Sexology

Welcome to Episode 502 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Jane Garnett, LMFT who speaks to me about how our attraction patterns develop and whether we change who we are drawn to.
In this episode, Jane and I discuss why we can have so much attraction to people who are emotionally unavailable or unable to give us the secure relationship we want. We also look at how attachment styles, cultural conditioning, unmet emotional needs, and past relationship experience can influence what is exciting or desirable. 
Jane Garnett is an Oxford-educated speaker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), EMDR practitioner, and author of This Time with Feeling (May 12, 2026). With nearly 20 years in private practice, her work often centers on high-functioning individuals whose lives look successful on the outside but are shaped by patterns of emotional disconnection, anxiety, or underlying dissatisfaction.  As a psychotherapist, Jane helps people rewrite the beliefs that subconsciously shape their lives, recognize the scripts they inherited, listen to the body’s signals, and make choices that create actual safety and connection— helping them shift not just their circumstances, but their relationship to themselves and their lives.

In this episode, you will hear:
Changing Our Attraction Patterns
Understanding Unhealthy Relationship Templates
When Chaos Feels Like Chemistry
Attraction To Emotionally Unavailable Partners
Cultural Messages About Desire
Exploring The Meaning Of Fantasy
Affairs As A Form Of Splitting
Learning To Choose Yourself
Regulating The Nervous System
Rewiring Relationships Through EMDR

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Welcome to Episode 501 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Heather Florio and Dr. Fenwa Milhouse who speak to me about sexual health, desire, and pleasure during perimenopause and menopause.

In this episode, we discuss how changes in levels of oestrogen and testosterone can affect the brain, genitals, arousal and sex drive. We examine why hormones alone are rarely the cause of low libido, and how relationship dynamics, painful sex, body image, stress, shame, and the natural shift from spontaneous to responsive desire can all impact someone’s sexual experience.

Heather Florio is the second-generation CEO of Desert Harvest, a women's-health company her family founded in 1993. She writes the monthly Dear Sexpert column for BELLA Magazine, sits on BELLA's Medical Advisory Board, and is a Forbes Leading Woman in Business (2022). Late-diagnosed autistic.

Dr. Fenwa Milhouse—widely known as “Your Favorite Urologist”- is a board-certified urologist and fellowship-trained sub-specialist in Urogynecology and Reconstructive Pelvic Surgery.
She is the current President of the Chicago Urological Society—making history as the first Black woman to hold this position. 

In this episode, you will hear:
Hormonal Changes During Perimenopause
Understanding Multifactorial Low Desire
Barriers To Menopause Treatment
Spontaneous Versus Responsive Desire
Painful Sex And Vaginal Health
Systemic And Vaginal Hormone Therapy
Choosing Safer Personal Lubricants
Medications For Low Libido
GLP-1s And Sexual Desire
Rediscovering Pleasure After Menopause
A Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive
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Welcome to Episode 500 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by some of my most memorable guests, who speak to me about the biggest lessons on pleasure, desire, intimacy, and connection from the past nine years.

In this special milestone episode, I revisit conversations that challenged common assumptions about what fulfilling sex is supposed to look like. We explore why foreplay often begins long before anyone enters the bedroom, how every human body experiences pleasure differently, and why there is no single correct way to orgasm. We also look at what research can teach us about sexual positions, pelvic floor contractions, stimulation, and the importance of adapting sexual experiences to our individual bodies.

I also reflect on the deeper lessons these 500 conversations have taught me about becoming a more attentive and connected partner. We discuss moving beyond sexual autopilot, questioning techniques learned through pornography, understanding our fantasies without shame, and keeping desire alive in long-term relationships. Thank you for making these 500 episodes possible and here’s to the next 500!

In this episode, you will hear (In Order Of Appearance)

Sebastian Harris
Emily Nagoski
Lauri Mintz 
Amir Marashi
Anna Lee
Miranda Houston
Jason Julius
Justin Lehmiller
Ian Kerner
Peggy Kleinplatz

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Welcome to Episode 499 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Michelle Sands, who speaks to me about the connection between hormones, stress, the nervous system, and women’s sexual desire.
In this episode, Dr. Sands explains why a loss of desire is not always a libido problem. We discuss how changes in estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, circulation, sleep, and vaginal health can affect arousal and sexual comfort, particularly during perimenopause and menopause. We also talk about why pain during sex can naturally reduce desire and why women should not assume that they are broken or failing their partners.
Dr. Michelle Sands, ND, is a #1 bestselling author, licensed naturopathic physician, speaker, female hormone expert, and epigenetics coach. She is passionate about helping women harness the power of nature to elevate their genetic expression and live vibrant, fulfilling lives by supporting their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

In this episode, you will hear:
Libido As A Vital Sign
Hormonal Changes During Menopause
Understanding Painful Sex
Stress And Cortisol Dysregulation
Advocating For Hormone Care
Rethinking Hormone Replacement Therapy
Scheduling Intimacy Without Pressure
Supporting Arousal And Blood Flow
Restoring Nervous System Balance
Sexual Health And Longevity

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Welcome to Episode 498 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amanda Dames who speaks to me about soft dom dynamics, masculinity, and communication in kink.

In this episode Amanda and I discuss what it really means to be a soft dom and how this style of dominance is different than the harsh, controlling stereotypes often associated with dom-sub dynamics. We talk about the basis for soft domination, on care, attunement, emotional safety and the desire to bring out the best in a partner, as opposed to control, punishment or ego. 

As a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach and Certified Sexologist, Amanda helps clients uncover a holistic and balanced relationship with intimacy. She understands that there is no one-size-fits-all approach, which is why she developed her own consulting method to support each person in discovering their unique path to fulfillment. Amanda’s work as The Kink Consultant is rooted in the path she took to embrace her own sexuality. Understanding the source of her kinks and core desires was the first step in her journey toward self-acceptance. She now uses this same approach to help individuals and couples embrace their kinky side with curiosity, confidence, and compassion.

In this episode, you will hear:
Understanding Soft Domination
Healthy Power Exchange
Care Versus Control
Masculinity And Safety
Toxic Manosphere Culture
Emotional Attunement
Foreplay Outside The Bedroom
Building Erotic Polarity
Communication And Safe Words
Aftercare And Feedback
How To Be The Man She Desires: A Guide for Men
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