Awesome Marriage Podcast

• One-Sided Love: How to Fight for Your Marriage When Your Spouse Won’t Ep. 695

  Nancy and I are back together to discuss a topic that frequently shows up in our inbox: one-sided marriages. These are spouses who reach out because, even in the midst of disconnect and hurt, they still desire a healthy, God-honoring marriage, but feel like they’re the only one who cares or the only one willing to put in the work. How do you reconcile and reconnect? That’s the focus of our conversation today. I’m praying this episode encourages those who feel alone and offers hope and next steps for fighting for your marriage.   Episode Highlights: Love like Christ without enabling. Communicate with curiosity, not accusation. Persevere in prayer and faithful action. Seek God’s glory above all else   Quotes from Today’s Episode: Fighting for your marriage as a Christian means pursuing Christ-like love even when it's not reciprocated This isn't about becoming a doormat or enabling destructive behavior, but rather embodying the gospel in your relationship. Approach with curiosity rather than accusation: "I've noticed you seem really tired lately. How can I support you?"  Continue showing love through actions without demanding emotional reciprocation. Don't take the bait to defend yourself constantly or prove your spouse wrong—this keeps you stuck in an unhealthy cycle. But remember, you can't force insight or repentance—that's between them and God. Humility doesn't mean accepting mistreatment or pretending everything is fine. Your humble confidence in who God created you to be can actually challenge your spouse to rise up rather than settle. Standing in the gap means interceding in prayer, maintaining hope when your spouse has lost it, and continuing to live out your marriage vows even when they're not. The goal is always God's glory and following His heart, which deeply desires reconciliation.  Couples’ Conversation Guide: How connected do you feel to your spouse on a scale of 1-10? Do you feel like you are trying to shoulder the burden of your marriage alone? Are there unhealthy patterns in your marriage that need to be addressed?  Are there areas of your marriage that you’ve settled for mediocrity or disconnect?    Mentioned in this Episode: Find Awesome Marriage on Instagram! Money issues don’t have to be an issue for your marriage. Check out this free course from Centsei. 4 Budgeting Mistakes Couples Make + How To Fix Them FREE Class 💸  Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Need some encouragement to keep fighting for your marriage? You’ll love this FREE YouVersion plan: Fighting for Your Marriage If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our 28 Fill in the Blank Thank You Note Prompts  

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• Addiction, Sanctification, and the God Who Heals: Wider Lens with Jonathon M. Seidl

  It's week two of Wider Lens. This week, Jonathon shares his story of recognizing his addiction, confronting the root causes beneath it, and finding freedom through Christ. From misordered priorities to the hidden struggles many Christians face, this conversation explores recovery, sanctification, and the hope that healing is possible. We are praying that this episode encourages you to reflect, reprioritize and hold tightly to the hope of Jesus!   Episode Highlights: Understanding addiction as a spectrum allows for earlier intervention and support. Acknowledging one's addiction is the first step towards healing and transformation. True recovery requires deep honesty and accountability beyond surface-level admissions. Embracing those with messy sanctification stories fosters healing and growth.  Identifying and correcting disordered priorities is crucial for recovery. Quotes from Today’s Episode: Part of what kept me in a disordered relationship with alcohol is what the devil uses “I don’t look or act like what I think an alcoholic looks like.” - J. Seidl Radical vulnerability, when you start practicing it, it's contagious and the devil hates it. -J. Seidl Anything that is misordered is disordered.-J. Seidl The mommy wine juice culture, mommy needs this to be mommy, right? It's become accepted.-J. Seidl I finally was able to stop drinking when I stopped trying to stop drinking. When I shot for Jesus, I got sobriety thrown in.-J. Seidl If you don’t get to the root of those, it’s just going to be something else. -J. Seidl Jesus is always going to meet us there. He's not going to let us down.- Dr. Kim I was ultimately addicted to escapism. -J. Seidl The muscle memory was forged and formed at a very young age. -J. Seidl A Wider Lens: Questions for Self Reflection What habits or priorities in my life might be “good things” that I’ve elevated above God, and how are they shaping my heart? Where might I be numbing pain or avoiding deeper heart work instead of bringing it honestly before the Lord? What step of accountability, surrender, or fellowship could I take this week to move closer to freedom and wholeness in Christ? Mentioned in this Episode: Find Jonathon on Instagram Buy Confessions of a Christian Alcoholic Check out his other books. Dr. Kim is on Substack. Dr. Kim goes broader than just marriage. You can get wisdom, personal stories, and godly encouragement from him weekly. Sign up today!  

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• Our Marriage is Struggling, But My Spouse Thinks Everything’s Fine Ep. 694

  Every marriage goes through seasons where spouses see the health of their relationship differently. Our unique physical needs, emotional capacities, and family backgrounds shape the expectations we bring into marriage and the ways we handle conflict. If you’re in a season where you feel unheard or disconnected, this episode offers practical ways to pursue your spouse, tools for having the hard conversations, and encouragement to take ownership of your part in the struggle. Most importantly, it will remind you that God cares deeply about you and your marriage, and you can trust Him to guide and protect it.   Episode Highlights: Each spouse has different emotional needs and brings different emotional baggage into a marriage.  It’s important to approach the content spouse with grace. Men and women have different relational needs.  Just because you don’t talk about, or acknowledge issues, doesn’t mean they will just go away. Even if you feel lonely and isolated and unheard in your marriage, you can trust the Lord with your heart.    Quotes from Today’s Episode: Some people have a higher tolerance for dysfunction or distance in relationships. Couples may be sharing responsibilities without sharing their hearts. Sometimes the content spouse is suppressing their emotions.  Acknowledging your part opens up the door for real conversation. It’s ok to feel angry or frustrated, but don’t let that cause you to sin. You're responsible for learning to manage your emotions. A healthy marriage requires two people who are both willing to grow. Timing and approach are everything. Scripture should be a guide not a weapon.    Couples’ Conversation Guide: How do you rate the health of your marriage right now? What do you think your spouse would rate your marriage? (If you don’t know, ask them!) How safe do you feel to be vulnerable in your marriage?  What do you think your spouse would rate how safe they feel in your marriage? (If you don’t know, ask them!) How can you show your spouse that their feelings matter to you, even when you don’t understand them? Can you identify an unhealthy pattern or rhythm in your marriage? What one positive step can you take toward changing that pattern or rhythm together? This week’s challenge: Write your spouse a letter and share something you’ve had a hard time communicating in the past. Mentioned in this Episode: Find Awesome Marriage on Instagram! A unified family mission can help the work/ family balance. Check out our 10 Christian Family Mission Statements.  Help your children write God’s Word on their hearts with our FREE 11 Bible Verses For Kids to Memorize Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. If work seems to take priority over your marriage, you’ll love this FREE YouVersion plan: Boundaries in Marriage If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our Raising Faithful Kids in a Cancel Culture.

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• How God is For You When All Seems Against You-Rich Lessons from the Life of Jesus with Joshua Ryan Butler

  The next four Fridays I’m getting the opportunity to go a little broader than the topic of marriage and interview some incredible men who are authors, leaders, and strong men of faith. To kick it off, we are interviewing Mr. Joshua Ryan Butler to discuss his new book. God is on Your Side: How Jesus is for You When Everything Seems Against You.  In this episode, we explore what it really means to receive from Jesus instead of striving on our own. From the healing at the pool in John 5 to the picture of Barabbas’ pardon, we talk about how the gospel frees us from self-sufficiency, restores us in our failures, and feeds us when we feel empty. Together we wrestle with why we resist His help, how to cultivate spiritual hunger in a distracted world, and what it looks like to let Jesus shepherd us through shame, wounds, and wilderness seasons. It’s my prayer that this episode encourages you to believe God is on your side.   Episode Highlights: The Lord’s love is a freely given love. Earthly relationships may feel transactional, but God offers freedom from the burden of that. Our God is accessible and He wants to redeem the broken parts of our lives.    Quotes from Today’s Episode: "God is on your side, particularly when it most feels like life is against you." - Josh Ryan Butler "Before I called you to use you, I called you to love you." - Josh Ryan Butler "In the darkest moments, I found God ministering to me through His word and Spirit." - Josh Ryan Butler "Jesus calls himself the bread of life, and the only requirement to come is that you're hungry and thirsty." - Josh Ryan Butler "Our deepest hunger is meant to drive us towards God first and foremost." - Josh Ryan Butler "God's no to our sin is embedded within His bigger yes to who we are created to be." - Josh Ryan Butler We live in a culture where everybody is rewarded for what they do, and it's hard to believe that God just loves us." - Dr. Kim "It's almost like it's too good to be true, but it is true." - Dr. Kim Go Deeper: Are there parts of your life or your heart you feel like you need to keep hidden from the Lord? When’s the last time you felt lonely or alone? Are there places in your life you’re denying restoration because you’re stuck in the cycle of shame?   Mentioned in this Episode: Find Joshua Ryan Butler on Instagram. Buy his book: God is on Your Side: How Jesus is for You When Everything Seems Against You Dr. Kim is on Substack. Dr. Kim goes broader than just marriage. You can get wisdom, personal stories, and godly encouragement from him weekly. Sign up today!

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• Everything is Never Enough with Bobby Jamieson Ep. 693

  Are you truly satisfied, or always chasing more? This week we sit down with author Bobby Jamieson to talk about his book Everything Is Never Enough and the wisdom of Ecclesiastes. We’ll unpack why your spouse can’t be your joy, your job can’t be your purpose, and your family can’t give ultimate meaning. Real joy comes only from God; the giver, sustainer, and comforter. Anything else leaves us empty. Our hope is this conversation points you back to the only source who satisfies.   Episode Highlights: We are searching the world for a satisfaction that only comes from Him. It’s a crushing weight to expect our spouse to meet needs that only the Lord can meet. Desiring happiness and trying to create it will never work.  A life of ease doesn’t equal a life of joy.  Marriage is a gift to be nurtured. It’s daily decisions to care for, to provide for, to invest in your marriage.    Quotes from Today’s Episode: Happiness is a byproduct. If you just try to chase happiness directly, you're not really gonna get it. The world leaves us wanting. That eternity in our hearts is ultimately a longing for God. Only He can satisfy. Only He can fill our hearts. We are often tempted to seek that total good from our spouse. If you bring that expectation to your husband or wife, you will crush them. A lot of the joy of marriage arises as your laboring, as your communicating, as your toiling together.  If you view all of life as a gift of God then you can give up that need for control. Marriage a whole lot of daily little kindnesses.  Couples’ Conversation Guide: When’s the last time you thanked God for your spouse?  Where do you find it difficult to enjoy your “lot”? When you consider your spouse, do you consider the fact they are a “gift” from the Lord?  What’s one way you can serve your spouse today?   Mentioned in this Episode: You need a copy of Everything is Never Enough: Ecclesiastes' Surprising Path to Resilient Happiness Find Awesome Marriage on Instagram Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Have you believed the lied that marriage should be your source of happiness? 5 Marriage Lies to Defeat with Biblical Truths is the reading plan for you. If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our Raising Faithful Kids in a Cancel Culture.  

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