Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care

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Question: My partner and I parent really differently, especially with our adopted child. I’m more focused on connection and understanding behavior, and my partner is much more strict and consequences-focused. We keep arguing about discipline and routines, and honestly, it’s starting to hurt our relationship too. How do we stop fighting about parenting and work better together?
Resources:
Prioritizing Your Marriage in Adoption, Foster Care, or Kinship Care
When Your Child's Trauma Impacts Your Marriage
Self-Care Isn't Selfish
Related Podcasts:
Strategies for Maintaining a Healthy Marriage or Partnership While Raising Adopted, Foster, or Relative Children
When Parenting Feels Uneven: Helping Your Partner Step In
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Navigating special education can feel overwhelming—but you don’t have to do it alone. In this episode, we’re joined by Paula J. Yost, a licensed clinical mental health therapist, special education advocate, lawyer, educator, and author who breaks down IEPs, 504 plans, evaluations, and how to effectively advocate for your child.
In this episode, we discuss:
What led you to focus on helping families navigate the special education system?
For parents and caregivers who may be feeling overwhelmed, confused, or even intimidated by this process, what would you want them to know right at the beginning?
Is there a preferred or more respectful language we should be using—special education, exceptional children education, or something else?
What are the key laws that govern special education in the United States?FAPE
IDEA

What are some of the most common acronyms parents & caregivers will encounter, and what do they mean?IEPs
504 plans
LRE
SDI
OHI

What are some early signs that a child might need additional support or an educational assessment?
How does trauma impact a child’s ability to learn and show up in the classroom?
What are the first steps a parent or caregiver should take if they believe their child needs to be evaluated?
What is involved in an educational assessment, and what should families expect from that process?
Once a child is evaluated, how do families understand the results and translate them into meaningful support?
Can you explain the difference between an IEP and a 504 plan in terms of the support and accommodations they include?
What kinds of accommodations or supports should parents and caregivers be aware of that they can request in an IEP or 504 plan?
What are some common mistakes or misconceptions parents have when entering this process?
What rights do foster or kinship parents have when it comes to requesting evaluations and services?
Are foster or kinship parents allowed to attend IEP or 504 meetings, and what role can they play in those discussions?
How can foster or kinship parents support a child with learning differences or disabilities at home, to reinforce what is being done at school?
What should parents do if they feel the school isn’t providing adequate support or following through on a plan?
For families just beginning this journey, what are a few practical first steps they can take this week to start advocating for their child?
What message of encouragement or reassurance would you like to leave with parents and caregivers who are walking this path?
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Question: My child is in upper elementary school, and we’ve been together for a while, but they still keep me at arm’s length. What are some concrete things I can do now to help build a more secure attachment?
Resources:
Establishing Secure Attachment with Your New Foster or Adopted Tween or Teen
Understanding and Improving Parent-Child Attachment
The Power of Curiosity: Helping Kids Feel Safe to Grow
Understanding How Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs) Help Kids Thrive
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What should you consider when preparing to become a host family to a child who is eligible for international adoption? We talk with Misty Lucas, an International Program Director at Gladney Center for Adoption. 
In this episode, we talk about:
For listeners new to this topic, what is a child hosting program, and what are the goals of hosting today? 
How have hosting programs changed in recent years, especially around ethics and child welfare practices? 
What types of children most commonly participate in hosting programs (ages, sibling groups, common needs, etc.)? 
Are children typically already eligible for adoption before participating?
What does it look like to be a host family?
What types of families tend to thrive in hosting programs
What does it mean to advocate for a child during hosting?
What signs may suggest a family is not ready?
What kind of screening, training, and preparation do host families typically complete?
How much information do families usually receive about a child beforehand?
How should families prepare the children already living in their home?
Are there special considerations for families whose children already have trauma histories or who were adopted themselves?
Why is it so important for host families to understand trauma before hosting?
How does trauma commonly show up during hosting, especially in a short-term environment?
What behaviors or emotional responses should families realistically expect?
What are common mistakes well-intentioned host families make?
Hosting programs can raise strong criticisms and concerns. What are the most common criticisms or misunderstandings about hosting?
How do ethical programs work to reduce a child’s feelings of being “chosen” or evaluated?
How are children prepared emotionally before they travel?
How do programs and host families work to avoid creating false hope for children?
What does a typical hosting session look like? How long, what to do, etc.
What activities and support should host families expect during hosting?
What financial realities should families understand before committing?
Can families host even if they are unsure about adoption?
If a family decides they want to pursue adoption, what typically happens next?What does that process and timeline often look like?

What is emotionally difficult for families after a child returns home while adoption decisions are pending?
Are the children made aware of a potential adoption plan once hosting is over? 
What does a successful hosting experience look like from the child’s perspective?
What’s one thing you hope every prospective host family understands before beginning? 
Resources:
Gladney Center for Adoption, Hosting Program
Hosting Package from CreatingaFamilyEd.org
Is Our Family Right for an “Orphan” Hosting Program? 7 Questions to Ask
Prepare for Hosting an International Orphan 
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Question: We have applied to adopt a baby. We’re more or less being told that if we don’t agree to an open adoption, we’ll never get chosen by a birth mom. But, I really don’t want an open adoption. I think kids need just one mom and dad and opening up our family to others will just be confusing for everyone. But, I’m afraid that we’ll never get chosen if I say this.
Resources:
Open Adoption (Resource page)
Listening to Adoptee Voices
Understanding the Birth Parents’ Experience
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