From a Girl's Girl

Have you ever stayed in a relationship because you were afraid you wouldn’t find anything better?
In this episode of From a Girl’s Girl, I an honest conversation about marriage desperation, scarcity mindset and the societal pressures that can make women feel like they’re running out of time to find love.
I reflect on my own experience of being desperate for love and marriage in my late twenties, and how the fear of not getting married can influence the things we tolerate in relationships. From the pressure women face as they get older to the fear that all the good men are taken, I unpack how the desire to find love can sometimes become a fear of being alone.
I also explore what happens when the fear of not finding someone better keeps us in situations that no longer serve us, and the grief that comes with choosing ourselves, especially when we still want the person or the future we imagined with them.
Because wanting love and marriage isn’t the problem. The question is whether we’re choosing relationships because they genuinely align with what we want, or because we’re afraid of what life might look like without them.

We often talk about being someone’s placeholder — the person they keep around while waiting for someone they really want. But have you ever stopped to consider whether you might be the one keeping a placeholder around?
Sometimes, we entertain connections because we enjoy the attention, affection, companionship, or simply having someone to talk to. We might not necessarily see a future with them, but having them around feels good. And when you’re lonely or navigating life on your own, that connection can feel like just what you need in the moment.
But what happens when the comfort of having someone around starts making you overlook what you actually want?
In this episode, I explore how placeholders can keep us in the waiting room, how temporary fulfilment can create unnecessary emotional labour, and how the desire for companionship can blur our judgement and lead us to settle for connections that don’t align with our long-term desires.

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Of course someone would want me. Look at what I’ve accomplished.”?
We’re often encouraged to become more beautiful, more successful, more educated, more independent and more accomplished. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting any of those things.
But what happens when the things that build our confidence start becoming evidence that we are worthy of love?
In this episode, I unpack the difference between confidence, desirability, access and self-worth. And why being accomplished, attractive, financially independent or successful can change how we experience dating without changing our inherent worth.
I talk about:
Why achievements can make us feel more confident in the dating pool
The difference between “I’m proud of what I’ve built” and “I’m worthy because of what I’ve built”
Why we sometimes feel the need to prove that we are worth choosing

We have boyfriend lists. Husband lists. Deal-breakers. Non-negotiables. But have you ever stopped to think about what you actually want in a friend?
As we get older, making friends becomes more complicated. Proximity and shared interests might have been enough when we were younger, but adult friendships often require something deeper.
In this episode, I talk about being more intentional about the friendships we build and ask:
Are you friends because you're genuinely compatible or because you enjoy the activity that brought you together?
I explore friendships standards and non-negotiables, friendships built on alcohol and partying, trauma bonded friendships, the role of shared interests and proximity, and whether loneliness can cause us to lower our standards.

Have you looked at your vision board recently and realised your life looks nothing like your vision board? Somewhere between January and now life happened. It didn't check your calendar, ask if you have capacity, or wait until you had accomplished your goals. It just happened.
Same.
In this episode, we’re talking about how to stop seeing delayed dreams as failure, how to re-strategise after life throws unexpected challenges, and how we can still finish the year strong.
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