Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care

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Question: We’re getting close to adopting our foster child, and I keep worrying there are things we should be asking for before finalization that we don’t even know to request. What information or records should we make sure to get from the agency so we truly understand our child’s history and needs?
Resources:
23 Crucial Questions to Ask at Foster Care Placement Meetings
Are You Considering Foster Care Adoption This Year?
Adopting a Child of a Different Race or Culture
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Many parents raising adopted, foster, or kinship children feel like they’re carrying most of the parenting load alone. Talking about it and changing it can be hard. In this episode, Josh Davis, PhD, shares practical, non-blaming strategies to improve communication, build confidence, and create a stronger parenting partnership when raising kids from hard places. As Father's Day approaches, Josh also offers some downloads for Dads!
In this episode, we discuss:
How common is it for one person in a partnership or marriage to feel as if the parenting load is uneven?
How can we influence the relationship to invite our partners into a more balanced dynamic?
What are the common reasons partners step back instead of stepping in? 
What are some signs that maybe criticism—even subtle—is affecting our partner’s willingness to engage?
What do you mean by “lowering the barrier to involvement?”
How can we offer specific, doable examples to our partners without “telling them what to do?”
What scripts can we use, or what language, to invite partnership?
For parents/caregivers raising challenging kids who require a LOT of time, energy, emotional investment, etc., what are some helpful ways to stay emotionally connected and protect their marriage or partnership?
If a listener wants to take what they’ve learned here and invite their partner in to share the parenting load, what are one or two first steps to try? 
Resources:
Celebrating & Supporting Men in Foster & Kinship Care
Josh Davis, PhD  - www.joshdavisphd.com/www.joshdavisphd.com and www.nlpfordads.com 
Why Mentors are Crucial When Raising Relative Kids
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Question: Our daughter is 11 months old and was adopted through an open adoption. We have a relationship with her birth mother, but don't yet feel it's the right moment to ask about family history, and her birth father is completely unknown to us. We do know that both birth parents are Hispanic, but beyond that, we have no additional information about her heritage or background. We want her to grow up with as rich a sense of her identity and heritage as possible. What guidance do adoption professionals offer around using genetic testing like 23andMe or AncestryDNA for adoptees? Is there an age-appropriate time to do this, or is it better to wait and let her decide for herself when she's older? Are there any other considerations unique to the adoptee experience we should keep in mind?
Resources:
Genetic Testing for Adoptees: Key Considerations and Benefits
Genetic Testing for Adoptees - Is It Worth It?
Genetic Testing and Genealogy for Adoptees
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We talk a lot about the child’s experience in foster care, but what is this experience like for the child’s birth parents? You may be surprised! Join our conversation with Dr. Darcey Merritt, a professor at the University of Chicago School of Social Work who researches this topic.
In this episode, we discuss:
What is a typical scenario, if there is such a thing, of how a parent finds themselves connecting with the child welfare system?
What rights do birth parents have within the system?
What are some of the challenges families face before the child is taken into custody?
What are some of the challenges that they face once the child is in foster care?
How can you become an ally to the child’s parents?
How does poverty factor in?
Who most commonly reports birth parents to child welfare?
How does race factor in?
Research in the area of working memory on parental decision-making.
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Question: We’re new foster parents and have noticed that our child is hiding food in their backpack, closet, and even under the bed. We make sure there’s always plenty to eat, so we’re confused and a little concerned. Is this something we should be worried about? Why might they be doing this, and how should we respond in a way that helps them feel safe?
Resources:
Practical Solutions to Typical Food Issues with Adopted, Foster, & Kinship Kids
Physical and Emotional Health Issues Common with Foster Kids
Panel of Parents Adopting Older Kids: Surviving That 1st Year
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