56. Our Home: The Love, Work, and Heart of Family
What if one simple shift could end the exhausting cycle of being your family's unpaid manager—while raising kids who actually want to help?I know you're tired. Not just physically tired from doing everything yourself, but emotionally exhausted from being the only one who notices the overflowing trash, the dirty dishes, the chaos that somehow becomes your responsibility to fix.You're tired of being the household CEO while everyone else gets to be employees who clock out. You manage the mental load, remember what needs doing, delegate tasks, and then still end up doing half of it yourself because it's easier than the battle.You're tired of feeling like a broken record—asking, reminding, nagging, negotiating. "Can you please put your dishes away?" becomes a daily drama. Getting anyone to pitch in feels like pulling teeth, and you start to wonder: "Am I raising future adults who will expect their partners to be their personal assistants?"The guilt hits hard too. You love your kids desperately, but you fantasize about having just five minutes to yourself without someone needing something. You want to connect with them, but you're too busy managing their lives to actually enjoy them.Sound familiar? You're not alone in this struggle, and more importantly—it doesn't have to be this way.Imagine if household tasks became natural collaboration time where you actually connect with your children, instead of resentful solo work that keeps you from them.Imagine if your partner and kids saw the work of caring for your home as shared responsibility, not "mom's job" they occasionally assist with.Imagine if you could raise children who become the kind of partners who notice what needs doing and do it—without being asked.This isn't fantasy. During my conversation with family systems expert Lori Sugarman-Li, she reveals exactly how families across the country are making this shift. Not through stricter rules or bigger consequences, but by changing something much simpler: the energy and language around how families care for each other.Her own teenagers voluntarily fold laundry and vacuum—not because they have to, but because they understand their role in creating the home they want to live in. No nagging required.The secret? It starts with one conversation that most families never have. And once you hear how to facilitate it, you'll wonder why no one taught you this years ago.Ready to stop being your family's unpaid manager and start building the cooperative household you've been dreaming of? Listen to this episode now to discover the exact framework that's transforming exhausted parents into connected families.To learn more about Lori Sugarman-Li’s work:https://ourhomeourpride.com/https://www.instagram.com/ourhomeourpride/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
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