Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast

We’re back with another playful, passionate, and slightly provocative instalment of our much-loved T&A Alphabet Series!
These episodes originally began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly updated and pleasantly packed just for you.
In this episode, we dive  playfully into the letter P — and as the title suggests, it’s not just about polyamory.
Oh no. It’s a plentiful, punchy, and sometimes polarizing collection of P words that show up in conversations about relationships, sex, and non-monogamy.
Here’s a taste of what we cover:
Polyamory
Polysaturated
Polygamy & Polyandry
Power dynamics
Primary partner
Pansexual
Paraphilia
And if you patiently persevere to the end… the sexiest P words make an appearance too 🔥
Think PIV, promiscuity, period sex, and more.
Preparing for this episode was pure pleasure given the practically limitless P words we could have covered. Not all of them made it into the podcast — so yes, this episode is “just the tip.” 😏
Many of the words we explore here (and throughout our T&A Alphabet Series) are also part of our upcoming project, The Little Book of Poly Love 💖 Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s published and pops into the world:
https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist
📖 Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Polyamory and P Words
01:30 Understanding Polyamory and Its Types
03:18 Exploring Polyfidelity and Polycules
06:02 Defining Poly Intimates and Polysaturation
08:06 Polyamory Under Duress
09:52 Primary Partners and Power Dynamics
13:50 Pansexuality and Paraphilia Explained
15:54 Passive Aggressive and Direct
16:46 Sexual Terms: PIV, PIA, and PIM
17:41 Promiscuity: Gender Perspectives and Cultural Views
20:14 Play and Period Sex: Breaking Taboos
23:36 The P-Spot and Male Pleasure

Show Resources:
Poly Newbies Digital Course – Listener OfferA practical, supportive place for the poly-curious, poly-new, and poly-questioning
https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
Looking for therapy?Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André:
https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation
Want personalized coaching support?Book a complimentary coaching consultation with Tara:
https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

Welcome to Season 3! We’re so excited to be back with a brand new season filled with all the conversations you love — and more.
This season, we’ll be continuing our T&A Alphabet Series with episodes dropping throughout the year, and we’ll also be welcoming new guests to the podcast. If you’d like to be a guest, or know someone who would be a great fit, we’d love to hear from you.
The idea for this episode emerged while we were in Mexico over the holidays, where we found ourselves revisiting a question we return to often: Can someone still be polyamorous — an identity we both hold — even when they’re not actively “practicing” it?
In this episode, we explore the evolving nature of polyamory as both an identity and a practice. We reflect on our recent experiences with dating and not dating, what has shifted in our personal and professional lives, and how our priorities continue to change over time.
André also shares about a recent connection with someone who does not identify as non-monogamous, including what it was like to navigate that experience (spoiler alert: it's been very positive), how it felt to share it with Tara, and the real-time conversations that followed. Tara reflects on her own experience of learning that André was feeling new relationship energy (NRE), and what that brought up for her.
Along the way, we dive into the importance of communication when navigating new connections, explore NRE in long-term relationships, and discuss the values that underpin polyamory / non-monogamy as a relational identity.
We also share listener reflections around identity, values, and how these ideas show up in different seasons of life.
This conversation emphasizes that identifying as polyamorous can remain true even during phases of less active dating, and invites listeners to reflect on their own relational identities, values, and intentions for the future.
Chapters
00:00: Welcome to Season Three
01:31: Reflections on Identity and Polyamory
04:47: Exploring Relational Identity
07:24: Navigating New Relationships
10:08: The Dynamics of Non-Monogamy
12:53: Understanding New Relationship Energy
15:32: Balancing Relationships and Personal Growth
18:07: Navigating Non-Monogamy: Embracing Other Connections
21:38: Defining Polyamory: Identity vs. Practice
25:15:The Emotional Landscape of Polyamory
28:08: Polyamory as an Evolving Identity
31:51: Listener suggested reflections
Show Resources:
Contact Us via the form on our website - https://www.taraandandre.com/#section-udHUURtgCy
Night Thoughts - Reflections of a Sex Therapist, by Dr. Avodah Offit - https://www.indigo.ca/en-ca/night-thoughts-reflections-of-a-sex-therapist/9781568214580.html 
Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ 
Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠

We’re back with another juicy instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series! Many of these episodes began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly re-recorded, updated, and expanded just for you.
In this episode, we dive into the letter O — and yes, we save the biggest O for last 😉
O is for Open Relating, Orgasms, Oral, and Other Ohs…
We explore a wide range of O topics while providing thoughtful insights into each one, with a strong emphasis on consent, communication, and understanding. Along the way, we share personal experiences and offer practical, real-world advice to help you deepen intimacy, navigate complexity, and enhance pleasure in your relationships in ways that feel aligned and sustainable.
This episode covers:
Open Relating – what it really means in practice
Orgies – including consent in group settings
Out & Outed – navigating visibility, disclosure, and choice
Obligations – exploring both external expectations and self-imposed pressure
Oral & Outercourse – expanding pleasure beyond penetration and performance
And finally, our perfectly timed CLIMAX: ORGASMS ✨
We talk about what orgasms actually are, different types of orgasms, what happens in the body when we orgasm, facts and myths, faking it, common challenges, and what you can do to increase pleasure — with or without orgasm as the goal.
Equal parts educational, playful, and grounding, this episode supports listeners who are exploring relationship dynamics, strengthening intimacy, or simply wanting better conversations about sex, pleasure, and connection.
📖 Episode Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
02:22 Open Relating Definition
03:10 Orgies & Consent
04:48 Being Out and Outed
09:08 Understanding Obligations in Relationships
09:55 Oral Sex
12:37 Outer Course 
14:46 Understanding Orgasms & The Types of Orgasms
20:56 What Happens to Your Brain & Body During Orgasm
24:23 Studies and Facts about Orgasms
30:22 Faking It
34:00 Techniques for Enhancing Pleasure
37:58 Sensate Focus and Intimacy 
39:45 The Importance Self-Exploration & Masterbation
42:08 Conclusion and Call to Action
Show Resources:
Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ 
Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠
C is for Consensual Non-Monogamy episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4QjdNH6LdaYqOgFaaFMqja?si=FBh6ICbDQB-Fgo9SUd6jhA 
How We Love:  What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me? https://open.spotify.com/episode/2wQiiMrHCFltYorI7bdEGs?si=2rVxqTliScODBUqIJ4TuMA 
What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me Free Worksheet - https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyle 
Why Enthusiastic Consent is So Important - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RzCDuhK9yMM3GgkU5ebPg?si=C87tjthIRY2Ro8KANTnE_w 
A is for Anorgasmia Episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/1oBt1yFEfFsnCUGzTRmF8p?si=Nyjkx7KeRc6YZns0wxdjKQ 
How to Talk to Family About Being Polyamorous - Tara & Andre preparing for Tara’s coming out to parents - https://youtu.be/UxYecGOZ3WY?si=VzvgfmS8SSuuufqB 
3 Minute Game - https://www.schoolofconsent.org/blog/3-minute-game 
Sensate Focus Article - https://www.smsna.org/patients/did-you-know/what-is-sensate-focus-and-how-does-it-work

We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series! Many earlier episodes were originally delivered as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community. This one is a freshly re-recorded instalment — updated, expanded, and shaped by listener requests. 
In this episode we are diving into the letter N with The Nine N Words You Need to Know!
We explore key “N” words that often come up in non-monogamous relationships. We talk about non-negotiables, the meaning and impact of names and titles, necrophilia, and neediness in relationships—when it can be a call for support and when it might negatively impact the connection. 
We also cover nesting partners, the importance of the word no and recognizing both verbal and body-language cues, and what it looks like to normalize non-monogamy in everyday life. 
Plus, we touch on numbers (a.k.a. body count of sexual partners) and nudism, and why these conversations matter.
This is a fun, thoughtful, and wide-ranging episode we know you’ll enjoy!
Want to hear T&A live? Join them on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Information about the Mermaid Lounge at https://mermaidlounge.ca/. Tickets at https://thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452. 
📖 Episode Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction 
01:38 - Exploring Non-Negotiables in Relationships
03:56-  Names and Titles in Non-Monogamous Relationships
05:46 - Understanding Necrophilia 
10:30 - Navigating Neediness 
12:11 - Nesting & Nesting Partners
13:08  - Nipples and Nipple Play
15:45 - No when shared verbally or through body language
17:53 Normalization of Non-Monogamy
21:21 Nudism and Naturism
24:25 Discussing Numbers in Relationships
Show Resources:
Join the waitlist and be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out with all the HOT words from A-Z! ⁠⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠
Necrophilia image and article - https://www.vice.com/en/article/yvxem5/the-little-death-living-and-loving-as-a-necrophiliac-51
Relationship Burnout: How to Make LRE Feel Like NRE Again podcast episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Ujeot4xkUKWwZCPClzVDt?si=T0BytQblSUGqLyiqj7494Q
Consent is Sexy: Why Enthusiastic Consent is So Important podcast episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RzCDuhK9yMM3GgkU5ebPg?si=cg7CPN_yTXSkmTlsRchq0w 
Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyam
Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with Andre at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠
Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠

We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series!
These episodes were originally delivered as live trainings on Mondays inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and over the last few months we’ve been uploading them to all major podcast platforms.
Today’s episode is all about the letter M — and it’s a good one.
We’re diving into: M is for the 5 Ways to Make Sure Your COMMUNICATION Isn’t MISCOMMUNICATION.
In this episode, we explore:
The core components of successful communication.
How to break old or unhelpful communication habits and replace them with patterns that actually work.
Why getting “heated” or “upset” is valuable information — uncomfortable, yes, but often pointing us toward something meaningful to unpack after the moment passes.
Active listening: how to become better listeners and how to recognize when we aren’t.
Communication models we love, including the Interactional Model.
Practical, real-life examples of how to become a clearer, more effective communicator.
How to approach more challenging conversations and invite true dialogue.
The importance of being clear, honest, and direct.
What happens when we hold things in instead of expressing them.
How trust and rapport are built through communication.
How your beliefs, interpretations, and assumptions shape the way you show up in conversation.
Progressive Communication: what it is, and how to use it to move conversations forward instead of repeating the same loops.
What to do when someone comes into a conversation already feeling defensive.
And how to use “breaks” effectively.
We also share an analogy that highlights the difference between genuine communication and miscommunication, plus a personal example of a moment between us where emotions were high and things got a little “heated” — and what we learned from it.
Want to hear T&A live?Join us on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Learn more about the Mermaid Lounge at mermaidlounge.ca. Grab tickets at thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452
Show Resources:
Feeld Dating Site - https://feeld.co/ 
Dr. Amy Corey - Evolution of Human Communication - From Theory to Practice - article - https://www.scribd.com/document/535619793/Communication-By-Dr-Amy-M-Corey
Looking for support working through your communication patterns or other issues?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠
Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠