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- My entire perspective on women’s sexuality recently shifted — especially around the idea of containment. In this episode I share a personal realization that changed how I understand arousal, dominance, submission, deep pleasure, and the layers of shame many of us carry around sexuality.
This is NOT meant to be a teaching episode.
It’s more of a reflection on my own personal revelations and new practices that have changed how I relate to women and sex.
I’m still actively learning and integrating these ideas, so take this as a window into my process - rather than a polished explanation of everything.
If you're a man who loves women, what I share here could be one of the most important things you learn about sex.
I would genuinely love to hear your thoughts and reactions - please let me know what you're thinking in the comments section of this episode on youtube, so we can explore this and learn together.
Thank you.
— Taylor
TOPICS DISCUSSED: Containment in relationships, women's arousal, masculine leadership in intimacy, sexual polarity, dominance and submission, shame around sexuality, and how to get your wildest fantasies met as a man.
**NOTE: You can expect more videos from me about the concept of containment, because I believe it's one of the most important ideas when it comes to sex and relationships.
Upcoming topics may include:
• how to contain a woman sexually
• how to contain yourself
• why YOU need containment
• why offering containment matters as a man
• and much more.
CONNECT:
https://www.taylorjohnson.life/
https://www.instagram.com/taylorclarkjohnson
🔸 UPCOMING SEXUAL LEADERSHIP TRAINING:
Applications for The Embodied Sexual Leadership Training will open mid-march. The retreat will be held in Asheville, NC, on the days of July 8-12. Learn more and get on the waiting list to apply here.
Support the show - I just completed the “Tantra Meets BDSM” 7-day training with Om Rupani and Laurie Handlers. And wow... This episode is a personal integration — what I experienced, what blew me away, and what I’m still unpacking.
If you listened to my previous episode before attending, this is the follow-up. And if you’re new here, this is a candid look into my own personal growth as a sexual human. Welcome.
*NOTE: The background noise is the ocean. I recorded this with the intention of publishing the video to youtube. You can watch it here.
TOPICS:
0:00 A Turning Point in My Life
2:30 Containment
7:56 BDSM Scene Creation
10:40 Problematic Man/Woman Archetypes
15:29 I LOVE Being a Dom
18:51 Your Attention is Your Most Valuable Resource
CONNECT:
🔸 2026 Men's Retreat (July 2026)
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course
🔸 Instagram: @taylorclarkjohnson
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RETREAT INFO:
*Tantra Meets BDSM is a 7-day, in-person retreat - taught by Om Rupani and Laurie Handlers. It's primarily a BDSM training, taught through a lens of tantric/energetic understanding. The program is intense, challenging, and it has been one of the best retreats I've attended (this last round was taught at a beautiful retreat center on the coast of the Dominican Republic). You can check out the program here.
Support the show - This is my personal update just before diving into 7-day BDSM retreat taught by Laurie Handlers & Om Rupani. It’s called “Tantra Meets BDSM” - and I’m 90% excited and 10% feeling edgy. Seems like the perfect ratio. Let me know your thoughts & questions if you have any.
CONNECT WITH ME:
🔸 Website: https://www.taylorjohnson.life
🔸 Insta: https://www.instagram.com/taylorclarkjohnson
Support the show The Orgasmic Mastery Course Is Now Open — Self-Study Enrollment & What to Expect
2026/01/22 | 6 mins.The Orgasmic Mastery Course is now open for self-study enrollment.
This short episode is a clear, grounded overview of the course - what it actually is, who it’s for, and how it works - so you can feel into whether this is the right next step for you.
This is a 10-week sexual self-mastery training for men who want:
Deeply embodied sexual confidence
The ability to last as long as they want during sex
Stronger, longer-lasting erections
Full-body orgasms and a grounded pathway toward non-ejaculatory orgasmic states
The skills to generate, circulate, and harness sexual energy
The joy of shamelessly owning their desires
This course is not about tips, tricks, or hacks.
It’s about training your nervous system and sexual response system through consistent, embodied practices—so real change happens in your body, not just in your mind.
The self-study version includes:
Full access to all 10 weeks of the course
Long-term access to the material
Monthly live group calls
Access to a private community of men who’ve gone through the work
The option to join a future live group round at a discounted rate
If you’d like to learn more or enroll, visit the course page here.
**And - the self-study version is available at a discounted rate from the typical large group price.
There’s no rush.
Take your time.
Trust your yes.
- Taylor
Support the show- This episode is for any man who is interested in learning about my upcoming Orgasmic Mastery Course that starts on October 16th.
It's a recording of a live Q&A call I led on October 8th - for anyone to ask me anything about the course. We got into some great conversation, and if you're considering joining the course, this should be a helpful listen.
If you have any questions about the course after listening to this episode and checking out the course page, please either shoot me a DM on instagram (it's easy to reply with a voice message there) or send me an email.
Thank you!
-Taylor
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About Sex Upgraded
Helping men and their lovers experience the best sex and relationship lives possible.You'll hear wild personal stories, interviews with guest experts, and practical how-to episodes as well.TLDR: In each episode you'll get practical tools & insights you can start using today to improve your sex life AND entire life.Why?Because I (Taylor) used to struggle massively with sex. I never had a good mentor, and my struggle negatively impacted my entire life. Now after a huge journey studying sex around the world, I'm thriving, and I want to help you thrive in your sex life too. Why? Because it feels amazing! AND because the world needs more men who can embody their sexual power with confidence and integrity.Thank you for being here!-Taylor• Web: www.taylorjohnson.life• Insta: www.instagram.com/taylorclarkjohnson• Youtube: www.youtube.com/@taylorclarkjohnson
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