Why You’re Mismatched in Bed: The 4 Erotic Personas (and How to Sync)
Send us a textEver feel like you and your partner just aren’t speaking the same sexual language? You’re not “broken,” you might just be mismatched. In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I sit down with Nicholas Velotta, Head of Relationship Research at Arya and PhD researcher at the University of Washington, to unpack the Erotic Persona Framework—the 4 sexual archetypes that explain why routine sex fizzles, why desire misfires, and how to finally sync with your partner.We cover:🔑 The 4 Erotic Personas—Romantic, Director, Adventurer, and Connector—and what actually turns each one on.❌ The real reason routine sex kills desire (hint: it’s not frequency).💡 How to spot mismatches before they wreck your connection.❤️ Practical ways to bridge differences and reignite passion—tonight.This isn’t another tired take on “low vs. high desire.” It’s a brand-new framework backed by research that will change how you see yourself—and your partner—in bed.👉 Take the Erotic Persona quiz here: https://bit.ly/4n85sPTFind me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/Join me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talksexwithannette🎧 Check out my Youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette.You can find my spicy site here. htUse code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!
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The #1 Oral Sex Mistake Men Make (And How To Fix It)
Send us a textMost men think oral sex is about fancy tongue tricks or lasting as long as possible. But here’s the truth: the #1 mistake isn’t about your technique — it’s about what you’re missing.In this episode, I break down: ✨ The biggest oral sex mistake men make (and why it ruins connection) ✨ Common myths that sabotage you — like the dreaded “lizard flick” move 🦎 ✨ How to use your mouth and your hands together (with consent) to actually tune into her body ✨ What her body is telling you — from subtle shifts in breath to changes you can feel with your fingers ✨ Why stopping cold after she climaxes kills the vibe — and how to create a big, unforgettable finish insteadThis is about learning the psychology, rhythm, and presence that make oral intimacy unforgettable. If you’ve ever wondered why your partner doesn’t seem fully satisfied — or how to finally get this right — this episode is for you.👉 Hit subscribe for more sex and intimacy guides that are safe, science-backed, and designed to transform your bedroom confidence.Follow Me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/Find me on Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@talksexwithannette🎧 Prefer Video? Check out my Youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!
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Dismissive-Avoidant in Bed: Why They Pull Away (and What Actually Works)
Send us a textIf they finish… then shut down, this episode is for you. Today we break down dismissive-avoidant attachment in the bedroom—why someone can crave the physical but avoid the intimate—and what actually works to make connection (and foreplay/aftercare) easier.I’m joined by Dr. Sam Zand, holistic psychiatrist, Chief Medical Officer at Better U, and founder of Anywhere Clinic. We cover:How dismissive-avoidant shows up in flirting, foreplay, sex, and aftercareWhy intensity ≠ intimacy (and the “walls up after sex” moment)Common patterns: control kinks, porn/solo focus, skipping aftercare, substance-aided intimacyNervous system basics: safety, arousal, orgasm, and freeze responsesTangible tools both partners can use tonight: eye contact, breath syncing, clear aftercare scripts, and “safe-to-connect” micro-habits🎧 Prefer Video? Check out my Youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!
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Gentle FemDOM 101: 5 Steps to Domination He Secretly Craves
Send us a textFemDom doesn’t have to be scary, it can be soft, playful, and insanely hot.In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down 5 simple steps to Gentle FemDom, so you can explore dominance without latex, whips, or dungeon vibes. Because real FemDom is about confidence, not costumes. What you’ll learn:The body language shift that makes you instantly more commandingHow to use your voice to turn requests into irresistible commandsSimple touch and rituals that make your partner crave your leadWhy praise and aftercare are the real secret weapons of dominanceIf you’ve been curious about FemDom or just want to shake up your sex life, this episode gives you the tools to lead with confidence—and make your partner melt.You can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!
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Butt Stuff 101: The Beginner’s Guide to Pleasure (Without the Awkwardness)
Send us a textCurious about butt stuff but don’t know where to start? You’re not alone. In this beginner-friendly guide, I sit down with Tim Lagman, certified sex educator and host of Sex Ed With Tim, to break down how to make backdoor play fun, safe, and yes—seriously pleasurable.Together we cover: ✅ How to warm up the right way ✅ What lube + toys make it easy and enjoyable ✅ Tips to keep things sexy (not awkward) ✅ How to let go of shame and actually enjoy itThis isn’t about porn myths—it’s about real pleasure, confidence, and connection. Whether you’re curious or ready to dive in, you’ll leave knowing exactly how to do it right.ou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!
Talk Sex with Annette Where desire meets disruption—and pleasure becomes power. Hosted by sex and intimacy coach Annette Benedetti, Talk Sex with Annette is the go-to podcast for bold, unfiltered conversations at the intersection of sexuality, identity, and empowerment. From kink to connection, self-love to sexual healing, Annette dives into the topics most people are too afraid to touch—with expert guests, raw storytelling, and a feminist lens that challenges shame and reclaims pleasure. Think smart, sexy, and radically real: this is the cultural conversation around sex that’s long overdue.
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