Blessed + Bossed Up

We're continuing our book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, and this week we're diving into Part Three — the how of living an unhurried life. After covering silence and solitude last episode, today we go deep on one of the most underrated and underused spiritual practices in Christian spaces: the Sabbath.
But first — Tatum shares a raw and beautiful testimony from her quiet time this week, a moment on the floor in her daughter's room that turned into a soul-restoring encounter with the Father. She also gets real about a revelation she received for Christian entrepreneurs: the difference between your working relationship with God and your personal relationship with Him — and why both matter.
In This Episode
Testimony: What happened when Tatum lay on the floor, didn't know what to pray, and started speaking in tongues — and why she bawled her eyes out
The working relationship vs. the personal relationship with God — a word for veteran Christian entrepreneurs who have the rhythm down but may be missing the closeness
The YouTube plan she shelved — and why she chose the Father over the plan
What is the Sabbath? The Hebrew meaning of Shabbat (to stop) and why God built this rhythm into the DNA of creation
Desire, restlessness, and the digital age — how advertising monetizes our restlessness and why only God can satisfy infinite desire
What happens to your mind, body, and soul when you fight the Sabbath rhythm — including what happened in France when they tried a 10-day work week
The statistics: Why Seventh-Day Adventists live 10 years longer than the average American
Two lists: Restfulness vs. Relentlessness — which one describes your life right now?
Practical tips for busy bodies who struggle with the "in-between" of rest — including how Tatum's Friday grocery habit accidentally created a more restful weekend
What the Sabbath actually looks like — the author's family practice and how to find what works for yours
Working from rest, not for rest — and why the Sabbath is the climax of the week, not just a break in it
Next episode: Simplicity

Key Quote
"The Sabbath isn't just a 24-hour time slot in your weekly schedule. It's a spirit of restfulness that goes with you throughout your week. A way of living with ease, gratitude, appreciation, peace, and prayer. A way of working from rest, not for rest, with nothing to prove. A way of bearing fruit from abiding and not ambition." — John Mark Comer, The Ruthless Elimination of HurryTatum's Word for Christian Entrepreneurs
As you grow in doing business God's way, don't let the working relationship replace the personal one. You can be in rhythm with God in your business and still have a void in your closeness to Him as His daughter. Tend to both. The business meetings with God matter — and so does just lying at His feet with nothing to say.
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In this deeply personal episode of Blessed and Bossed Up, Tatum returns after finals season to continue the book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer.
This conversation explores the first practice for “unhurrying” your life: silence and solitude.
From motherhood and entrepreneurship to law school and spiritual formation, Tatum shares how busyness, noise, and constant stimulation can quietly disconnect us from the presence of God — and how reclaiming moments of stillness can transform our spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being.
She unpacks:
Why boredom used to be a gift
How technology keeps us spiritually distracted
Learning to practice God’s presence in everyday moments
Why the wilderness is not weakness, but strength
The difference between solitude and isolation
How internal noise impacts peace, anxiety, and emotional health
Why silence is essential for healing, clarity, and abiding in Christ

This episode is both a conviction and an invitation: to slow down, reconnect with God, and create rhythms that cultivate peace instead of chaos.
Key Takeaways
Boredom Was Once Sacred
Before smartphones and endless stimulation, boredom created space for creativity, imagination, reflection, and connection. Today, we often fill every quiet moment with scrolling, entertainment, or mental noise — missing opportunities to connect with God.
God Is Present Beyond the Prayer Closet
Tatum reflects on a revelation that changed her relationship with God: His presence isn’t confined to designated “quiet times.” Through the Holy Spirit, God is present while washing dishes, driving, making coffee, or watching children play.
The Wilderness Is a Place of Strength
Referencing Jesus in the wilderness, this episode reframes difficult seasons not as punishment or weakness, but as places where God’s strength is revealed most powerfully.
Silence Is More Than External Quiet
True silence includes:
External silence (turning off noise and distractions)
Internal silence (quieting worry, fantasies, overthinking, anxiety, and mental chatter)
Solitude Is Healing
Solitude is not isolation. It is intentional time with God where healing, self-awareness, conviction, and restoration take place.
Discussion Topics from This Episode
Practicing the presence of God in ordinary moments
The emotional impact of constant stimulation
Why high-achieving women often struggle with silence
Internal criticism, perfectionism, and vulnerability
Creating rhythms of rest instead of cycles of burnout
How Jesus modeled retreat, prayer, and solitude
Mentioned in This Episode
The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry
A powerful book exploring how hurry, distraction, and overload are shaping modern spiritual life — and practical ways to slow down and reconnect with God.
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Tatum is in the trenches of her first-year law school finals, so this week she's bringing back one of her most foundational episodes — and as she always says, when an oldie comes back around, trust that the Lord is bringing it back for a reason. Whether you've heard it before or this is your first time, this one is worth sitting with.
In this episode, Tatum opens up about the early years of making God the CEO of her business and introduces a new series focused on the application of faith-driven entrepreneurship — not just the information, but the lived practice.
Before diving into strategy, marketing, or business plans, she makes the case that we have to start with sobriety: freeing ourselves from the influences, distractions, and cultural pressures that pull our focus away from the Lord and onto the metrics of the world.
In this episode, Tatum covers:
Why sobriety is the non-negotiable foundation before any business building can begin
The story of how obedience during a season of stripping and pruning led to her most fruitful breakthroughs
The moment she hit her first six-figure year — and why her reaction to it changed everything
How entrepreneurship can become its own kind of intoxication
A word for anyone being called to pioneer something new, even when it feels lonely and irrational
The 5 Substances to Detox From:
Success culture and performance pressure
Digital noise and comparison
Mixed mentorship
Materialism and metrics-based validation
Over-independence
Scriptures Referenced:
1 Peter 5:8
1 Thessalonians 5:6–8
Mark 14:38
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In this episode, we continue our book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, wrapping up the final chapter of Part Two and covering the intermission that sets the stage for Part Three.
We open with one of the most convicting observations in the book: Jesus was rarely — if ever — in a hurry. Through stories like the raising of Lazarus and the healing of Jairus's daughter, the author paints a picture of a Savior who was fiercely present, completely unhurried, and never agitated by interruption. That kind of peace has a name we hear a lot today: a regulated central nervous system. In this episode, we break down what that actually means, share some eye-opening data about how many of us are functioning in a state of chronic stress, and then make the case that Jesus didn't just model a regulated nervous system — He modeled something that surpasses the very standard modern science is striving toward.
We then dig into the concept of margin — the space between your load and your limits — and get practical about what it looks like to actually build it into your life. From contingency planning and backup childcare to protecting your mornings and setting an evening shutdown time, this episode gets real about what margin looks like for busy women wearing multiple hats.
From there, we explore the trellis metaphor: just as a trellis gives a vine the structure it needs to grow and bear fruit, a rule of life gives your walk with Jesus the structure it needs to actually take root. We talk about why Jesus must be the center — not career, not motherhood, not success — and how the structures we build either support or undermine that priority.
We close out with the intermission from the book, which sets up Part Three by distinguishing between discipline and spiritual discipline — and why the latter gives you access to a power that willpower alone simply cannot reach.
In this episode:
Why Jesus is the ultimate example of a regulated nervous system (and then some)
What nervous system dysregulation actually looks like — and the stats that prove it's a public health issue
The difference between a full schedule and a hurried one
How to create a contingency plan so that life's interruptions don't blow up your whole week
What a "rule of life" is and why it started in the monastery, not Silicon Valley
The trellis metaphor and why structure isn't the enemy of freedom — it's the path to it
How to approach the four Gospels the same way you'd read a biography of someone you admire
Willpower vs. spiritual discipline: why one gets you so far and the other gets you to Jesus

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In this episode, Tatum unpacks the difference between selfish ambition and godly ambition, challenging listeners to examine not just what they are pursuing, but why. Through personal reflection, biblical teaching, and practical examples, she reveals how easy it is to drift into misalignment—even with good intentions.
This conversation calls you into deeper self-awareness, Spirit-led decision-making, and true wholeness, emphasizing that sustainable success in both life and business must be rooted in God.
Key Takeaways
Ambition itself is not wrong, but its source determines whether it is aligned with God.
Self-awareness is critical for identifying the true motivations behind your goals.
External success can hide internal misalignment.
Godly ambition is led by the Holy Spirit, not by outcomes, validation, or trends.
Your definition of success will evolve as you grow in faith and maturity.
True alignment requires healing from the brokenness that often drives achievement.
Scriptures Referenced
Philippians 2:3 (ESV): Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.
James 3:13–16: A warning against selfish ambition, describing it as earthly and leading to disorder.
Galatians 5:22–23: The fruit of the Spirit as evidence of a Spirit-led life.
What is Selfish Ambition?
Selfish ambition is a drive rooted in:
Ego
Pride
Comparison
Control
Brokenness
Desire for validation
It is not always obvious. It can begin with good intentions but becomes misaligned when God is no longer the source.
What is Godly Ambition?
Godly ambition is:
Spirit-led
Rooted in obedience
Focused on serving God and others
Centered on bringing God glory rather than personal recognition
The defining factor is what is driving your decisions: the Holy Spirit or your desire for results.
The Subtle Shift from Godly to Selfish Ambition
A key example shared in the episode illustrates how this shift can happen:
You begin in obedience and full dependence on God
You experience growth and positive results
Results slow down or decline
You begin seeking external solutions (trends, algorithms, validation)
Your source shifts from God to performance
This shift is often gradual and difficult to detect without intentional self-examination.
How to Course Correct
When you feel frustrated or see changes in results:
Pause instead of reacting impulsively
Take your emotions to God honestly
Ask:
Did I get off track?
Is there something you want me to change?
Wait for His response
Obey, whether He says to adjust or remain consistent
The goal is to remain aligned with God, not to chase outcomes.
The Root Issue: Brokenness
Many forms of ambition are driven by unresolved issues such as:
A need for validation
Fear of lack or instability
Desire for control
Past wounds or trauma
Without healing, it becomes difficult to sustain a God-centered approach to success.
Measuring Your Motivation: The Fruit of the Spirit
Use the fruit of the Spirit as a diagnostic tool:
Love
Joy
Peace
Patience
Kindness
Goodness
Faithfulness
Gentleness
Self-control
If these are absent in your process or decision-making, it may indicate misalignment.
Action Step: Fast and Surrender
Tatum encourages listeners to:
Fast from 6 AM to 6 PM (if medically able)
Spend intentional time with God
Be honest about fears, control, and disappointment
Invite God to address the root causes of misalignment
This is not about behavior modification but heart transformation.
Reflection Questions
What is driving my ambition right now?
Am I seeking God’s approval or external validation?
Where have I prioritized outcomes over obedience?
What unresolved issues may be influencing my goals?

Final Encouragement
God is not focused on your performance—He is focused on your heart.
Seasons of slowing down, stagnation, or even decline are not punishment. They are often invitations to return to alignment, deepen intimacy with God, and rebuild from a place of wholeness

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