According To B

Dating yourself doesn’t mean you’ve given up on love. It means you’ve decided to show up for your own life with intention. In this episode, lifestyle creator and podcaster Gugulethu Nyatsumba returns to the podcast for a grounded, honest conversation about what “dating yourself” really looks like beyond the quotes.
We explore:
The difference between being alone and living fully

Solo dates, confidence, and emotional independence

How your relationship with yourself shapes every other relationship

Dating yourself while still desiring partnership

If you’re learning how to enjoy your own company, build standards, and live with presence - this conversation is for you.
Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... 

✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰
Gugulethu
Gugulethu Nyatsumba popularly known as Sis G.U is a lifestyle content creator, podcaster, and digital storyteller known for her grounded presence and intentional approach to living. Through her platform, she shares reflections on faith, self-trust, solitude, and what it means to move through life at your own pace-without rushing to perform or impress.
Her content resonates because it feels honest, Gugu embodies a quiet confidence rooted in self-awareness and emotional maturity. She represents a generation of women redefining independence- not as isolation, but as security within oneself.
Through her work, she invites women to romanticise their own lives, embrace stillness, and trust that becoming is not something to rush.

✰ TIMESTAMPS✰
00:00 - Intro
02:27 - Meet Gugu
04:22 - The differences between Gugu in 2023 vs 2026
07:04 - Game: Toast or Ghost
14:15 - What the definition of dating herself is  for Gugu
18:18 - Relationship check
20:07 - Gugu on embodying how she can experience love on her own 
22:56 - Gugu's love language to herself 
26:25 - Gugu's favourite solo experiences
28:53 - Gugu on solo travel
35:13 - Gugu on being content single but still desiring partnership
37:04 - The impact of self-love on how Gugu approaches dating 
41:03 - Gugu on standing in her own way in relationships
41:37 - Gugu's advice for anyone who wants to choose themselves
45:48- Gugu receives her Breathe It In gift box
47:04- Outro

✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
Bokang
➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-  / https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang   
➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang-  https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang 
 
The B Word
➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za
➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza- https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za 

Guest
Gugulethu
➜ Instagram: @gugulethu_nyatsumba -https://www.instagram.com/gugulethu_nyatsumba 
➜TikTok: @gugulethu_nyatsumba-https://www.tiktok.com/@gugulethu_nyatsumba 

✰ LISTEN ON ✰ 
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=ad35431e1c1a474d 
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/according-to-b/id1686532135 
Castbox:https://castbox.fm/vh/5426930 

✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
E-mail: [email protected] 

✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰
Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi 
Production Assistant: Senamile Dlamini
Videography: Looped Pictures  
Post Production: Looped Pictures

This episode of According to B is brought to you in partnership with Bernini- South Africa’s only real spritzer made from wine.
The internet loves an It Girl-but what if the real flex is becoming the It Girl of your own life?
In this episode, I’m joined by fashion, travel, and lifestyle creator Lwandile Makhaza popularly known as (The Fruity Chapters) to reclaim the It Girl from the algorithm and bring her back home.
We unpack:
Style, taste, and intentional living

Health, routines, and discipline with softness

Confidence, visibility, and protecting your peace

Career, creativity, and defining success on your own terms

This isn’t about aesthetics - it’s about authorship.
Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... 

✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰
Lwandile
Lwandile Makhaza, widely known as The Fruity Chapters, is a South African lifestyle and fashion content creator, storyteller, and creative entrepreneur who has cultivated a distinctive voice in digital culture. Through a refined yet deeply personal lens, she shares reflections on style, self-trust, discipline, and what it means to intentionally curate a life that feels aligned rather than performative.
With an eye for aesthetics and a commitment to authenticity, Lwandile has built a community that resonates with her thoughtful approach to presence, confidence, and self-authorship. Her platform is not just about fashion or lifestyle-it’s about becoming. Becoming more grounded. More self-aware. More deliberate about the life you are building.

✰ TIMESTAMPS✰

00:00- Intro
01:19- About the conversation
02:27- Meet Lwandile
04:51- Game: Toast or Ghost
11:00- What an IT girl is to Lwandile & Bokang
14:23- Lwandile on how she deals with self-doubt
15:44- How Lwandile overcomes the fear of doing
16:31- Where Lwandile draws her inspiration from
20:13- What Lwandile's current style says about the season she is in
22:40- Biggest difference between pre 25 Lwandile and post 25 Lwandile
24:38- What pushed Lwandile to prioritize her health
32:22- Lwandile on being big on experiences
40:42- Career growth and success for Lwandile
45:48- How Lwandile deals with boundaries with work
48:25- The one way Lwandile is committing to showing up for herself in 2026 
50:53- Lwandile receives her Breathe It In gift box 
51:31- Outro

✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
Bokang
➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-  / https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang   
➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang-  https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang 
 
The B Word
➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za
➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza- https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za 

Guest

Lwandile
➜ Instagram: @thefruitychapters -https://www.instagram.com/thefruitychapters
➜TikTok: @thefruitychapters-https://www.tiktok.com/@thefruitychapters 

✰ LISTEN ON ✰ 

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=ad35431e1c1a474d 
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/bw/podcast/according-to-b/id1686532135 
Castbox:https://castbox.fm/vh/5426930 

✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
E-mail: [email protected] 

✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰
Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi 
Production Assistant: Seanmile Dlamini
Videography: Looped Pictures  
Post Production: Looped Pictures

This episode of According to B is brought to you in partnership with Bernini- the sparkling spritzer born from real wine. 
We live in a world that quietly teaches women to compete - over beauty, success, relationships, and even friendships. And sometimes, without realising it, that pressure seeps into the very relationships meant to hold us.

In this episode of According to B, we’re choosing something different.

I’m joined by best friends and Because We Said So podcast co-hosts Landzy Gama and Zama Marubelela (ZeeXOnline) for a deeply honest conversation about female friendship as refuge, grounding, and one of adulthood’s greatest love stories.
Together, we unpack:
How comparison and competition show up in women’s friendships

What female friendship teaches us about love and becoming

Navigating friendship breakups without villains

Why our friends often become the true witnesses to our lives

This conversation is an invitation to slow down, soften, and savour the relationships that let us be messy, honest, and fully ourselves.
Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... 

✰ MEET OUR CO-HOSTS ✰
Zama & Landzy
Landzy Gama and Zama Marubelele are best friends, Youtubers, content creators and the co-hosts of the podcast Because We Said So- a space beloved for its deeply relatable conversations about girlhood, friendship, love, and becoming. Known for their honesty, humour, and emotional openness, they’ve built a platform that feels like a safe place to land for women navigating adulthood in real time.
What truly sets Landzy and Zama apart is the bond they share and the way they show up for each other- with softness, accountability, and care. Through their work, they remind women that friendship can be grounding, expansive, and life-shaping, and that choosing each other in a world that encourages comparison is a powerful act. Their journey reflects the beauty of growing together, speaking openly, and allowing friendship to be one of life’s greatest love stories.

✰ TIMESTAMPS✰
00:00- Coming up
01:21- About the conversation
02:48- Meet Landzy & Zama
04:10- Landzy & Zama on vlogging vs podcasting
06:30- Game: Toast or Ghost
13:09- Landzy & Zama: The advice queens
13:59- Dilemma 1
23:52- Dilemma 2
27:51- What the end of a friendship has taught Landzy & Zama
31:55- What Landzy & Zama have learnt about themselves from each other
34:06- What friendship has given Landzy & Zama that romantic relationship hasn't
37:06- Advise to the girls that have experienced friendship hurt
39:54- Gifting Landzy & Zama their Breathe It In boxes
40:51- Outro

✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
Bokang
➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-  / sheisbokang   
➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang-  / sheisbokang   
 
The B Word
➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - / thebword_za   
➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza-  / thebword_za   

Guest
Zama
➜ Instagram: @zeexonline-https://www.instagram.com/zeexonline 
➜TikTok: @zeexonline- https://www.tiktok.com/@zeexonline 

Landzy
➜ Instagram: @landzygama-https://www.instagram.com/landzygama
➜TikTok: @landzygama- https://www.tiktok.com/@landzygama 

✰ LISTEN ON ✰ 
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...
Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...

✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
E-mail: [email protected] 

✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰
Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi 
Production Assistant: Seanmile Dlamini
Videography: Looped Pictures  
Post Production: Looped Pictures

This episode of According to B is brought to you in partnership with Bernini - the sparkling spritzer born from real wine. A drink made for the women who choose to celebrate with each other. ✨
So many women aren’t unhappy - they’re just on autopilot.Living lives they inherited, not ones they consciously chose.
In this episode of According to B, I sit down with Amahle “Jaxx” Jaxa to talk about what it really looks like to move from survival mode into intentional authorship: shaping your work, relationships, and identity around what you actually want.
Jaxx’s journey reminds us that choosing your life doesn’t always mean burning it all down. Sometimes it’s about editing with honesty, courage, and self-trust and giving yourself permission to become again and again.
This episode forms part of the According to B x Bernini “Breathe It In” series - conversations centred on presence, reflection, and choosing life on your own terms.
Watch, reflect, and join the conversation in the comments.
Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su... 

✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰
Amahle Jaxa
Amahle “Jaxx” Jaxa is a media personality, cultural commentator, and creative entrepreneur who has become one of South Africa’s most compelling voices in digital media. Known for her sharp insight, wit, and ability to make complex social and political conversations feel accessible, Jaxx has built a platform rooted in honesty, relevance, and cultural awareness.
From shaping influential spaces in nightlife and events to stepping into her own as a trusted commentator and host, Jaxx’s journey reflects courage, reinvention, and intentional authorship. She is committed to encouraging women to think critically, trust themselves, and take up space boldly-proving that clarity, curiosity, and conviction can coexist with authenticity and warmth.

✰ TIMESTAMPS✰
00:00 - Coming Up
01:00 - Introducing the Breathe It In series
02:33: - Meet Jaxx
05:33 - Game: Toast or Ghost
19:12 - Jaxx on authorship & autonomy
22:54 - The year  Jaxx chose to change her life 
29:36 - Jaxx’s truth on dealing with imposte syndrome
31:45: - Jaxx’s advice for someone feeling stuck or stagnant
36:06: - Bokang and Jaxx talk navigating the 30’s
42:52 - Life categories: Jaxx’s picks
50:42 - Gifting Jaxx her Breathe It In basket
52:02- Outro

✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
Bokang
➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-  / sheisbokang   
➜ Tik Tok:@sheisbokang-  / sheisbokang   
 
The B Word
➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - / thebword_za   
➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza-  / thebword_za   
Guest

Jaxx
➜ Instagram: @jaxxofalltrades_sa-https://www.instagram.com/jaxxofalltrades_sa
➜TikTok: @jaxxofalltrades_sa- https://www.tiktok.com/@jaxxofalltrades_sa

✰ LISTEN ON ✰ 
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...
Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...

✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
E-mail: [email protected] 

✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰
Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi 
Production Assistant: Seanmile Dlamini
Videography: Looped Pictures  
Post Production: Looped Pictures

➜ Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su...

✰ ABOUT ✰
This one is close to my heart. In this episode, I sit down with two of my closest friends, Maliaka and Tshegetso, for a real and honest conversation about what friendship looks like in adulthood- the beautiful, the hard, and the in-between. 
We grew up watching rom-coms where the “best friend” character always had it all figured out, but real life doesn’t look like that. Between work, money, growing responsibilities, and trying to show up for ourselves, friendship can start to feel… complicated.
So, we decided to talk about it–the distance that sometimes creeps in, the moments we’ve drifted, and the ways we’re learning to hold space for each other now that life isn’t as simple as it used to be.
We also dive into:
Why friendship feels harder as we get older.

 The difference between drifting apart and simply growing up.

 How money can shift the dynamic between friends.

What showing up looks like in this season of our lives.

Why sisterhood still matters-maybe now more than ever.

✰ TIMESTAMPS✰
00:00 - Coming Up
00:43 - The best friend character in rom coms
03:36 - Introducing Maliaka & Tshegetso
05:27 - The girls meet cute stories 
10:47 - Dilemma 1: Why is friendship so hard?
12:38 -The challenges’s of friendship now vs in the early 20’s
20:28 - Maliaka & Tshegetso’s response to the dilemma
27:34 - What the girls miss about friendship then vs what they value now
32:29 - Dilemma 2: When money changes friendship.
33:38 - Maliaka and Tshegetso’s response to the dilemma
41:30 - How necessary is it to be transparent about finances with friends?
49:21 -The title and genre of the movie that Maliaka & Tshegetso are casting Bokang in
52:23 - The post credit scene 
55:22 - Afterthoughts

✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
Bokang
➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang 
➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang 
 
The B Word
➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za 
➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za 

✰ LISTEN ON ✰ 
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...
Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...

✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
E-mail: [email protected] 

✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰
Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi 
Production Assistant: Denga Madzivhandila
Editor: Palesa Radebe