If you find yourself spiralling into anxiety — overanalysing a text, catastrophising worst-case scenarios, or feeling like your nervous system is in overdrive — this episode is for you.Today we’re talking about how to stop the anxious spiral before it takes over. I’ll walk you through what actually happens in your body and mind during a spiral, why it makes so much sense if you struggle with anxious attachment, and what you can do to interrupt that cycle in the moment. I’ll also share some longer-term strategies for building resilience and emotional regulation so these spirals become less frequent and less intense over time.We’ll cover:What triggers the anxious spiral and how it gains momentumSimple tools to calm your system and regain perspectiveWhy nervous system regulation is essential to breaking the patternHow self-worth plays a role in stopping spirals before they startWhether you’re in the thick of anxiety right now or want to feel more in control next time it hits, I hope this episode leaves you feeling more grounded, compassionate, and empowered.Highlighted Links Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website
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#189: Why Anxiously Attached People Struggle with Jealousy
Jealousy is one of the most common—and most shamed—experiences for people with anxious attachment. In this episode, we’re exploring where jealousy really comes from, how it manifests in relationships, and why it makes so much sense through the lens of self-worth and attachment wounding.I share personal reflections from my own journey with jealousy, alongside insights to help you understand your patterns with more compassion and clarity. Whether you obsessively compare yourself to others, feel threatened by your partner’s past, or find yourself spinning out when you don’t feel like a priority, this episode will help you start untangling the deeper fears driving those reactions.We’ll cover:Why jealousy is often a symptom of deeper insecurity and low self-worthThe difference between jealousy and envy — and why both show up for anxiously attached peopleCommon behaviours (like social media stalking or reassurance-seeking) and why they don’t actually soothe your fearsWhat to do when jealousy arises — and why shame only makes it worseWhy building self-worth is the most powerful antidote to chronic jealousySign up for the 28-Day Secure Self ChallengeHighlighted Links Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website
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#188: When Your Relationship Feels Stuck (& What to Do About It)
Feeling stuck in your relationship? Like things are off, disconnected, or just… heavy? You're not alone. Relationship ruts are common — and they're often more about what's bleeding into the relationship (stress, burnout, life overload) than about the relationship itself.For those in anxious-avoidant dynamics, these ruts can feel especially charged. The anxious partner often wants to fix it, while the avoidant may feel overwhelmed or pressured — leading to even more distance.In this episode, I share 3 powerful shifts to help you move out of a rut and back into connection:Shift your focus to what is working — Appreciation and warmth go further than criticism.Reconnect through something light — Play, fun, and novelty can do what words sometimes can’t.Tend to your own world — Reclaim your centre so the relationship doesn’t carry the full weight of your wellbeing.Highlighted Links Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website
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#187: Is It Better to Heal While Single or in a Relationship?
Whether you’re single or partnered, you might find yourself wondering: Am I in the right place to do this work? There’s often an unspoken belief that there’s a “best” time to heal — and that if we’re not doing it in the ideal conditions, we’re doing it wrong.In this episode, I’ll explore:The advantages and limitations of healing while singleWhy being in a relationship can accelerate your growth (but only under the right conditions)How emotional safety plays a key role in healingWhy the question itself might be coming from a place of fear, shame, or comparisonHow to work with whatever season you're in and meet yourself thereWhether you're currently dating, in a relationship, or consciously taking space from romantic connection — this conversation will help you better understand the unique opportunities (and challenges) each path offers.Highlighted Links Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website
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#186: When Life Hasn't Gone to Plan
We all have visions for how we thought life would unfold — timelines we hoped to follow, milestones we expected to reach. So what happens when life doesn't go to plan?In today’s episode, I’m speaking to those moments of disappointment, grief, and disorientation that come when our reality looks nothing like we’d imagined. Whether it’s relationships, career, family, or a more intangible sense of where you “should” be by now — it’s easy to spiral into self-blame, shame, or despair when life veers off course.We’ll explore:Why unmet timelines can stir such deep emotion and shameThe hidden comparison traps that make us feel like we’re falling behindHow to hold space for grief without collapsing into hopelessnessThe difference between giving up and gently letting goWhat it looks like to reimagine your path from a place of self-trust and compassionIf you’re navigating a chapter that looks wildly different from what you’d hoped or planned — I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone.Highlighted Links Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website
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