Sexology

Why can someone orgasm alone but not with a partner? In this episode, Anna Cordin shares her personal experience of faking orgasms for 30 years—and what changed when she experienced her first partnered orgasm at age 49.
Anna joins Dr. Nazanin Moali to discuss the pressure to perform during sex, difficulty staying present, and the importance of trust, emotional connection, and feeling safe enough to communicate honestly about pleasure. She explains how her relationship with her husband helped her let go of control, honor her authentic preferences, and stop pretending.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
• Why someone may be able to orgasm alone but not with a partner
• How sexual performance pressure can interfere with pleasure
• Why people fake orgasms in long-term relationships
• How trust and emotional connection can affect sexual presence
• What helped Anna experience partnered orgasm at 49
• How honest communication can strengthen sexual intimacy
• Why recognizing your authentic preferences matters
• How couples can begin rebuilding connection
About Anna Cordin:
Anna Cordin is a professional ballroom and Latin dance instructor and performer. Born into a family of musicians in Siberia, Russia, she developed an early passion for music, movement, and dance. After moving to the United States, she became a professional instructor with Fred Astaire Dance Studios and coached students who earned first-place finishes at prestigious competitions. In this episode, Anna shares her personal sexual story openly in the hope that other women will feel less alone.
About Dr. Nazanin Moali:
Dr. Nazanin Moali is a licensed psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, and host of the Sexology Podcast. She provides sex and relationship therapy in Hermosa Beach, the South Bay of Los Angeles, and online throughout California.
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n Episode 509 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali is joined by physician and longevity expert Dr. Jennifer Timmons to explain why erectile function can offer important clues about a man’s overall health.
Erections depend on healthy blood flow, nerve function, hormones, metabolism, sleep, and psychological well-being. When erectile function suddenly or persistently changes, it may be worth looking beyond age or performance anxiety. Dr. Timmons explains how cardiovascular disease, insulin resistance, weight, alcohol, stress, medications, and poor sleep can all affect erections and sexual desire.
We also examine why men may be too quick to blame low testosterone when their libido or sexual performance changes. Dr. Timmons explains what testosterone therapy may address, what it cannot fix, and why treating a laboratory number without understanding the larger health picture can be risky.
The conversation also explores erectile dysfunction treatments, sexual enhancement supplements, GLP-1 medications, and popular approaches to men’s sexual optimization. You will learn what is supported by evidence, what appears promising, and what may be overhyped or potentially unsafe.
In this episode, you will learn:
• What erection changes can reveal about cardiovascular health
• When erectile dysfunction may warrant a medical evaluation
• Why erection problems should not automatically be dismissed as aging
• How insulin resistance and metabolic health affect erections
• The connection between weight, blood flow, and sexual function
• How sleep, stress, alcohol, and medications affect sexual performance
• Whether low testosterone is always responsible for low libido
• What testosterone replacement therapy can and cannot address
• The potential risks of testosterone therapy
• How GLP-1 medications may influence libido and sexual health
• Which erectile dysfunction treatments have the strongest evidence
• The risks of unregulated sexual enhancement supplements
• What every man over 40 should monitor when his sexual function changes
• How sexual health can offer insight into healthspan and longevity
About Dr. Jennifer Timmons
Dr. Jennifer Timmons is a physician specializing in personalized wellness, disease prevention, and longevity medicine. She earned her medical degree from the University of Southern California and completed her Family Medicine residency training at the University of California, Los Angeles.
After more than a decade in primary care at UCLA Health in Manhattan Beach, Dr. Timmons founded Timmons Wellness to provide individualized, data-driven care. She also has advanced training in functional and integrative medicine, precision medicine, and longevity medicine.
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What do women actually want in bed, and why do so many couples misunderstand each other’s sexual needs?
In Episode 508 of the Sexology Podcast, Dr. Nazanin Moali is joined by gynecologist and sexual medicine specialist Dr. Maria Sophocles to explore the “bedroom gap,” the disconnect between what partners believe women want sexually and what women may actually experience.
Many couples can discuss money, parenting, work, and family but struggle to have an honest conversation about sex. Dr. Sophocles explains why these conversations feel so difficult and how silence, embarrassment, and cultural expectations can create unsatisfying sexual patterns in long-term relationships.
Together, they challenge common myths about penetration, orgasm, penis size, and what “good sex” is supposed to look like. They also examine how pornography and popular culture can shape unrealistic sexual expectations and leave couples focused on performance instead of mutual pleasure.
The conversation explores how menopause, hormonal changes, painful sex, and shifts in desire can affect intimacy. You will also learn how couples can communicate more openly, introduce novelty, redefine satisfying sex, and create sexual experiences centered on pleasure for both partners.
In this episode, you will learn:
• What the bedroom gap is and why it develops
• What women may actually want from sex and intimacy
• Why couples struggle to communicate about sexual needs
• How to discuss sex without blame, shame, or defensiveness
• Why penetration should not be treated as the main event
• How pornography shapes expectations about sex and orgasm
• Why penis size matters less than many people believe
• How to make sex more pleasure-focused and less performance-driven
• How menopause and hormonal changes can affect sexual desire
• Why sex may become painful during midlife
• How couples can bring novelty into long-term relationships
• Why mutual pleasure belongs at the center of sex education
About Dr. Maria Sophocles
Dr. Maria Sophocles is a board-certified gynecologist and sexual medicine specialist who has worked in women’s healthcare for nearly 30 years. She specializes in menopause management, female sexual health, painful sex, and helping women advocate for their health and sexual pleasure.
She is the founder of Women’s Healthcare of Princeton and a Menopause Society Certified Practitioner. Her TED Talk, “What Happens to Sex in Midlife? A Look at the Bedroom Gap,” has been viewed more than one million times. She is also the author of the forthcoming book The Bedroom Gap.
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Should you have sex when you’re not in the mood? You should never feel pressured or obligated to have sex, but you also may not need to wait for spontaneous desire before beginning to connect.
In this episode of the Sexology Podcast Caroline Hood joins Dr. Nazanin Moali to explain how responsive desire works and why sexual desire often changes in long-term relationships. They explore the important difference between being willing to become intimate and forcing yourself to have sex when you do not want to.
Caroline explains why some people experience desire only after affection, touch, or sexual stimulation begins. She also discusses how couples can schedule intimacy without making it feel obligatory, create the conditions that allow desire to grow, and communicate about sex without introducing pressure or rejection.
The conversation also explores sexuality after motherhood, the Madonna-whore narrative, emotional disconnection, and the importance of expanding our definition of what counts as sex. If you have been wondering why you are rarely “in the mood,” this episode offers a more compassionate way to understand your desire.
In this episode, you will learn:
• The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire
• Whether it is healthy to have sex when you are not initially in the mood
• Why sexual pressure and obligation reduce desire
• How to schedule sex without making it feel like another chore
• How couples can create more space for intimacy
• Why low desire does not always mean a lack of attraction
• How motherhood can affect sexuality and identity
• How the Madonna-whore narrative shapes women’s sexuality
• Why emotional connection matters for sexual desire
• How to communicate sexual needs without blame or pressure
• Why expanding your definition of sex can create more pleasure
• How fulfilling sexual experiences can help desire grow over time
About Caroline Hood
Caroline Hood is a writer and speaker exploring desire, intimacy, sex, play, and the cultural narratives surrounding long-term relationships. Her work combines humor, introspection, practical guidance, empowerment, and a little tough love.
Caroline challenges the assumption that sex inevitably becomes less satisfying over time. In Because I Want To, she encourages readers to reconnect with their desire, deepen intimacy, and build a more exciting and fulfilling sexual relationship.
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Why can trauma make you lose interest in sex, disconnect from your body, or freeze during intimacy? In this episode of the Sexology Podcast, somatic instructor Liz Tenuto, also known as The Workout Witch, explains how trauma affects the nervous system, sexual desire, pleasure, and our ability to feel safe in the body.
Liz shares her personal journey of living with PTSD, chronic pain, sleep difficulties, and the long-term effects of trauma. She explains how gentle somatic exercises and small, intentional movements may help reduce habitual tension, regulate the nervous system, and rebuild a sense of safety and connection with the body.
We also explore the fawn and freeze responses during sex, why anxiety can be mistaken for a lack of desire, and how trauma survivors can begin reconnecting with sexual sensation without forcing themselves to move faster than their bodies are ready for.
Liz opens up about healing after an abusive marriage, coming out, and discovering her sexuality later in life. She shares how becoming more connected to her body helped her understand what she genuinely wanted from relationships, sex, and intimacy.
In this episode, you will learn:
How trauma can affect sexual desire and physical sensation
What somatic healing is and how somatic exercises work
How stress and trauma become connected to chronic tension
What the fawn response looks like in relationships
Why someone may freeze or disconnect during sex
How the nervous system influences arousal, pleasure, and libido
Ways to ground yourself when sexual triggers arise
How to distinguish desire from anxiety or hyperarousal
Why slowing down can help rebuild safety and pleasure
How trauma survivors can reconnect with their bodies
What it can mean to discover your sexuality later in life
About Liz Tenuto
Liz Tenuto, also known as The Workout Witch, is a somatic instructor who specializes in practices designed to address the physical effects of chronic stress and trauma. Her mission is to make somatic healing approachable, accessible, and easy to incorporate into everyday life.
Drawing from both professional knowledge and personal experience as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and domestic violence, Liz helps people understand how trauma can influence the body, nervous system, relationships, and capacity for pleasure.
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