The Bird Brain Podcast

You're Not as Honest in Your Relationships as You ThinkWhat if being the strong one in your relationships isn't always about strength? What if it's also about control?In this episode of The Bird Brain Podcast, we're unpacking the hidden cost of being dependable, the expectations we unintentionally create, and how self-abandonment can disguise itself as loyalty, love, and being the person everyone can count on.Because here's something worth considering: *Your dependability can create a dependency, and that dependency can eventually become an expectation.*When you're always accommodating, always available, and always understanding, you may be participating in relationship dynamics that aren't nearly as honest or reciprocal as you believe.We'll explore the difference between being needed and being wanted, how we use our roles to maintain control, and why being the "good one" doesn't necessarily mean we're being honest with ourselves or others.Sometimes, the hardest part of changing your relationships is acknowledging how you've helped create the dynamics you're unhappy with. JOIN THE SELF-ABANDONMENT COHORTSelf-awareness is not self-action.If you're ready to explore the patterns keeping you stuck in cycles of overgiving, people-pleasing, resentment, or self-silencing, my upcoming 8-week group coaching experience is designed to help you turn awareness into action.
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Are you the villain—or are you so committed to being seen as good that you haven’t questioned how you show up?Sometimes we withhold the truth, avoid setting boundaries, and call it kindness. We say “I understand” while quietly building resentment. We keep the peace until maintaining it becomes somebody else’s responsibility.What happens to a relationship when looking like a good person becomes more important than practicing honesty, accountability, and care?In this episode, we’re talking about people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and the harm we can cause while trying to keep our “good person” identity intact.Ask yourself: Where am I choosing to be perceived as good at the expense of being truthful?👇 What has trying to be “the understanding one” cost you? Share what you’re comfortable sharing in the comments.I’m also developing an eight-week cohort around self-abandonment—how we lose ourselves in our relationships, and how we practice showing up without leaving ourselves behind. More on that soon.It’s just information.

It's never about the spilled milk... Sometimes the relationship has spoiled over time. Relationships - of all kind - exist and expire because of one thing: Repetition. How many times has something come up that wasn't repaired? How many bids for connection dismissed? How many important things forgotten. We talk a lot about intention but impact has it's place; And we can discover the true impact of our participation in our connections. I have limited open availability for 1:1 coaching. If there is one thing, or many, there's space to work through it. WORK WITH ME — OCTOBER CLARITY INTENSIVES 75 focused minutes around one specific issue you want clarity, strategy, or movement around.Relationships • Boundaries • Friendship • Self-worth • Difficult decisions • Repeating patterns$375 · limited spots available. Book Here: https://calendly.com/thebirdbrainwellness/clarity-intensive1:1 coaching program apply here : www.birdbrainwellness.com

WORK WITH ME — OCTOBER CLARITY INTENSIVES
75 focused minutes around one specific issue you want clarity, strategy, or movement around.
Relationships • Boundaries • Friendship • Self-worth • Difficult decisions • Repeating patterns
$375 · 8 spots available
https://calendly.com/thebirdbrainwellness/clarity-intensive

Relationships were never meant to be pie charts, but connection and intimacy have significant data points. And noticeable patterns.When the discussion arises about the "give and take" in our interpersonal relationships, there are some things worth keeping an eye on.

Most people get older, but not everyone grows up. And at some point, I think it’s important to recognize that relational negligence isn’t a biological trait assigned by gender as much as it is a societal disposition that can be taught. When it comes to friendship amongst men, stoicism can be saying the quiet part out loud. What do you desire from friendship that you might be afraid to actually ask for or give?