Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast

We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series!
This is an all-new episode on the letter R — and you’re REALLY going to REVEL in this jam-packed conversation.
We’re covering a range of relationship, sex and polyamory/non-monogamy terms grouped into three themes:
Relationships & relationship structures
Sexual and erotic terms
Emotional and psychological terms
It’s a truly robust episode filled with really helpful R words like:
Relationship Anarchy (RA)
Relationship Escalator
Reciprocity
Rimming
Radical Honesty
Reassurance
Repair
Resentment
We cover over 20 different words — with deeper dives into topics like relationship agreements and relationship reviews using the RAADAR method, rope play (Shibari), and responsive desire.
Get ready for a rich, reflective, and maybe even a little risqué ride through the Rs.
Many of the words we explore here (and throughout our T&A Alphabet Series) are also part of our upcoming project, The Little Book of Poly Love 💖 Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s published and pops into the world: ⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠
Show Resources:
Rich Relationships: Building Your Million Dollar Network. Book by Selena Soo - 
Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ 
Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠
Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer

We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series! Many earlier episodes were originally delivered as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast private Facebook community.
In this episode, recorded in 2021, we dive into the letter Q — Queer — exploring identity, fluidity, heteronormativity, mononormativity, intersectionality, visibility, mental health, and the intersection of queerness and consensual non-monogamy.
We talk about definitions of queer, how marginalization can impact mental health, and common misconceptions about being queer and polyamorous. We also share some statistics—though at the time of recording, specific data on people identifying as “queer” was limited.
We share our personal experiences with queerness: what it was like growing up, coming to queer identity later in life, and how our relationship has opened us to limitless sexual and emotional expression. Tara shares her journey coming out to family as queer and dating a woman before embracing polyamory, and André shares his experiences with family and how the reactions varied.
We also invite your reflections in the comments:
Is queer a term you identify with?
What does being queer mean to you?
Why is it important to identify as queer?
If you identify as queer or another non-heterosexual or non-monogamous identity, are you out and open about it?
Note: We did our best with the video and audio quality, but it isn’t perfect. As we felt the content is worth sharing, we're sharing it anyway!
Chapters
00:00 - Introduction
00:35 - Exploring the Term 'Queer'
02:37 - Personal Identities and Experiences with Queerness
07:10 - Definitions and Understanding of Queerness
10:48 - Navigating Heteronormativity and Mononormativity
15:04 - Reflections on Coming Out and Self-Identification
19:21 - Redefining Queerness: Beyond Labels
26:42 - Intersectionality and Mental Health in the LGBTQ+ Community
30:08 - Navigating Polyamory and Queerness
31:00 - Coming Out Stories: Personal Experiences and Family Dynamics
Resources:
Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ 
Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠
Book: Bi Notes for a Bisexual Revolution by Shiri Eisner - https://www.amazon.ca/Bi-Bisexual-Revolution-Shiri-Eisner/dp/1580054749
Coming out as polyamorous video - our initial talk in preparing for the conversation - How to talk to parents about being polyamorous or in an open relationship - https://youtu.be/UxYecGOZ3WY?si=OaNmNcBea2bA27sH 
Let's Talk Polyamory Facebook Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly
Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer

We’re back with another playful, passionate, and slightly provocative instalment of our much-loved T&A Alphabet Series!
These episodes originally began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly updated and pleasantly packed just for you.
In this episode, we dive  playfully into the letter P — and as the title suggests, it’s not just about polyamory.
Oh no. It’s a plentiful, punchy, and sometimes polarizing collection of P words that show up in conversations about relationships, sex, and non-monogamy.
Here’s a taste of what we cover:
Polyamory
Polysaturated
Polygamy & Polyandry
Power dynamics
Primary partner
Pansexual
Paraphilia
And if you patiently persevere to the end… the sexiest P words make an appearance too 🔥
Think PIV, promiscuity, period sex, and more.
Preparing for this episode was pure pleasure given the practically limitless P words we could have covered. Not all of them made it into the podcast — so yes, this episode is “just the tip.” 😏
Many of the words we explore here (and throughout our T&A Alphabet Series) are also part of our upcoming project, The Little Book of Poly Love 💖 Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s published and pops into the world:
https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist
📖 Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Polyamory and P Words
01:30 Understanding Polyamory and Its Types
03:18 Exploring Polyfidelity and Polycules
06:02 Defining Poly Intimates and Polysaturation
08:06 Polyamory Under Duress
09:52 Primary Partners and Power Dynamics
13:50 Pansexuality and Paraphilia Explained
15:54 Passive Aggressive and Direct
16:46 Sexual Terms: PIV, PIA, and PIM
17:41 Promiscuity: Gender Perspectives and Cultural Views
20:14 Play and Period Sex: Breaking Taboos
23:36 The P-Spot and Male Pleasure

Show Resources:
Poly Newbies Digital Course – Listener OfferA practical, supportive place for the poly-curious, poly-new, and poly-questioning
https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
Looking for therapy?Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André:
https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation
Want personalized coaching support?Book a complimentary coaching consultation with Tara:
https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue

Welcome to Season 3! We’re so excited to be back with a brand new season filled with all the conversations you love — and more.
This season, we’ll be continuing our T&A Alphabet Series with episodes dropping throughout the year, and we’ll also be welcoming new guests to the podcast. If you’d like to be a guest, or know someone who would be a great fit, we’d love to hear from you.
The idea for this episode emerged while we were in Mexico over the holidays, where we found ourselves revisiting a question we return to often: Can someone still be polyamorous — an identity we both hold — even when they’re not actively “practicing” it?
In this episode, we explore the evolving nature of polyamory as both an identity and a practice. We reflect on our recent experiences with dating and not dating, what has shifted in our personal and professional lives, and how our priorities continue to change over time.
André also shares about a recent connection with someone who does not identify as non-monogamous, including what it was like to navigate that experience (spoiler alert: it's been very positive), how it felt to share it with Tara, and the real-time conversations that followed. Tara reflects on her own experience of learning that André was feeling new relationship energy (NRE), and what that brought up for her.
Along the way, we dive into the importance of communication when navigating new connections, explore NRE in long-term relationships, and discuss the values that underpin polyamory / non-monogamy as a relational identity.
We also share listener reflections around identity, values, and how these ideas show up in different seasons of life.
This conversation emphasizes that identifying as polyamorous can remain true even during phases of less active dating, and invites listeners to reflect on their own relational identities, values, and intentions for the future.
Chapters
00:00: Welcome to Season Three
01:31: Reflections on Identity and Polyamory
04:47: Exploring Relational Identity
07:24: Navigating New Relationships
10:08: The Dynamics of Non-Monogamy
12:53: Understanding New Relationship Energy
15:32: Balancing Relationships and Personal Growth
18:07: Navigating Non-Monogamy: Embracing Other Connections
21:38: Defining Polyamory: Identity vs. Practice
25:15:The Emotional Landscape of Polyamory
28:08: Polyamory as an Evolving Identity
31:51: Listener suggested reflections
Show Resources:
Contact Us via the form on our website - https://www.taraandandre.com/#section-udHUURtgCy
Night Thoughts - Reflections of a Sex Therapist, by Dr. Avodah Offit - https://www.indigo.ca/en-ca/night-thoughts-reflections-of-a-sex-therapist/9781568214580.html 
Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ 
Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠

We’re back with another juicy instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series! Many of these episodes began as live trainings inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and this one has been freshly re-recorded, updated, and expanded just for you.
In this episode, we dive into the letter O — and yes, we save the biggest O for last 😉
O is for Open Relating, Orgasms, Oral, and Other Ohs…
We explore a wide range of O topics while providing thoughtful insights into each one, with a strong emphasis on consent, communication, and understanding. Along the way, we share personal experiences and offer practical, real-world advice to help you deepen intimacy, navigate complexity, and enhance pleasure in your relationships in ways that feel aligned and sustainable.
This episode covers:
Open Relating – what it really means in practice
Orgies – including consent in group settings
Out & Outed – navigating visibility, disclosure, and choice
Obligations – exploring both external expectations and self-imposed pressure
Oral & Outercourse – expanding pleasure beyond penetration and performance
And finally, our perfectly timed CLIMAX: ORGASMS ✨
We talk about what orgasms actually are, different types of orgasms, what happens in the body when we orgasm, facts and myths, faking it, common challenges, and what you can do to increase pleasure — with or without orgasm as the goal.
Equal parts educational, playful, and grounding, this episode supports listeners who are exploring relationship dynamics, strengthening intimacy, or simply wanting better conversations about sex, pleasure, and connection.
📖 Episode Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
02:22 Open Relating Definition
03:10 Orgies & Consent
04:48 Being Out and Outed
09:08 Understanding Obligations in Relationships
09:55 Oral Sex
12:37 Outer Course 
14:46 Understanding Orgasms & The Types of Orgasms
20:56 What Happens to Your Brain & Body During Orgasm
24:23 Studies and Facts about Orgasms
30:22 Faking It
34:00 Techniques for Enhancing Pleasure
37:58 Sensate Focus and Intimacy 
39:45 The Importance Self-Exploration & Masterbation
42:08 Conclusion and Call to Action
Show Resources:
Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
Looking for therapy?  Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ 
Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠
C is for Consensual Non-Monogamy episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4QjdNH6LdaYqOgFaaFMqja?si=FBh6ICbDQB-Fgo9SUd6jhA 
How We Love:  What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me? https://open.spotify.com/episode/2wQiiMrHCFltYorI7bdEGs?si=2rVxqTliScODBUqIJ4TuMA 
What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me Free Worksheet - https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyle 
Why Enthusiastic Consent is So Important - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RzCDuhK9yMM3GgkU5ebPg?si=C87tjthIRY2Ro8KANTnE_w 
A is for Anorgasmia Episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/1oBt1yFEfFsnCUGzTRmF8p?si=Nyjkx7KeRc6YZns0wxdjKQ 
How to Talk to Family About Being Polyamorous - Tara & Andre preparing for Tara’s coming out to parents - https://youtu.be/UxYecGOZ3WY?si=VzvgfmS8SSuuufqB 
3 Minute Game - https://www.schoolofconsent.org/blog/3-minute-game 
Sensate Focus Article - https://www.smsna.org/patients/did-you-know/what-is-sensate-focus-and-how-does-it-work