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From the Inside Out: Rebbetzin Esti Hamilton on Emunah, Purpose, and Rosh Hashanah Clarity
In this episode of From The Inside Out Podcast with Rivkah Krinsky and Eda Schottenstein, we share a Rosh Hashanah episode featuring Rebbetzin Esti Hamilton,  Esti recounts growing up in a Torah-teaching family, beginning to teach in Israel, and how her life changed when her first son, Daniel, was born profoundly disabled and hospitalized for two years, leading her to speak publicly about faith and to teach spiritual growth. She describes shifting from a transactional “spiritual slot machine” view of Hashem to a mature relationship, embracing paradigm shifts where circumstances may not change but perception does, and seeing purpose through hashgachah pratit and the holiness of the present. She discusses Rosh Hashanah as crowning Hashem rather than vidui, cultivating forgiveness, avoiding autopilot in mitzvot through kavanah, curating the “diet of the mind” with Torah learning, and offers practical tools from Mesilat Yesharim: awareness, holistic cheshbon hanefesh, and choosing one area to add intention.

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Esti Hamilton is an international speaker and Torah teacher whose own journey through faith and heartbreak — after her son Daniel was born with profound disabilities — has shaped 25 years of teaching women around the world on emunah and spiritual growth. For over 25 years, she has taught women around the world — from intimate shiurim to international stages — on emunah, spiritual growth, and what it really means to live a connected life. 
You can find her here: https://www.rebbetzinesti.com/ 

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Welcome & Elul Introduction
03:46 Meet Esti Hamilton
07:34 Her Son's Birth and a Crisis of Faith
12:50 The Transactional Faith Trap
20:47 A Paradigm Shift
26:05 Finding Your Tafkid
31:40 Learning to Accept, Learning to See
39:08 Crowning Hashem King on Rosh Hashanah
49:49 Bechira, Ego & Hard Choices
01:00:24 Forgiveness and Midos
01:08:45 Elul Soul Accounting
01:12:37 Purpose, Ratzon & Public Speaking
01:19:48 Turning Off Autopilot
01:27:04 Kotel Connection Stories
01:31:01 New Light for Rosh Hashanah & Asking for Clarity
01:36:38 Lost at Sea: Finding Your Compass
01:39:56 From Self Help to Transcendence
01:46:14 Tzedakah and Reward
01:52:39 Doing Enough? Spiritual Growth Tools
02:05:37 Closing Thoughts & Blessings

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Finding Meaning Through Viktor Frankl, Chabad Chassidus & Therapy
In this episode of From The Inside Out Podcast with Rivkah Krinsky and Eda Schottenstein, we interview Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch, a therapist and author of "Viktor Frankl and the Psychology of the Soul," about integrating CBT, marriage/family therapy, Viktor Frankl’s logotherapy, and Chabad Chassidus. Schonbuch explains Frankl’s core idea that humans are driven by meaning, not pleasure or power, and outlines three ways to find meaning: purposeful work, love/experience, and changing one’s attitude when suffering can’t be avoided. He describes creating TorahPsychology.org, holding Hakhel conferences inspired by the Rebbe’s encouragement and a message sent to Frankl, and using a 30-day logotherapy workbook to reduce depression and anxiety. The conversation also covers shared meaning in marriage, rising divorce and estrangement, parenting tools (I=QR, connection/communication/reduced control), reflective listening, trauma and meaning, and incorporating Mitteler Rebbe  teachings and “Tracht gut vet zein gut.”
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GUEST BIOS
Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch is a therapist, Chabad rabbi, and author who has spent decades helping individuals, couples, and families achieve emotional wellness by integrating psychological and spiritual principles. Trained in CBT, EMDR, and marriage and family therapy, he is best known for bringing Viktor Frankl's logotherapy — the psychology of meaning — into his clinical work, alongside the teachings of the Mitteler Rebbe and Chabad Chassidus. He is the founder of TorahPsychology.org, where he has trained thousands of coaches and counselors, and the author of several books, including At Risk: Never Beyond Reach, Think Good Will Be Good, and his newest work, Viktor Frankl and the Psychology of the Soul. Rabbi Schonbuch lives in Crown Heights and works with clients from all walks of life and faiths around the world.
You can find Rabbi Schonbuch and his books here: https://torahpsychology.org/about-us/

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CHAPTERS
00:00 – Intro & Meet Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch
00:03 – How a Rabbi Became a Psychologist
00:06 – Who Was Viktor Frankl? Freud, Adler & the Birth of Logotherapy
00:09 – The Three Ways to Find Meaning
00:13 – Why This Generation Needs Frankl More Than Ever
00:14 – Was Viktor Frankl Religious? The Rebbe's Hidden Message
00:20 – The Mitteler Rebbe's Techniques for Going Deeper in Therapy
00:23 – Marriage, Gottman & the Power of Shared Meaning
00:26 – The Real Crisis Behind Today's Teens: The 3 C's
00:36 – Why Marriages Are Falling Apart So Fast
00:38 – Finding Your "Why" in Marriage
00:45 – The Crisis of Meaning, By the Numbers
00:47 – Finding Meaning in Suffering
00:52 – Why Meaning Doesn't Have to Be Big
00:58 – Meeting Your Teen in Their World, Not Lecturing Them
01:05 – The Three Tools That Changed His Career
01:14 – The Story of Yitzi Horwitz & Finding Chabad
01:22 – Think Good and It Will Be Good
01:29 – His Favorite Quote & Where to Find Him

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Somatic Healing, Emotional Safety & the 5 Foundations of Marriage | Miriam Racquel & Dovid Feldman
In this episode of From The Inside Out Podcast with Rivkah Krinsky and Eda Schottenstein, we welcome marriage helpers Miriam Racquel and Dovid Feldman, a Chabad couple who work with couples and individuals. They share their personal journey from meeting in college through different paths in Judaism, and how they now combine Dovid’s strength-based, solution-oriented therapy and 12-week Recreating Intimacy program with Miriam Racquel’s somatic mind-body healing. The conversation explores nervous system states in marriage, how to trust bodily signals while interpreting them wisely, and practical communication tools that avoid criticism and blame. They discuss rising divorce rates, social media’s anti-marriage bias, emotional regulation, “letting go” of expectations, emotional safety, receiving, and intimacy differences between men and women. They close with Torah- and Rebbe-based perspectives, quotes, and resources including their websites and books.

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Heart & Mind Matters
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Dovid Feldman
Dovid Feldman is a marriage coach and licensed therapist with over 30 years of experience — professionally and in his own marriage — helping couples rebuild trust, communication, and intimacy. His 12-week program works with each spouse individually and centers on his "five foundations of marriage": appreciation, communicating without criticism, compassionate listening, loving boundaries, and consistent intimacy. He hosts the "Building Great Marriages" podcast. Learn more at https://dovidfeldman.com/             

Miriam Racquel
Miriam Racquel is a somatic healer, marriage coach, and trauma & anxiety specialist who helps women access the wisdom of their body and intuition to create clarity, safety, and passion in their relationships. She's the author of "God Said What?!" and runs Your Marriage Magic, offering marriage and dating coaching for women. Learn more at https://www.miriamracquel.com/    

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CHAPTERS
00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro
04:06 Tzedakah Moment Pushka App
04:39 Meet Miriam and Dovid
05:24 Dovid Origin Story
07:28 Miriam Journey to Judaism
10:52 How They Work With Clients
13:08 Therapy Approach and Program
17:40 Somatics and Nervous System
20:55 Body Signals vs Interpretation
22:47 Everyday Trigger Example
27:45 Deep Patterns and Resentment
30:44 Why Divorce Rates Rising
32:46 Choosing Happiness in Marriage
37:03 Chuppah Doubts and Mind Stories
43:10 Why Receiving Feels Hard
43:25 Five Blocks to Receiving
44:50 Reopening After Hurt
46:59 Dating Like a Gentleman
47:58 Emotional Safety First
50:36 Five Foundations Begin
54:16 No Criticism Rule
55:15 Reframing Instead of Critique
58:05 Four Step Communication
01:04:28 Repeat Requests Without Nagging
01:08:58 Letting Go Expectations
01:13:02 Intimacy Story Let Go
01:18:01 When Traits Annoy You
01:18:41 Why Criticism Creates Distance
01:19:37 Reframing Differences as Growth
01:20:37 War Survivor to Baal Chessed
01:24:39 Five Foundations That Work
01:26:13 Tools Therapy and Their Books
01:29:05 Torah Advice for Newlyweds
01:32:31 Soulmate Mindset and Regulation
01:34:31 What Men and Women Long For
01:40:39 Intimacy Needs and Scheduling
01:46:27 Closing Quotes and Hope
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From the Inside Out: Color, Confidence, and God-Given Design with Rivky Duchman
In this episode of From The Inside Out Podcast with Rivkah Krinsky and Eda Schottenstein, we introduce guest Rivky Duchman, a Miami Beach color analyst and image consultant who blends aesthetics with Torah and Chassidus. Rivky explains her work uses the face as an “aesthetic blueprint” (skin tone, eyes, hair, contrast, texture, lines, and energy) to identify harmonious colors and styles, helping women develop signature style, reduce insecurity, and avoid trend-driven noise. She outlines seasonal color analysis origins and nuanced subtypes, shares how outside comments can disconnect people from their design, and discusses aesthetics as communication, first impressions, modesty, and dignity, citing stories about Rabbi Ishmael. Rivky supports enhancement tools like makeup or hair color while warning against “distortion,” critiques status-driven trend chasing, and emphasizes that true worth comes from being a part of Hashem and expressing inner beauty outward.
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GUEST BIOS
Rivky Duchman is a color analyst and image consultant based in Miami Beach. She helps clients discover their God-given design — the colors, textures, and styles that align with who they truly are — blending seasonal color analysis with the wisdom of Torah and Chassidus. Find her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/rivky.color/ 

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CHAPTERS
00:00 Welcome 
01:47 Meet Rivky Duchman
06:55 God Given Design
08:17 Style Instinct and Noise
12:18 How Analysis Works
15:45 Seasons Explained
22:07 Torah Lens on Beauty
27:27 Aesthetics as Communication
31:49 Clothes and Identity
34:09 Enhancement vs Distortion
37:38 Trend Chasing and Worth
42:33 Seasonal Bag Personalities
44:28 Logo Mania Backlash
46:12 Classic Style Over Trends
46:46 Elegance Without Breaking Bank
49:16 Beauty as Holy Work
55:24 Stop Projecting Your Taste
01:00:00 Modesty Role Models
01:03:18 Everyday Outfit Struggles
01:08:34 Trends That Fit Your Design
01:11:57 Find Your Palette and Style
01:14:43 Closing Worth and Beauty

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On Serving God, Not Being Religious with Dr. Elad Ben Elul & Rabbi Manis Friedman
In this episode of From The Inside Out Podcast, Rivkah and Eda sit down with Dr. Elad Ben Elul and Rabbi Manis Friedman on their book I Didn't Ask to Be Born and its core idea: Judaism isn't about being "religious" or what we need from God, but what God needs from us — asking daily, "What does God need from me today?" Ben Elul shares his Jewish awakening during fieldwork in West Africa, caught between secular Tel Aviv and an enclosed religious world, until Friedman's lecture "Why You Shouldn't Be Religious" reframed Jewish life as mission. Friedman traces this to his outreach starting in 1970 and its path to the book's Israeli success. They cover mitzvot, purpose, soulmates and marriage, hostages who found mission in captivity, teaching Tanya, Chabad's nonjudgment, and audience Q&A on dating, marriage, and identity.
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Ohr Naava's "Just One Brick" turns Tisha B'Av into a guided experience — Eicha, the Kinot, an Ask the Rabbi segment, a video from founder Rabbi Wallerstein, and a lineup including Rabbi Fisher, Rabbanit Yemima Mizrachi, and Charlie Harari. Join the live stream and support Ohr Naava's year-round work for women worldwide.
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Rabbi Manis Friedman is a rabbi, author, and longtime emissary of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson. One of the most-watched rabbis on YouTube, he has spent decades teaching on faith, relationships, and Jewish identity. He is co-author, with Dr. Elad Ben Elul, of I Didn't Ask to Be Born: Understanding the Purpose of Our Creation.
Dr. Elad Ben Elul is an Israeli anthropologist and author. After years of fieldwork in West Africa while completing his PhD at Tel Aviv University, a lecture by Rabbi Manis Friedman reshaped his understanding of Judaism and purpose. He went on to study and teach Tanya and Chassidut, eventually co-writing I Didn't Ask to Be Born — a bestseller in Israel — followed by Back to Innocence, on relationships and intimacy.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction
08:01 Meet the Guests
10:08 A Spiritual Awakening
15:38 Africa and Jewish Identity
19:54 How the Book Happened
22:29 God Needs Us Concept
30:42 Anthropology of Mitzvot
35:45 Religious vs Jewish
39:49 Hostages and Mission
48:29 Love vs Need in Marriage
49:35 Loneliness and Divine Need
52:10 God's Humility and Romance
55:57 Soulmates and Marriage Reunion
59:35 Love as a Thing Trap
01:06:13 Love Idolatry and Cheating
01:07:52 Soul Journey and Resurrection
01:12:36 Rebbe's Nonjudgmental Lesson
01:15:17 Dating Is Not Relationship
01:21:15 What to Look for in Marriage
01:24:07 Mitzvot and God-Mindedness
01:30:42 Teaching Tanya at Any Age
01:35:03 Identity Through Action
Closing
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