#40 Why Your Husband Feels Like Another Child (And How to Stop It)
Do you ever feel like your husband is like another child? He disappears into the bathroom for 45 minutes right as dinner starts. Heads off golfing without thinking who's watching the kids. Leaves dirty socks for you to pick up like you're his personal maid. You're constantly picking up after him, reminding him of basic responsibilities, and wondering how someone who functions perfectly fine at work can suddenly become helpless at home. The frustration is real. The exhaustion is real. That nagging feeling that you're more like his mother than his wife? Also real. But what if I told you there's something happening in this dynamic that no one talks about? Something that might completely change how you see this entire situation? In this episode, I'm diving into the psychology behind why so many capable women feel like they're raising their husbands instead of partnering with them. And trust me—the real story behind this epidemic is not what you think. If you've ever felt like you're the only adult in your marriage, this one's for you. But prepare yourself: what you discover might surprise you more than you expect. 🔥 Ready to understand what's really happening in your marriage? Start with the free Marriage by Design masterclass: https://married-u.com/marriagebydesign 🔥 Want to explore the deeper dynamics at play? Check out Desire Lab: https://hifam.com/desirelab
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#39 Thinking of leaving your husband? Listen to this first - the truth no one will tell you
"Why do good women want to leave good men?" If you're married to someone who's loyal, faithful, and not abusive—but you sometimes find yourself thinking "maybe we're just not compatible" or "maybe it would be easier without him"—this question might hit closer to home than you'd like to admit. You're not alone in these thoughts. There's a growing trend of women in their late 30s and early 40s walking away from perfectly good marriages, and the reasons aren't what you'd expect. Not infidelity. Not abuse. Not addiction. Something else entirely. But what if these feelings aren't actually about him at all? In this video, I'm diving into the psychology behind this phenomenon—why capable, loving women start questioning solid relationships, and what's really driving these thoughts. Because there's something happening that no one's talking about, and it's affecting more marriages than we realize. But there is good news! Once you understand what's really going on, everything can change. This isn't a problem without a solution—it's a pattern that can be broken. If you've ever felt this way about a good man, or if you're curious about what's behind this trend, this episode will give you answers you didn't know you were looking for. 🔥 Ready to understand what's really happening in your marriage? Start with the free Marriage by Design masterclass at: https://married-u.com 🔥 Want to explore deeper connection and attraction? Check out Desire Lab: https://hifam.com/desirelab
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#38 How To Tell if Your Husband is a Narcissist?
“I think my husband’s a narcissist…” If you’ve whispered those words to yourself — in the dark, after another disconnected conversation, or mid-scroll through TikTok — this video is for you. We live in a culture quick to diagnose, quick to label, and even quicker to tell women to walk away. But what if the truth is more complex… and more hopeful? In this episode, I gently unravel the difference between a truly narcissistic partner — and one who is imperfect, avoidant, or simply different from you. I share the hard-earned truths I learned in my own marriage, and the lessons that thousands of women around the world are now living by. This is not about blame. It’s about clarity. It’s about reclaiming intimacy, polarity, and respect — with the partner you already have. 💡 Inside this episode, you’ll discover: • What real narcissism is — and why most husbands don’t have it • The subtle ways culture trains us to resent and reject our men • How emotional superiority can mask our own blind spots • The quiet power of feminine softness, desire, and accountability If you're longing for chemistry, attraction, and real partnership — without needing to fix or diagnose your husband — you’re in the right place. 🔥 Ready to go deeper into what's really affecting your marriage? Transform your relationship at: https://married-u.com/university 🔥 Want to rebuild genuine connection and attraction? Check out Desire Lab: https://hifam.com/desirelab ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: This message is not for women in abusive or dangerous relationships. If your partner is manipulative, emotionally unsafe, or displays signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), please seek professional support. You deserve peace and safety, not pressure to stay.
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#37 The Mental Load Moms Carry — and What to Do About It
"The mental load is crushing me." If you've ever felt this way—tracking every appointment, remembering every snack preference, carrying the invisible weight of running your household—you're not the only one! The internet is full of women sharing their exhaustion, their resentment, and their anger about shouldering this "unfair burden." But what if everything you've been told about the mental load is making your marriage worse, not better? In this video, I'm challenging the popular narrative that's turning normal adult responsibilities into a crisis. While TikTok coaches teach you to catalog every invisible task and demand your husband "open his eyes," I'll show you why this victim mindset is destroying the very thing you're trying to protect: your partnership. Discover why responsibility is actually a mental health protector (not a destroyer), how the "mental load crisis" dismisses the massive burdens men carry, and why reframing your perspective could transform your marriage from resentful roommates back into a loving team. The truth is, being needed isn't a burden—it's a privilege. And when you stop fighting against your strengths and start embracing them as gifts, everything changes. 🔥 Ready to transform your marriage from scorekeeping to true partnership? Join Married-U: https://married-u.com/university 🔥 Want to build a strong family culture that supports your marriage? Join the Studio: https://hifam.com/studio
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#36 Parenting is Political
What happens when parenting becomes a battlefield for something much bigger? You’ve probably felt it. Heard it. Maybe even argued about it. In this episode I explore what’s really going on beneath the surface — and why it matters more than ever. 👀 You might be surprised where the conversation leads. 🔥 Ready to stop parenting to political trends and start building the family culture you actually believe in? Join the Studio: https://hifam.com/studio
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