better person, be better at their role when they leave.”

“I tell people, there’s a lot of money out there, don’t worry about money…sometimes the money is an opportunity specifically for you.”

“There’s always gonna be someone that’s gonna say it’s not the right time to invest.”

“Leadership is stewardship… I’ve been given like this gift to do it.”

“It was before they knew… live in the house, fix it, and then after two years, sell it so there wasn’t any capital gains.”

A Guide For New Believers by Dr T S Matherly

https://www.amazon.com/Guide-New-Believers-Dr-Matherly/dp/B0FXYCK545

Hebrews 5:13 states “For everyone who partakes only of milk is unskilled in the word of righteousness, for he is a babe.” (NKJV) II Peter 2:2 says, “As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby.”(KJV) This book highlights keys areas new believers should study so that a strong foundation of the basics of Christian living.

The ultimate goal of this books is to give guidance to new believers in our Lord Jesus Christ. This book requires looking up scripture and answering questions that will help the believer grow in his daily walk with the Lord. The book also encourages new believers to get involved in a Bible believing church so that they may grow up to be spiritually mature believers in Christ.