Awesome Marriage Podcast

Today, Dr. Kim is joined by his bride, Mrs. Nancy, to talk about the freedom that comes from allowing yourself, your spouse, and your marriage to have a bad day without making it something bigger than it is. They share how they navigate the hard days, avoid the spiral of negative thoughts, and bounce back with grace and compassion toward one another. Your marriage is a gift—be encouraged to let bad days simply be days without letting them erode your view of your marriage.
 
Episode Highlights:
Everyone has bad days.
Early warning signs that you're starting to spiral.
The danger of turning your spouse into your opponent.
The Lord has seen you through bad days in the past, be encouraged He can do it again this time.
The powerful role grace plays when your spouse has little to give.
See how our marriages are the textbooks for our children to learn from for their future marriages.

 
Quotes from this Episode:
When I try to force something and Nancy isn't ready, it's not going to go well.
In everything you have to realize you're still on the same team. So, how can you help your spouse?
The problem is the opponent. Satan rejoices when we are fighting, when we are angry with one another. -Mrs. Nancy
Satan hates marriage. He hates christian marriages. He loves to destroy them.
Every marriage can be a witness for the Lord. 
Being a role model for your kids, being the text book on marriage that your children need is a huge responsibility. 
Sometimes you have to dig down deep and find that love for your spouse. You don't have to feel it all the time, but remember that it's there. - Mrs. Nancy
Once I learned to get past myself and get past my pride, and start giving you grace, it was a great feeling. -Mrs. Nancy
Be vulnerable enough to say "I don't have much to give." Then as a spouse, "what can I do to help you." Just that is a step forward in growing your marriage. 
Take whatever is bothering you and give it to the Lord. As a christian you are forgiven anyway! - Mrs. Nancy
Worrying about your marriage shows you care about it. Showing up for counseling means you care about your marriage. 
Don't compare your marriage to someone else's by what they post on Facebook.



Time to Talk About It:
How are we viewing our marriage right now? 
Think about the last time we had a "bad day" in our marriage. What helped us move past it, and how can we remember to do that again next time?
What helps each of us reset after a hard moment or a tense day—space, reassurance, prayer, a conversation, or something else?
What is one simple way we could extend more grace to each other the next time one of us is having a bad day?
 
Mentioned in This Episode:
Awesome Marriage is on Instagram!

Make sure you're checking in with your spouse every week with our FREE Weekly Marriage Check in Guide!

Your words, your tone, your attitude- they all matter in how your spouse hears you and how connected your marriage feels. Check out our new devotional: Cut the Criticism and Cultivate Companionship in Marriage

Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Have negative thoughts about your spouse slowly replaced the positive ones? You need to start Mind Craft: Take Your Thoughts Captive to Transform Your Marriage today!

If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com ! 

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What if your marriage isn't falling apart, but just missing a key insight? In this powerful conversation, we explore "Light Bulb Moments"- the sudden realizations that can transform a relationship almost instantly. Emerson Eggerichs, author of Light Bulb Moments in Marriage and the bestselling Love and Respect, shares how couples who feel miles apart are often just inches away from breakthrough. You'll learn how understanding gender differences, taking responsibility for your responses, and applying a faith-centered perspective can lead to deeper connection and lasting change.
 
Episode Takeaways:
Your response is your responsibility, and you don't have to wait for your spouse to change first.
Gender roles shape how we respond when marriage gets tough. 
Small insights and honest apologies create space for connection, healing, and leadership at home.
Love and respect are different, but both matter.
 
Quotes from this Episode:
Sometimes we feel miles apart in marriage, but in reality, we're just inches away from understanding each other- Emerson Eggerichs
When we expect our spouse to heal and complete us, we set ourselves up for disappointment; only God can fill that space.- Dr. Kim
Don't confuse silence for a lack of love.-Emerson Eggerichs
Behind every marital conflict are two good-willed people simply missing each other's signals—not enemies, just different shades of right.- Emerson Eggerichs
Apologizing isn't about taking the blame for everything—it's about sincerely owning your part, even if it's just 10%. Leave self-justification behind.- Emerson Eggerichs
No one can make you hate. You are always free to choose how you respond—claim that freedom.-Emerson Eggerichs
 
Take Time to Talk About it:
What's been your biggest "light bulb moment" in marriage?
Where have you shifted your focus from short-term fixes to eternal impact?
Think back to your last marital conflict, where could you/ should you have owned your response in a way that honors your marriage better?



Mentioned in This Episode:
Learn more about Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his ministry Love and Respect

Get your copy of Lightbulb Moments in Marriage 

Awesome Marriage is on Instagram!

Make sure you're checking in with your spouse every week with our FREE Weekly Marriage Check in Guide!

Your words, your tone, your attitude- they all matter in how your spouse hears you and how connected your marriage feels. Check out our new devotional: Cut the Criticism and Cultivate Companionship in Marriage

Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Want to strengthen your marriage connection and overcome challenges? Check out Deep Waters, Deeper Love: Marriage Lessons from Jonah by Dr. Kim. 

If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com ! 

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We are quick to label selfish or defensive behavior as "narcissism," but what if the issue runs deeper than personality? In this episode, we explore how disordered desires, our need for control, comfort, or validation, shape the way we relate to others and quietly erode connection.
This conversation unpacks the difference between healthy self-awareness and self-absorption, why freedom begins when we stop defending ourselves, and how real change doesn't come from trying harder—but from surrendering deeper. You'll be challenged to look beneath behavior and consider what your heart is truly after.
If you're tired of surface-level fixes and ready for lasting transformation, this episode invites you to step out of self-protection and into humility, empathy, and freedom.



Episode Takeaways:
What we often label as narcissism or selfishness is rooted deeper than personality. It flows from disordered desires and a heart that wants control, comfort, or validation more than connection.
Healthy self-awareness leads to growth, humility, and empathy. Self-absorption does the opposite , it narrows our world until everything revolves around us and what we want.
Freedom starts when we stop defending ourselves.
Change doesn't come from trying harder, but surrendering deeper.

 
Quotes from this Episode:
"Selfishness doesn't start with what we do — it starts with what we want most."


"Narcissism isn't always loud or arrogant; sometimes it's quiet, defensive, and deeply fragile."


"You can't out-behave a heart problem — transformation always starts inside."


"The more we focus on protecting ourselves, the less capable we are of loving others."


"Growth happens when we stop asking, 'How does this affect me?' and start asking, 'How did this affect you?'"


"Humility isn't thinking less of yourself — it's thinking of yourself less."


"God isn't after better versions of us; He's after surrendered hearts."




Take Time to Talk About It:
Where do you notice selfishness showing up most in your relationships — words, reactions, expectations, or silence?


How can you tell the difference between healthy self-care and self-centeredness in your own life?


What might change if you stopped defending yourself and started listening with curiosity instead?
 
Mentioned in this Episode:
Awesome Marriage is on Instagram!

Make sure you're checking in with your spouse every week with our FREE Weekly Marriage Check in Guide!

Your words, your tone, your attitude- they all matter in how your spouse hears you and how connected your marriage feels. Check out our new devotional: Cut the Criticism and Cultivate Companionship in Marriage

Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Want to fight off the cultural pull toward discontentment in marriage? Subscribe to our 5 Marriage Lies to Defeat with Biblical Truth reading plan.

If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !

Blended families are beautiful—but they're also complex. When two lives, two histories, and often two sets of kids come together, figuring out what "family" looks like can feel overwhelming. From divided loyalties and differing parenting styles to navigating ex-spouses, finances, and faith, blended families face unique challenges that many couples aren't prepared for.
In this episode, we're joined by Ron Deal, director of FamilyLife Blended and author of The Smart Stepfamily. Ron shares practical wisdom, biblical insight, and deep encouragement for couples navigating stepfamily life. We talk about earning influence before exercising authority, managing divided loyalties, setting realistic expectations, and protecting your marriage while building unity in your home.
Whether you're part of a blended family or love someone who is, this conversation offers real hope, grace-filled guidance, and a reminder that healthy blended families are built over time—on purpose, and with God at the center.



Episode Takeaways:
Blended families are not repairs of biological families.
Creating a blended family involves new rules and dynamics.
Respect and communication are key.



Quotes from this Episode:
"You are not repairing a biological family structure. You are creating an entirely new blended family structure where the rules are different." -Ron Deal
"To be a great co-parent, you need to act divorced—respect your boundaries, let go of control, and focus on parenting your own way."- Ron Deal
"Stop pretending you have the right to influence your ex's choices. You can share your preferences respectfully, but after that, let go and parent your own way." - Ron Deal
"Your spouse is the most important adult relationship in your life—honor that allegiance, but never abandon your children." - Ron Deal
"You cannot demand love out of a child. That's something they decide on their time."- Ron Deal
"If you support the stepparent in front of your kids, if you are a team member in the parenting system, then your blended family has a chance." -Ron Deal
"You cannot have two parenting styles under one roof; blended families thrive when standards are more alike than different."- Ron Deal
 
Questions to Talk Through:
Where do we feel the most tension in our blended family right now—and how can we face it together instead of alone?


What is one way we can better support each other when parenting, scheduling, or outside relationships feel overwhelming?


What does "progress" look like for our family in this season, even if it doesn't look perfect yet?
 
Mentioned in this Episode:
Awesome Marriage is on Instagram!

Ron and Nan Deal wrote The Mindful Marriage- it's a MUST read for all couples.

Blended family? The Smart Stepfamily  needs to be your next read!
Check out more of what Ron is doing HERE.

Your words, your tone, your attitude- they all matter in how your spouse hears you. Check out our new devotional: Cut the Criticism and Cultivate Companionship

Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Caught in the trap of negativity towards your spouse? Start our Lord, Help my Critical Heart reading plan today.

If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !

In a world full of distractions and pressure to perform, how do we keep our identity rooted in Christ instead of our work?
In this episode, Dr. Kim sits down with long time friend, Terry Storch, to talk about leadership, stewardship, and the often unseen cost of carrying responsibility that affects others. From navigating pressure and seasons of life to holding the tension between efficiency and presence, this discussion explores where leadership ends and identity begins.
Be encouraged to establish healthy rhythms, protect what's sacred, and remain centered on Christ—remembering that the work will come and go, expectations will shift, and seasons will change, but all glory belongs to Him.
 
Episode Takeaways:
The "work" of life was never meant to give you value. Only our Creator can do that.
Accomplishments and achievements are driven by healthy rhythms.
The technology advancements create unique pressures and require adaptability.
Finding centeredness in a distracted world is essential for faith.
 
Quotes from this Episode:
"Life is a season of wilderness after wilderness because we're not in the garden yet."
"I want to be known for the small little things that I did for those people right around me."
"The need for centeredness, the need for Jesus, is more important now than ever."
"Technology, for the most part, is neutral, like money. It can be used for really good things and really bad things."
"The real story is the commitment to surrender and release, knowing it's not mine.
 
Take a Wider Look:
How do I define my identity beyond my accomplishments, and what steps can I take to focus more on who I am becoming?

In what ways might I be allowing the distractions of the world to pull me away from my core values or spiritual focus?

How can I separate my calling from my vocation, and what changes might I need to make to align my work with my deeper purpose?