Blessed + Bossed Up

In this deeply personal episode of Blessed and Bossed Up, Tatum returns after finals season to continue the book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer.
This conversation explores the first practice for “unhurrying” your life: silence and solitude.
From motherhood and entrepreneurship to law school and spiritual formation, Tatum shares how busyness, noise, and constant stimulation can quietly disconnect us from the presence of God — and how reclaiming moments of stillness can transform our spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being.
She unpacks:
Why boredom used to be a gift
How technology keeps us spiritually distracted
Learning to practice God’s presence in everyday moments
Why the wilderness is not weakness, but strength
The difference between solitude and isolation
How internal noise impacts peace, anxiety, and emotional health
Why silence is essential for healing, clarity, and abiding in Christ

This episode is both a conviction and an invitation: to slow down, reconnect with God, and create rhythms that cultivate peace instead of chaos.
Key Takeaways
Boredom Was Once Sacred
Before smartphones and endless stimulation, boredom created space for creativity, imagination, reflection, and connection. Today, we often fill every quiet moment with scrolling, entertainment, or mental noise — missing opportunities to connect with God.
God Is Present Beyond the Prayer Closet
Tatum reflects on a revelation that changed her relationship with God: His presence isn’t confined to designated “quiet times.” Through the Holy Spirit, God is present while washing dishes, driving, making coffee, or watching children play.
The Wilderness Is a Place of Strength
Referencing Jesus in the wilderness, this episode reframes difficult seasons not as punishment or weakness, but as places where God’s strength is revealed most powerfully.
Silence Is More Than External Quiet
True silence includes:
External silence (turning off noise and distractions)
Internal silence (quieting worry, fantasies, overthinking, anxiety, and mental chatter)
Solitude Is Healing
Solitude is not isolation. It is intentional time with God where healing, self-awareness, conviction, and restoration take place.
Discussion Topics from This Episode
Practicing the presence of God in ordinary moments
The emotional impact of constant stimulation
Why high-achieving women often struggle with silence
Internal criticism, perfectionism, and vulnerability
Creating rhythms of rest instead of cycles of burnout
How Jesus modeled retreat, prayer, and solitude
Mentioned in This Episode
The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry
A powerful book exploring how hurry, distraction, and overload are shaping modern spiritual life — and practical ways to slow down and reconnect with God.
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Tatum is in the trenches of her first-year law school finals, so this week she's bringing back one of her most foundational episodes — and as she always says, when an oldie comes back around, trust that the Lord is bringing it back for a reason. Whether you've heard it before or this is your first time, this one is worth sitting with.
In this episode, Tatum opens up about the early years of making God the CEO of her business and introduces a new series focused on the application of faith-driven entrepreneurship — not just the information, but the lived practice.
Before diving into strategy, marketing, or business plans, she makes the case that we have to start with sobriety: freeing ourselves from the influences, distractions, and cultural pressures that pull our focus away from the Lord and onto the metrics of the world.
In this episode, Tatum covers:
Why sobriety is the non-negotiable foundation before any business building can begin
The story of how obedience during a season of stripping and pruning led to her most fruitful breakthroughs
The moment she hit her first six-figure year — and why her reaction to it changed everything
How entrepreneurship can become its own kind of intoxication
A word for anyone being called to pioneer something new, even when it feels lonely and irrational
The 5 Substances to Detox From:
Success culture and performance pressure
Digital noise and comparison
Mixed mentorship
Materialism and metrics-based validation
Over-independence
Scriptures Referenced:
1 Peter 5:8
1 Thessalonians 5:6–8
Mark 14:38
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In this episode, we continue our book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, wrapping up the final chapter of Part Two and covering the intermission that sets the stage for Part Three.
We open with one of the most convicting observations in the book: Jesus was rarely — if ever — in a hurry. Through stories like the raising of Lazarus and the healing of Jairus's daughter, the author paints a picture of a Savior who was fiercely present, completely unhurried, and never agitated by interruption. That kind of peace has a name we hear a lot today: a regulated central nervous system. In this episode, we break down what that actually means, share some eye-opening data about how many of us are functioning in a state of chronic stress, and then make the case that Jesus didn't just model a regulated nervous system — He modeled something that surpasses the very standard modern science is striving toward.
We then dig into the concept of margin — the space between your load and your limits — and get practical about what it looks like to actually build it into your life. From contingency planning and backup childcare to protecting your mornings and setting an evening shutdown time, this episode gets real about what margin looks like for busy women wearing multiple hats.
From there, we explore the trellis metaphor: just as a trellis gives a vine the structure it needs to grow and bear fruit, a rule of life gives your walk with Jesus the structure it needs to actually take root. We talk about why Jesus must be the center — not career, not motherhood, not success — and how the structures we build either support or undermine that priority.
We close out with the intermission from the book, which sets up Part Three by distinguishing between discipline and spiritual discipline — and why the latter gives you access to a power that willpower alone simply cannot reach.
In this episode:
Why Jesus is the ultimate example of a regulated nervous system (and then some)
What nervous system dysregulation actually looks like — and the stats that prove it's a public health issue
The difference between a full schedule and a hurried one
How to create a contingency plan so that life's interruptions don't blow up your whole week
What a "rule of life" is and why it started in the monastery, not Silicon Valley
The trellis metaphor and why structure isn't the enemy of freedom — it's the path to it
How to approach the four Gospels the same way you'd read a biography of someone you admire
Willpower vs. spiritual discipline: why one gets you so far and the other gets you to Jesus

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In this episode, Tatum unpacks the difference between selfish ambition and godly ambition, challenging listeners to examine not just what they are pursuing, but why. Through personal reflection, biblical teaching, and practical examples, she reveals how easy it is to drift into misalignment—even with good intentions.
This conversation calls you into deeper self-awareness, Spirit-led decision-making, and true wholeness, emphasizing that sustainable success in both life and business must be rooted in God.
Key Takeaways
Ambition itself is not wrong, but its source determines whether it is aligned with God.
Self-awareness is critical for identifying the true motivations behind your goals.
External success can hide internal misalignment.
Godly ambition is led by the Holy Spirit, not by outcomes, validation, or trends.
Your definition of success will evolve as you grow in faith and maturity.
True alignment requires healing from the brokenness that often drives achievement.
Scriptures Referenced
Philippians 2:3 (ESV): Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.
James 3:13–16: A warning against selfish ambition, describing it as earthly and leading to disorder.
Galatians 5:22–23: The fruit of the Spirit as evidence of a Spirit-led life.
What is Selfish Ambition?
Selfish ambition is a drive rooted in:
Ego
Pride
Comparison
Control
Brokenness
Desire for validation
It is not always obvious. It can begin with good intentions but becomes misaligned when God is no longer the source.
What is Godly Ambition?
Godly ambition is:
Spirit-led
Rooted in obedience
Focused on serving God and others
Centered on bringing God glory rather than personal recognition
The defining factor is what is driving your decisions: the Holy Spirit or your desire for results.
The Subtle Shift from Godly to Selfish Ambition
A key example shared in the episode illustrates how this shift can happen:
You begin in obedience and full dependence on God
You experience growth and positive results
Results slow down or decline
You begin seeking external solutions (trends, algorithms, validation)
Your source shifts from God to performance
This shift is often gradual and difficult to detect without intentional self-examination.
How to Course Correct
When you feel frustrated or see changes in results:
Pause instead of reacting impulsively
Take your emotions to God honestly
Ask:
Did I get off track?
Is there something you want me to change?
Wait for His response
Obey, whether He says to adjust or remain consistent
The goal is to remain aligned with God, not to chase outcomes.
The Root Issue: Brokenness
Many forms of ambition are driven by unresolved issues such as:
A need for validation
Fear of lack or instability
Desire for control
Past wounds or trauma
Without healing, it becomes difficult to sustain a God-centered approach to success.
Measuring Your Motivation: The Fruit of the Spirit
Use the fruit of the Spirit as a diagnostic tool:
Love
Joy
Peace
Patience
Kindness
Goodness
Faithfulness
Gentleness
Self-control
If these are absent in your process or decision-making, it may indicate misalignment.
Action Step: Fast and Surrender
Tatum encourages listeners to:
Fast from 6 AM to 6 PM (if medically able)
Spend intentional time with God
Be honest about fears, control, and disappointment
Invite God to address the root causes of misalignment
This is not about behavior modification but heart transformation.
Reflection Questions
What is driving my ambition right now?
Am I seeking God’s approval or external validation?
Where have I prioritized outcomes over obedience?
What unresolved issues may be influencing my goals?

Final Encouragement
God is not focused on your performance—He is focused on your heart.
Seasons of slowing down, stagnation, or even decline are not punishment. They are often invitations to return to alignment, deepen intimacy with God, and rebuild from a place of wholeness

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In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, we continue our book club discussion of The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, shifting from diagnosing the problem of hurry to uncovering the solution.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, burnt out, or stuck in a cycle of doing too much, this episode is your invitation to something deeper: the lifestyle of Jesus.
We explore what it truly means to follow Jesus—not just in belief, but in daily practice—and how embracing an apprenticeship mindset can transform your pace, your peace, and your purpose.
Key Takeaways:
1. The Answer Isn’t More Time—It’s a New Way to Live
We often think the solution to overwhelm is more hours in the day. But more time doesn’t fix a misaligned life—it just gives us more space to stay busy. True freedom comes from reordering our lives around God, not productivity.
2. You’re Not Just a Believer—You’re an Apprentice
To follow Jesus is to apprentice under Him:
Be with Jesus
Become like Jesus
Do what He would do
This perspective shifts your posture from control to humility, from striving to learning.
3. Your Life Reflects Your Lifestyle
If you’re experiencing:
Anxiety
Burnout
Constant stress
Disconnection from God
…it’s not random. Your current systems and rhythms are producing those results.
“Every system is perfectly designed to get the results that it gets.”4. You Can’t Want Jesus’ Life Without Adopting His Lifestyle
Many of us want:
His peace
His clarity
His joy
…but we’re not willing to live how He lived.
Following Jesus is not compartmentalized—it’s a full-life transformation, not just Sunday behavior or spiritual moments.
5. Burnout Is a Sign You’re Living Outside of God’s Design
Burnout isn’t just exhaustion—it’s a signal.
It often means you’ve made your dwelling place somewhere God never intended.
The invitation? Come back home.
6. Stop Praying Your Will—Start Seeking His
A powerful personal story highlights how easy it is to pray what we want instead of surrendering to God’s will.
When you approach God as an apprentice—not the one in charge—you:
Release control
Stay open to correction
Avoid unnecessary frustration and confusion
7. Self-Awareness Is a Spiritual Discipline
Slowing down enough to:
Notice your reactions
Evaluate your routines
Check your alignment
…is key to transformation.
Self-awareness allows you to course correct in real time and grow in spiritual maturity.
8. Jesus Doesn’t Offer Escape—He Offers Equipment
Life is hard. That’s not changing.
But instead of removing the weight, Jesus teaches us how to carry it differently:
With Him
At His pace
With His peace
An easy life isn’t promised—but an easy yoke is.Practical Application:
This week, begin living like an apprentice:
Pause throughout your day and ask: “What would Jesus do?”
Set reminders to check in with your thoughts, reactions, and stress levels
Pay attention to moments where you feel rushed, anxious, or out of alignment
Surrender areas where you’ve been forcing your will
Scripture Highlight:
Matthew 11:28–30
“Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest…”
Final Thought:
If you want the life of Jesus, you have to adopt the lifestyle of Jesus.
This isn’t about doing more—it’s about living differently.
Resources Mentioned:
The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer 

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