Famous at Home

We all want our kids to be confident, resourceful, and to know what they’re good at. The trouble is that we make two big mistakes as parents: We either don’t give them enough challenge, or we burn them out with too much.
 
Do your kids know that they have what it takes to overcome struggle?
Do they feel confident in knowing what to do when it comes to life skills and everyday tasks like cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, or taking care of animals?
Do they know what they’re good at and have a healthy sense of what to do with things they’re not good at?
 
We call this resourcefulness, and it’s one of the most important traits to cultivate in our kids.

What is resourcefulness?
How do we offer a healthy dose of both support and challenge to help our kids build resilience?
What do you do when you see things in your kids they don’t see in themselves?
 
These are the questions we tackle in this episode.
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:24 What resourcefulness is and the two extremes we tend to take as parents
7:40 The good and hard of giving children responsibility
12:03 Giving kids support while offering challenge
19:38 How to know if you’ve over-supported or over-challenged
24:15 When you see things in your kids they don’t see in themselves
30:00 When you push beyond what you think you’re capable of 

Show Notes:

Get 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Week
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Join our KidsRQ Community: www.kidsrq.com
 
Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter
 
Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. 
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394
 
Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Get ready for the early episode pivot in this one, folks. Talking about their marriage a few minutes into recording, Josh and Christi had a moment that sent them spiraling into laughter. The atmosphere shifted, so they shifted with it. And the result?
 
A conversation about joy!
 
In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about why joy can be so difficult to feel. “We’re actually scared of joy,” Christi says. “It is such an intense emotion that our bodies feel under threat.” Christi goes on to say, “The feeling of joy is so big that you can’t start at 95%, you have to begin by micro-dosing it at about 5%.”

But feel it we must. The Bible says that the joy of the Lord is our strength (Nehemiah 8:10). If it strengthens us, it must be dangerous for darkness. No wonder it takes courage to feel it. Like anything else, joy is caught, not taught. Josh and Christi talk about how to overcome the fear, shift the atmosphere, and pass joy onto our kids.
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:24 10 Days of the Easter Story
2:53 Josh & Christi’s wedding story
5:55 The unexpected pivot into joy
7:30 Shifting the spiritual atmosphere for joy
13:10 Left brain knowledge of versus right brain experience of joy
17:52 How joy is birthed within us
21:16 God is a joyful God
28:14 Why we’re afraid of joy
31:30 How to micro-dose moments of joy in your life
34:01 Practical ways to experience joy and pass it onto your kids
42:55 Ways to make joy not feel threatening 

Show Notes:
Get 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Week
https://amzn.to/4lpPGQf
 
Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter
 
Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. 
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394
 
Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Have you felt yourself revert back to a child in the way you react to your kids, or a particular situation?

Watching from the sideline, Josh recently had a moment where his inner child wounds collided with the reality of the his son’s experience on the soccer field. When we come face-to-face with the dissonance between the way we REACT, and the way we want to ACT, something deeper is often at play. Becoming mindful of those moments, and how we respond to them, influences what we pass onto our kids.
 
In this episode, Josh & Christi talk about how to identify an unhealed inner child “part” of yourself, give examples of redeemed and unhealed epigenetic transmission, and provide a beautiful example of how Jesus meets us right where we are.
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:15 The messages we picked up in childhood in order to fit in
6:15 How to identify an unhealed inner child “part” of yourself
9:13 Examples of epigenetic transmission of unresolved inner child pain
17:37 The motivation of our parental decisions
20:30 Disappointment, condemnation, and the feelings of Holy Week
28:56 How Jesus’ restoration of Peter is for all of us 

Show Notes:
Easter is coming up! Get 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Week
https://amzn.to/4lpPGQf
 
Interested in our Spring Love Your Marriage Cohort? Apply now. Starts March 30.
https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage
 
Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

In this episode, we lay the foundation for what really matters most when it comes to raising Gen Alpha kids—emotional safety. It’s also the beginning of how we got started with Famous at Home — discovering the power of, and talking about how to cultivate, a posture of emotional safety in our homes for our kids.

As we continue season 8 on Parenting Gen Alpha, we define what emotional safety is and why it matters for getting every outcome we desire in our kids. 

We also talk about the four walls of parenting, the importance of reparenting our own inner child, and why emotional safety is so important to who our kids are becoming.
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction and insight into Josh and Christi’s current day-to-day as parents
3:20 Setting the stage for today's topic 
7:21 What emotional safety is and why it matters
11:13 Being able to bring the fullness of who you are to the relationship
13:50 Support and challenge in parenting
16:55 Reparenting our own inner child
21:02 Leading in grace and following in truth
25:49 Emotional safety and the need for community

Show Notes:
Get Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well:
https://amzn.to/4rc52c9
 
Ladies, sign up here for Spring Tender & Fierce Cohort!
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
 
Interested in our Spring Love Your Marriage Cohort? Apply now. Starts March 30.
https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage
 
Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

One of the most intriguing, humbling, and challenging aspects of being a parent is how our kids mirror who WE are.
 
And what’s really difficult are the societal — or cultural — norms shaping who we are as humans.
Who are we becoming as adults?
How are the decisions we make shaping our kids?
Do our unrealized emotions influence how resilient our kids are becoming? 

As we continue our series on Raising Gen Alpha Kids, these are questions Dr. Josh and Christi address. Some highlights include:
What it means to “choose your hard”
How loneliness becomes a byproduct of self-protection
How silence plays itself out in marriage and the cost it has on our kids
What if you’re exhausted and can’t choose the hard thing?
The joy and “hard” of helping our kids build resilience
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:28 Ways to go deeper
7:30 Choosing your hard
11:40 Loneliness and the environment of the home
16:19 How loneliness becomes a byproduct of our self-protection
20:03 How silence plays itself out in marriage and the cost it has on our kids
23:10 What if you’re exhausted and can’t choose the hard thing?
27:48 Choosing a different kind of “hard”
32:41 The joy and “hard” of helping our kids build resilience
 
Show Notes:
Ladies, sign up here for Spring Tender & Fierce Cohort!
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
 
Interested in our Spring Love Your Marriage Cohort? Apply now. Starts March 30.
https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage
 
Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter
 
Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. 
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394
 
Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome