Why 50% of Marriages Fail: The Performance Problem
In this revealing episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz tackle the hidden baggage that can make or break relationships. With divorce rates climbing above 50%, they share the critical questions you must ask before committing your life to someone.The couple dives into relationship templates and patterns, revealing how your upbringing shapes your expectations in love. They explore the difference between healthy disagreement and toxic manipulation, offering practical tools to spot red flags early.Carl and Laura also address the overuse of "narcissism" as a relationship buzzword, providing clinical insight into what true narcissistic behavior actually looks like versus normal selfishness or addiction-related patterns.From money conversations to compatibility, they share the essential discussions every couple needs to have—and why waiting until after marriage might be too late.This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who's ever wondered why their relationships keep following the same destructive patterns, offering hope and practical wisdom for building something better.Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/ Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/Sponsored by BetterHelp https://www.betterhelp.com/lightson for 10% off of your first month. Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbarss.com Supported by Plana https://plana.org/As always, we appreciate you lights on listeners.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Is It Possible To Get Over Church Hurt?
In this powerful episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down with longtime friend Andrew Simila for a raw, vulnerable conversation about healing after church hurt. The two reflect on their years of ministry at Hillsong, the fallout that followed, and the emotional wreckage left behind.Andrew opens up about the personal cost of staying loyal, the silence that followed the scandal, and the hard work it took to rebuild from rock bottom. Carl shares how one unexpected phone call with Andrew became the turning point in his own healing journey.Together, they explore what it really means to forgive, grow, and show up healthier than before—not for anyone else, but for yourself.This episode of Lights On is a gripping reminder that restoration is possible, but only if you’re willing to do the work.Chapter Markers:00:00 - The Impact of Church Hurt 07:55 - Restoration Is Possible — But It Takes Work 15:30 - How Coaching Triggered a Healing Journey 23:06 - Trying to Rebuild Life After Hillsong 30:20 - Comfort vs. Growth: The Coaching Mindset 38:30 - What 'Church Hurt' Really Means 45:12 - The Real Work Behind Reconciliation 52:06 - Victim Mentality vs. Ownership 59:27 - How to Rewrite Your Story 1:06:57 - Digging Deep to Heal for Real GrowthSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Every couple should have THIS fight
Your experience is real—but is it the whole truth? In this episode of Lights On, Laura and I unpack how to honor what you've been through without letting it hijack your future. We talk about healing, empathy, church hurt, relationships, and why holding your experience with humility might be the most powerful thing you can do right now.This one's honest, unfiltered, and necessary. Let’s keep getting better—together.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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God Chose Me - The Message That Transformed My Life with Charles Metcalf
Charles Metcalf joins Carl Lentz to talk about untouchable confidence, overcoming shame, and what it means to believe God chose you. This raw, hope-filled conversation will challenge your perspective on yourself and your purpose.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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You’re Not Lazy—You Just Need Purpose | Conversation With Cody Jefferson
In this episode, Cody Jefferson and I keep it real—talking about healing, mindset shifts, and what it actually takes to get unstuck. If you're tired of surface-level fixes and ready for real transformation, this one’s for you. We dive into inner work, truth, accountability, and living with purpose. No fluff. Just an honest conversation that’ll push you to take action today. Let’s go. #lightson See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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