How Judging Others (and Yourself) is Sabotaging Your Decisions with Jessica Frew
Delanie Fischer chats with Jessica Frew, author of Shove Your Shoulds, about building confidence around decision-making. They dive into practical strategies for identifying and shifting out of “should” thinking, learning to make value-based decisions (big or small) more swiftly, and overcoming the overwhelm that can keep us stuck in indecision.
Episode Highlights:
How to Build Your Decision-Making Muscle
Identifying Your Daily “Shoulds”
Looking for “Proof” vs. Trusting Your Gut
When to Stay or Leave a Situation
7 Practical Tips for Getting Decisive
Why Judging Others Is Hurting You Most
The 1 Small Decision To Make When Overwhelmed
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Stop Asking Yourself the Wrong Questions: How to Unlock Deeper Fulfillment with Elliott Connie: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/365204fb/stop-asking-yourself-the-wrong-questions-how-to-unlock-deeper-fulfillment-with-elliott-connie
Release Your Perfectionism Handbrake: Power Planning, Clean Rest, and Demystifying Procrastination with Sam Laura Brown: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22e1c287/release-your-perfectionism-handbrake-power-planning-clean-rest-and-demystifying-procrastination-with-sam-laura-brown
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The Lost Secrets of Civilization: Ancient Innovation and Forgotten Wisdom with Jack R. Bialik
Delanie Fischer chats with Jack R. Bialik, technologist and author of Lost in Time: Our Forgotten and Vanishing Knowledge, to explore the mind-bending question: If only a fraction of history is recorded, what has been lost that we're rediscovering—and what has been lost forever? From ancient medical breakthroughs to engineering feats that outperform our modern technology, this episode dives into the forgotten brilliance of past civilizations, the cycles of destruction, and what these revelations mean for us as a society and personally.
Episode Highlights:
The Process and Efficacy of Cranial and Cataract Surgery as Early as 800 BC
2010 BC Swords That Are Still Sharp (Plus a New, Old Discovery)
An Ancient Battery, Roman Vending Machine, and Superior Concrete
Disposal and Sanitation Solutions That Rival and Surpass Modern Systems
How Do We Know If We’re Interpreting Artifacts Correctly?
The Secrets of the Pyramids: Calculations and Construction Theories
The Cycle of Destruction and What Could Wipe Out Modern Knowledge
What Knowledge of Ours Might Survive a Civilizational Collapse?
Wise Practices to Reclaim for Sustainable Living and Preservation
What's Stood the Test of Time: Materials, Tools, and Concepts That Endure
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AI, Robotics, and The Future of Work and Life with Dr. Catie Cuan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2458ba1f/ai-robotics-and-the-future-of-work-and-life-with-dr-catie-cuan
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Adult Friendships: How to Start, Nurture, and When to Let Go with Dr. Joy Berkheimer
Delanie Fischer chats with licensed therapist and relationship specialist, Dr. Joy Berkheimer, about the challenges and rewards of adult friendships. Dr. Joy shares practical strategies for finding new friends as an adult, building trust, navigating conflict, and knowing when it’s time to let a friendship go — all while honoring your own capacity, interests, and boundaries.
Discussed in this episode:
Find Your Purpose, Find Your People
Clarify Desire & Capacity: Close Friend or a Casual One?
7 Ways to Make New Friends as an Adult
3 Apps That Help You Build Aligned Friendships
Effective Conversation Skills for New Friendships
When "Letting It Fizzle" Doesn't Work
Friendship Breakups: Talking vs. Blocking
Let’s Talk About the Term “Best Friend”
Setting New Boundaries in Old Friendships
Friendship Takes Many Forms: The Remarkable Life of Ibelin
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It’s Not a Mental Health Crisis: Human Reactions to a Loneliness Epidemic with Dr. Jody Carrington
Delanie Fischer chats with psychologist Dr. Jody Carrington—flipping the narrative of “we’re in a mental health crisis." They explore the loneliness epidemic sweeping our generation, even amid unprecedented access to people and information. They unpack record levels of burnout, the real dangers of disconnection (including life-threatening consequences), and how our society (not our minds) is often the problem. Dr. Jody shares practical tools for emotional regulation, fostering authentic interactions, and reconnecting with the best parts of ourselves—and why nothing can replace the power of in-person connection in a hyper-digital world.
Discussed in this episode:
A Jaw-Dropping Parenting Stat From Our Great-Grandparents’ Era
#1 Skill Every Kid and Adult Needs To Learn For Consistent Wellbeing
Hidden Cost of Lost Proximity (and How to Get it Back)
The 4-Minute Challenge That Exposes Your Capacity for Connection
Why “Boys Don’t Cry” Culture Must End For Good
The Greatest Predictor and Habit of Mental Wellness Today
The Difference Between Being Alone vs. Being Lonely
What If It’s Not Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, or Autism?
What’s Behind The 2006 & 2009 Decline in Mental Health
Does Your Daily Routine Reduce Cortisol or Heighten It?
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Heal Your Gut, Change Your Life: Insights on Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD), Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), Crohn’s, Ulcerative Colitis & Everyday Digestive Issues with Dane Johnson
Delanie Fischer chats with Dane Johnson, founder of CrohnsColitisLifestyle and Board-Certified Nutritionist, who specializes in supporting people with Crohn’s disease and Ulcerative Colitis. They explore the factors that contribute to IBD, IBS, Crohn’s, and Colitis, practical ways to take control of your health and environment, and how to step away from the “culture of fake.” Dane also shares his life-threatening experience with Crohn’s and the strategies he used to reverse his symptoms without medication or surgery. Whether you have one of these conditions or simply want to elevate your health, there are 50+ actionable takeaways from this episode.
Discussed in this episode:
Navigating Conflicting Health Info (and Becoming Your Own Sherlock Holmes)
3 Areas of Focus for Creating Your Healing Home
What To Audit in Your Bedroom for Optimal Sleep
Made Lifestyle Changes but Still Unwell? Try This Next
What’s Really in Your Peanut Butter and How It Impacts Your Gut
2 Book Recommendations for Understanding Toxins & Mold
This Could Help Clear Your Skin and Reverse Acne
Why You Might Be Exhausted — and Why Coffee Isn’t Working
You Don’t Need To Eliminate, Swap! (+ Product Tips)
4 Questions To Ask Before Trying Something New
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Welcome to self-care with a conscience - where science, spirituality, and sustainability are brunch buddies. Self-Helpless explores all things on the cutting edge of personal and collective growth with leading specialists who share paradigm-shifting insights every week. Hosted by Delanie Fischer, who's recognized by listeners for her casual but fluff-free approach, Self-Helpless has been described as if Rich Roll and Rainn Wilson had a much less eloquent (but also pretty fun) podcast baby.
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