Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur

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"I've lost myself." Maybe you've thought it in the supermarket, the car park, or your own kitchen. This episode is the question nobody has asked you.
"I've lost myself." Maybe you've thought it in your own kitchen at 9.47 on a Wednesday morning, holding a cup of tea you don't remember making. You walk upstairs to find something and forget what you came for. Something in you has been quietly slipping for a while.

You're intelligent. You're capable. You've read the books. You've done the therapy. Maybe the coaching. Maybe the courses, the retreats, the breath work, the parts work. You know your patterns. And you still cannot make yourself move forward the way you used to.

You're probably wondering what is wrong with you. But that's the wrong question.

In this first episode of the show's new era, Dr. Amen Kaur introduces the question that actually matters. Not "what is wrong with me" but "who is in charge of my life right now?" Because the Self at the centre of your intelligence system has stepped back from the seat, and your thinking mind has stepped in to cover. It cannot. Not because you are not clever enough. Because thinking was never designed to run the whole system.

Drawing on the work of Manos Tsakiris at Royal Holloway, Antonio Damasio's research on the Self as an integrator, Sarah Garfinkel and Hugo Critchley on interoception, Eckhart Tolle, and Bessel van der Kolk's neuroimaging findings on trauma and the brain, this episode names what has been happening under the surface and offers one small practice you can carry for the week.

THIS EPISODE COVERS:
Why the woman you used to be feels out of reach, and what is actually happening underneath
The Self as an integrator, not a place in the brain (Tsakiris, Damasio)
The sun and the rays: a new way to understand your intelligence system
The Einstein principle applied to your overthinking
The part of you currently in charge is not your enemy. It is scared.
One question to carry with you every day for the next seven days

This is the first episode of the show's new era. If you have been listening for a while, welcome back. If you are new, welcome. What we do here is return, not reinvention.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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Something in you keeps saying no. And you don't know why. This episode names it.
Eight to ten weeks after a loss,  a redundancy, job loss, relationship, or life shift of any kind, something changes. Moving forward isn't working, even when you're doing everything right. You might have offers. You can't say yes. Something deeper is asking to be heard.
This episode is for high-achieving professional women who can't move forward,  whether it was a redundancy, career transition, being pushed out of a role, or a shift that happened years before and still hasn't shifted inside.
In this episode Dr Amen Kaur covers:
Why losing your job feels like losing yourself 
The science of identity and belonging 
The neuroscience of belonging: why the nervous system treats job loss as physical threat 
Baumeister and Leary's landmark research on belonging as a fundamental human need 
Why women in senior leadership experience greater loneliness and why that matters here
 The freeze response (Polyvagal Theory, Stephen Porges), what it is and why you're stuck in it 
Why borrowed belonging always has a ceiling and what that means for high achievers 
The difference between fitting in and belonging and why you've been doing the first 
Where the belonging you've been searching for actually lives 
Why nothing you've tried - therapy, coaching, mindset work, has been able to reach this
Keywords: redundancy recovery, job loss identity, women career transition, nervous system regulation, belonging and identity, loss of self after redundancy, high achieving women burnout, freeze response career, polyvagal theory women, identity collapse redundancy, female leadership loneliness, career identity crisis, nervous system and belonging, human intelligence framework, BEYOND podcast
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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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You have done the coaching, the therapy. Read the books. Done the mindset work. You know your patterns better than anyone.
And you are still stuck.
This is the episode that explains why. And it is not what you think.
In this episode Dr. Amen Kaur, Human Intelligence Architect and founder of BEYOND - breaks down the real reason so many driven, self-aware women cannot move forward no matter what they try. Drawing on the research of Dr Bessel van der Kolk, Dr Joe Dispenza, Professor Stephen Porges and Dr Peter Levine, she explains why the answer is not in your mindset, not in your strategy, and not in anything your thinking mind can reach.
You will discover:
Why Dr Bessel van der Kolk's research shows your patterns are stored in your body, not your mind
Why Dr Joe Dispenza says 95% of who you are by 35 is unconscious programming your thinking mind cannot override
Why nervous system regulation - the work of Professor Stephen Porges,  is the missing piece every coach and therapist has skipped
The one shift that changes everything  and what you can do today
This episode is for you if you have ever thought - I know exactly what I need to do. I just cannot make myself do it.
You are not the problem. And this episode will show you why.
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Topics: nervous system regulation, behaviour change, self sabotage, stuck patterns, identity transformation, women leadership, human intelligence, body stores trauma, why therapy isn't enough, mindset not enough, Dr Bessel van der Kolk, Dr Joe Dispenza, Stephen Porges, Peter Levine, somatic healing, success ceiling, women success
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A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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Artificial intelligence is advancing faster than most people ever expected.
But the real question may not be whether machines become smarter.
The real question is this:
Are humans and especially our world leaders - humane enough to guide the intelligence we are creating?
In this episode, we explore the deeper issue behind many of the challenges facing the world today. As AI accelerates and global systems shift, the real challenge may not be technology itself - but the level of human intelligence guiding it.
Many people today feel overwhelmed by uncertainty, complexity, and constant change. We are more informed than ever before, yet many of us feel increasingly disconnected, reactive, and trapped in overthinking.
Why?
Because for generations we have been trained to rely primarily on cognitive intelligence - the ability to analyse, process information, and think logically.
But in a world where AI can process information faster than any human ever could, cognition alone is no longer enough.
This episode introduces the idea of Human Intelligence - a holistic form of intelligence that integrates:
• Nervous system intelligence
• Emotional intelligence
• Intuitive intelligence
• Cognitive intelligence
When these forms of intelligence work together, we are able to move beyond survival-based thinking and begin making decisions that create long-term value, wiser leadership, and more humane systems.
We also explore a deeper personal insight: that much of what we chase in life - success, recognition, achievement - may actually be a search for something far more fundamental.
The desire to exist, to matter, and to experience being truly alive.
In a world shaped by artificial intelligence, the future may not belong to those who simply think faster - but to those who develop the deeper intelligence required to guide humanity forward.
In this episode you’ll learn:
Why cognitive intelligence alone is no longer enough in the age of AI
How nervous system regulation affects decision-making and leadership
Why many intelligent people feel overwhelmed or stuck today
The four forms of intelligence that create Human Intelligence
How developing human intelligence can help you navigate uncertainty and make wiser long-term decisions
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A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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Why do you feel stuck right when you’re ready for more?
Self-sabotage isn’t what you think. If you keep holding yourself back at the edge of growth, expansion, visibility, or success, it’s not laziness, lack of confidence, or lack of discipline. It’s your nervous system responding to uncertainty.
In this episode with Dr Amen Kaur we break down the neuroscience and psychology of self-sabotage, fear of success, and subconscious blocks. You’ll learn why growth triggers internal resistance, how uncertainty activates protective patterns in the brain, and why feeling stuck is often a sign you’re about to expand.
We explore:
The neuroscience behind self-sabotage and self-doubt
Why high-achieving women hit identity ceilings
How uncertainty creates subconscious resistance
The link between emotional regulation and success
Why discipline alone won’t break growth blocks
How to rewire your nervous system for expansion
If you’re navigating an identity shift, craving more visibility, wealth, leadership, or impact - but keep feeling stuck - this episode will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface.
You don’t need more willpower.
 You need nervous system safety.
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Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework

A walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.

Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclass

About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

Learn more at amenkaur.com/about

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.