According To B

➜ Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su...✰ ABOUT ✰This one is close to my heart. In this episode, I sit down with two of my closest friends, Maliaka and Tshegetso, for a real and honest conversation about what friendship looks like in adulthood- the beautiful, the hard, and the in-between. We grew up watching rom-coms where the “best friend” character always had it all figured out, but real life doesn’t look like that. Between work, money, growing responsibilities, and trying to show up for ourselves, friendship can start to feel… complicated.So, we decided to talk about it–the distance that sometimes creeps in, the moments we’ve drifted, and the ways we’re learning to hold space for each other now that life isn’t as simple as it used to be.We also dive into:Why friendship feels harder as we get older. The difference between drifting apart and simply growing up. How money can shift the dynamic between friends.What showing up looks like in this season of our lives.Why sisterhood still matters-maybe now more than ever.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Coming Up00:43 - The best friend character in rom coms03:36 - Introducing Maliaka & Tshegetso05:27 - The girls meet cute stories 10:47 - Dilemma 1: Why is friendship so hard?12:38 -The challenges’s of friendship now vs in the early 20’s20:28 - Maliaka & Tshegetso’s response to the dilemma27:34 - What the girls miss about friendship then vs what they value now32:29 - Dilemma 2: When money changes friendship.33:38 - Maliaka and Tshegetso’s response to the dilemma41:30 - How necessary is it to be transparent about finances with friends?49:21 -The title and genre of the movie that Maliaka & Tshegetso are casting Bokang in52:23 - The post credit scene 55:22 - Afterthoughts✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang  The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: [email protected] ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Denga MadzivhandilaEditor: Palesa Radebe

➜ Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su...✰ ABOUT ✰In this powerful episode of According to B, Bokang sits down with Mpoomy Ledwaba to unpack what it really means to step into your main character energy in career, love, and life.From career pivots to redefining what “having it all” means, Mpoomy’s story is heartfelt and deeply relatable. Together, Bokang and Mpoomy dive into the lessons, leaps, and mindset shifts that come with choosing yourself boldly, even when life doesn’t follow a straight script.What you’ll hear in this episode:Embracing career pivots and nonlinear pathsBalancing ambition with love, family, and wellbeingBreaking out of “supporting role” expectations placed on womenRedefining success on your own termsListener dilemmas on career, starting over, and relationshipsHow to give yourself permission to rewrite your storyThis conversation will leave you inspired to trust your own journey, embrace your boldness, and script your next chapter with intention.✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰Mpoomy Ledwaba is a creative entrepreneur, podcaster, speaker, wife, and mom who has become one of South Africa’s most influential voices on faith, purpose, and intentional living. Known for her honesty and warmth, she has built a career rooted in redefining success on her own terms  balancing ambition with love, family, and wellbeing.From boldly pursuing her passions, to growing her platform as a storyteller and businesswoman, Mpoomy’s journey reflects the beauty of nonlinear paths and bold pivots. She is committed to showing women that they don’t have to fit into traditional molds or “supporting roles”-they can lead, create, and thrive while still embracing softness and balance.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Coming Up00:58 - The Rom Com montage04:16 - Introducing Mpommy Ledwaba the main character05:35 - Mpoomy's career as a movie12:19 - Listeners dispatch:Career change uncertainty 16:19 - Mpoomy’s career pivots 20:34 - A lesson that Mpoomy learnt in the past that she applies today23:08 - Listeners Dispatch 2: Starting over without disappointing anyone30:17 - Giving yourself permission to outgrow a dream35:53 - Listeners Dispatch 3:Can I have it all?41:25 - How Mpoomy and her husband navigate their roles in their marriage46:13 - Closing credits 48:22 - The title of Mpoomy’s next chapter✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang  The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za GuestMpoomy➜ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/mpoomy_ledwaba ➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@mpoomyledwaba ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: [email protected] ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Moe SonnyVideographer & Editor: Palesa Radebe

➜ Subscribe to The B Word here: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBWord?su...✰ ABOUT ✰How do you give yourself permission to dream again? How do you stop playing small when it feels safer to shrink? And what does it look like to step into visibility not just in your career, but also in love?In this powerful episode, Tumelo Candice Sello (Formerly Candice Modiselle) returns to the podcast to unpack the mindset shifts, fears, and breakthroughs that come with embracing your main character energy and the accompanying mindset shift. Since her last appearance, Candice has stepped into a new chapter of life; she got married, deepened her walk in faith, and adopted a renewed mindset anchored in purpose. She shares what it looks like to release old versions of yourself, confront the fear of visibility, and boldly claim the life you know you’re meant to live. We dive into: The danger of waiting for permission vs. choosing yourself Playing small, self-sabotage & unlearning “it’s not possible for me” Moving from survival mode to possibility modeRedefining love as agency from waiting to be chosen to choosing yourselfThe turning points that help you step into your soft, bold, authentic lifeThis conversation is about reinvention, courage, and becoming the main character in your own story not tomorrow, not when everything is perfect, but right now.✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰Tumelo Candice Sello (formerly known as Candice Modiselle) is a creative entrepreneur, storyteller, and speaker whose journey embodies reinvention and bold authenticity. With a background spanning stage, screen, and business, Tumelo has become a trusted voice for women navigating visibility, purpose, and faith. Beyond her career, she is deeply passionate about conversations that empower others to shed fear, embrace growth, and step fully into who they are meant to be.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Coming Up01:11 - Rom com maincharacter breakdown03:36 - She’s bacckkkkkk04:26 - Check in05:42 - Genre check06:59 -The title of this season of Candice’s life08:06 - Candices top 3 characters in her life right now09:55 - The fatal flaw 13:19 - The difference between 20’s Candice and 30’s Candice19:30 - Listeners dispatch 1: The creative that shrinks herself/plays small21:08 - The ways in which Candice has played small23:23 - Candices response to the dilemma33:39 - Candices advice to someone who is afraid to start over 37:07 - How Candice is handling Tumelo Selo vs Candice Modiselle38:40 - Listeners Dispatch 2: Waiting to be chosen39:36 - Candices response to the dilemma47:54 - Candices past experience shrinking herself in romantic relationships51:25 - Healthy compromise vs settling 56:35 - Closing credits 57:59 - Post credits ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang  The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za GuestCandice➜ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/candicemodiselle ➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@candicemodiselle ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: [email protected] ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Videographer & Editor: Palesa Radebe

What would your life look like if it was the opening scene of a rom-com? For me, that question went from a fleeting thought to a full-on experiment. In this very first episode of According to B: Rom-Com Edition, I share how I decided to flip the script on my own life and start living with main character energy.From childhood weekends spent at the movies, to being raised on the glossy promises of early 2000s romantic comedies, I talk about the unrealistic expectations they planted in us and the reality check of what 30 actually looks like. Spoiler alert: no magazine corner office, no perfect meet-cute, just a lot of Netflix, Uber Eats, and scrolling LinkedIn.But then came the shift: what if the only thing standing between side character energy and leading lady energy was audacity? Inspired by the bold, sometimes delusional choices of rom-com heroines like Jenna Rink, Eva Dandridge, and Elle Woods - I decided to create my own plot twist. Thus, The Rom-Com Experiment was born.In this episode, I break down what it means to give yourself permission to dream again, why audacity is the bridge between who you are and who you want to be, and how to start taking those baby steps toward a life you don’t just love, but actually live.Plus, I share voice notes from you—the community—about your own rom-com opening scenes and audacious dreams, and we dive into lessons on romanticizing the everyday, saying yes to the scary stuff, and daring to believe in possibilities again.This is the start of a new chapter, not just for me, but for all of us. So grab your popcorn, your notebook, maybe even your favorite lip gloss, and let’s step into the role we were meant to play: the heroine of our own stories.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00 - Intro00:31 - How the world of movies and TV influenced my childhood01:21 - The early 2000’s rom com era 02:28 - Realistic check-in on my life05:02 - The active re-write of my life07:39 - The rom-com experiment10:51 - Having audacity 12:15 - Listener's dispatch 1: Dealing with disappointment 15:53 - Listener's dispatch 2: Finding the courage to take a leap18:03 - Listener's dispatch 3: The audacious creative entrepreneur18:47 - Listener's dispatch 4: Unapologetically bold21:49 - Follow my rom-com(ish) series on my personal social media 22:21 - Outro ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: [email protected]

In this episode of According to B, I sit down with Litha Meyile Choi—a South African-born content creator and influencer now based in South Korea—who shares her incredible story of starting over, boldly chasing her dreams, and building a new life from scratch.In the midst of unemployment Litha packed her bags and moved across the world to teach English in Korea. With no backup plan, no clear roadmap, and very little certainty, she chose to take the leap anyway. What followed was a journey of resilience, self-discovery, love, and bold reinvention.In this conversation, Litha shares what it really took to start over—from the fears and uncertainties to the faith that kept her going. She takes us through the highs and lows of:Leaving home and building a life in a completely new countryMaking a bold career pivot from teaching to full-time content creationNavigating love and identity in an intercultural relationshipGrowing her brand, working with global companies, and staying grounded in her purposeEmbracing discomfort, choosing herself, and redefining what it means to live boldlyIf you’ve ever felt stuck, scared to start over, or unsure of what’s next—this episode is your sign that the bold life is possible.✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰Litha Meyile Choi Litha is a content creator, digital storyteller, and former teacher who has built a thriving platform as a full-time influencer in South Korea. Originally from South Africa, Litha moved abroad in her early twenties with no clear plan—just a deep desire for change and growth. Since then, she has become a sought-after voice in the lifestyle and beauty space, known for her authenticity, elegance, and boldness. Whether she’s partnering with global brands, sharing her intercultural love story, or encouraging her audience to take risks and embrace reinvention, Litha brings warmth, relatability, and courage to everything she does.✰ TIMESTAMPS✰00:00-Intro00:35-Coming up02:10- Litha the waaaaaf03:12- 10 out of 10 recommend12:49-Bokang and Litha reflect on their post graduate aspirations14:04-Litha’s experience with a fortune teller15:13-Litha’s unemployment period 17:19-The moment Litha realized that her life needs to change22:47-The power of putting yourself out there24:25-Culture shocks Litha experienced27:26-How Litha built her community 29:02-Litha’s moments of regret/confidence in her choice to move 33:32-How Litha’s journey as a content creator started 35:44- Litha’s popular TikTok feature-make up Saturdays37:12-Litha’s dating journey in Korea43:45-How Litha met her husband 48:00-How Korean women navigate the dating scene49:31-Litha’s future in Korea52:07-Litha’s success as a South African content creator in Korea55:41-Litha’s advice the person in a dark place59:31-Afterthoughths✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰Bokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang  The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za GuestLitha➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lithameyilechoi➜TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@lithameyilechoi ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b...Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?...✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰E-mail: [email protected] ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰Director: Bokang LehlokoeProducer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Production Assistant: Denga MadzivhandilaEditor: Mbali Nzaka