Blessed + Bossed Up

In this episode, we continue our journey through The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, diving into the third principle of unhurried living: simplicity. Before getting into the chapter, there is a quick reminder about the moving sale — physical copies of the God Is My CEO Prayer Journal, the podcast planner, and She Is Uncompromising are still available for just $5 each plus shipping. Orders of 10 or more ship free. Links are in the show notes.
The episode opens with a reflection on Sabbath practices from last week's discussion, including a practical tip for using AI tools like ChatGPT or Claude to generate hobby ideas that align with rest and worship — not work. From floral arranging to crafting custom tea blends, the goal is finding activities that slow you down and reconnect you with the beauty of God's creation.
The heart of the episode centers on what the author calls the "gospel of America" — the cultural belief that life's meaning is found in accumulation and consumption. Drawing on Jesus' own words about wealth, greed, and the deceitfulness of riches, listeners are challenged to honestly examine whether they would follow God even if success never looked the way they envisioned. The episode also takes a critical look at the history of American consumerism, the rise of lifestyle marketing and influencer culture, and the very real spiritual danger of allowing things — cars, clothes, brands, and clout — to become identity markers.
A Princeton study by Kahneman and Deaton, originally placing the happiness income threshold at $75,000 (approximately $108,500 in today's dollars), sparks a candid pushback: money is not the problem when it is used to buy freedom, experiences, and time rather than stuff. The episode challenges the author's framing while affirming his core point — the relentless accumulation of things accelerates hurry and pulls us away from the unhurried life Jesus modeled.
The episode wraps before the chapter's 12 practical tips on simplicity, which will be covered in the next episode.
Key Highlights
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Using AI tools to brainstorm Sabbath-friendly hobbies that cannot be turned into a business
The "gospel of America" — how consumerism has replaced religion as the dominant system of meaning in Western culture
A hard introspective question: would you still follow God if your business never produced the results on your vision board?
The history of how corporate America deliberately engineered a culture of consumption after World War II
A challenge to Christian content creators who promote products to examine whether that activity contributes to consumerism
The $75,000 happiness study — published in 2010, equivalent to roughly $108,500 today — and why a fixed happiness ceiling is worth questioning
The distinction between spending money on stuff versus spending money on freedom, time, and experiences
Next episode: the remaining half of the simplicity chapter, including 12 practical tips from the author

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We're continuing our book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, and this week we're diving into Part Three — the how of living an unhurried life. After covering silence and solitude last episode, today we go deep on one of the most underrated and underused spiritual practices in Christian spaces: the Sabbath.
But first — Tatum shares a raw and beautiful testimony from her quiet time this week, a moment on the floor in her daughter's room that turned into a soul-restoring encounter with the Father. She also gets real about a revelation she received for Christian entrepreneurs: the difference between your working relationship with God and your personal relationship with Him — and why both matter.
In This Episode
Testimony: What happened when Tatum lay on the floor, didn't know what to pray, and started speaking in tongues — and why she bawled her eyes out
The working relationship vs. the personal relationship with God — a word for veteran Christian entrepreneurs who have the rhythm down but may be missing the closeness
The YouTube plan she shelved — and why she chose the Father over the plan
What is the Sabbath? The Hebrew meaning of Shabbat (to stop) and why God built this rhythm into the DNA of creation
Desire, restlessness, and the digital age — how advertising monetizes our restlessness and why only God can satisfy infinite desire
What happens to your mind, body, and soul when you fight the Sabbath rhythm — including what happened in France when they tried a 10-day work week
The statistics: Why Seventh-Day Adventists live 10 years longer than the average American
Two lists: Restfulness vs. Relentlessness — which one describes your life right now?
Practical tips for busy bodies who struggle with the "in-between" of rest — including how Tatum's Friday grocery habit accidentally created a more restful weekend
What the Sabbath actually looks like — the author's family practice and how to find what works for yours
Working from rest, not for rest — and why the Sabbath is the climax of the week, not just a break in it
Next episode: Simplicity

Key Quote
"The Sabbath isn't just a 24-hour time slot in your weekly schedule. It's a spirit of restfulness that goes with you throughout your week. A way of living with ease, gratitude, appreciation, peace, and prayer. A way of working from rest, not for rest, with nothing to prove. A way of bearing fruit from abiding and not ambition." — John Mark Comer, The Ruthless Elimination of HurryTatum's Word for Christian Entrepreneurs
As you grow in doing business God's way, don't let the working relationship replace the personal one. You can be in rhythm with God in your business and still have a void in your closeness to Him as His daughter. Tend to both. The business meetings with God matter — and so does just lying at His feet with nothing to say.
Resources Mentioned
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In this deeply personal episode of Blessed and Bossed Up, Tatum returns after finals season to continue the book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer.
This conversation explores the first practice for “unhurrying” your life: silence and solitude.
From motherhood and entrepreneurship to law school and spiritual formation, Tatum shares how busyness, noise, and constant stimulation can quietly disconnect us from the presence of God — and how reclaiming moments of stillness can transform our spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being.
She unpacks:
Why boredom used to be a gift
How technology keeps us spiritually distracted
Learning to practice God’s presence in everyday moments
Why the wilderness is not weakness, but strength
The difference between solitude and isolation
How internal noise impacts peace, anxiety, and emotional health
Why silence is essential for healing, clarity, and abiding in Christ

This episode is both a conviction and an invitation: to slow down, reconnect with God, and create rhythms that cultivate peace instead of chaos.
Key Takeaways
Boredom Was Once Sacred
Before smartphones and endless stimulation, boredom created space for creativity, imagination, reflection, and connection. Today, we often fill every quiet moment with scrolling, entertainment, or mental noise — missing opportunities to connect with God.
God Is Present Beyond the Prayer Closet
Tatum reflects on a revelation that changed her relationship with God: His presence isn’t confined to designated “quiet times.” Through the Holy Spirit, God is present while washing dishes, driving, making coffee, or watching children play.
The Wilderness Is a Place of Strength
Referencing Jesus in the wilderness, this episode reframes difficult seasons not as punishment or weakness, but as places where God’s strength is revealed most powerfully.
Silence Is More Than External Quiet
True silence includes:
External silence (turning off noise and distractions)
Internal silence (quieting worry, fantasies, overthinking, anxiety, and mental chatter)
Solitude Is Healing
Solitude is not isolation. It is intentional time with God where healing, self-awareness, conviction, and restoration take place.
Discussion Topics from This Episode
Practicing the presence of God in ordinary moments
The emotional impact of constant stimulation
Why high-achieving women often struggle with silence
Internal criticism, perfectionism, and vulnerability
Creating rhythms of rest instead of cycles of burnout
How Jesus modeled retreat, prayer, and solitude
Mentioned in This Episode
The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry
A powerful book exploring how hurry, distraction, and overload are shaping modern spiritual life — and practical ways to slow down and reconnect with God.
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Tatum is in the trenches of her first-year law school finals, so this week she's bringing back one of her most foundational episodes — and as she always says, when an oldie comes back around, trust that the Lord is bringing it back for a reason. Whether you've heard it before or this is your first time, this one is worth sitting with.
In this episode, Tatum opens up about the early years of making God the CEO of her business and introduces a new series focused on the application of faith-driven entrepreneurship — not just the information, but the lived practice.
Before diving into strategy, marketing, or business plans, she makes the case that we have to start with sobriety: freeing ourselves from the influences, distractions, and cultural pressures that pull our focus away from the Lord and onto the metrics of the world.
In this episode, Tatum covers:
Why sobriety is the non-negotiable foundation before any business building can begin
The story of how obedience during a season of stripping and pruning led to her most fruitful breakthroughs
The moment she hit her first six-figure year — and why her reaction to it changed everything
How entrepreneurship can become its own kind of intoxication
A word for anyone being called to pioneer something new, even when it feels lonely and irrational
The 5 Substances to Detox From:
Success culture and performance pressure
Digital noise and comparison
Mixed mentorship
Materialism and metrics-based validation
Over-independence
Scriptures Referenced:
1 Peter 5:8
1 Thessalonians 5:6–8
Mark 14:38
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In this episode, we continue our book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, wrapping up the final chapter of Part Two and covering the intermission that sets the stage for Part Three.
We open with one of the most convicting observations in the book: Jesus was rarely — if ever — in a hurry. Through stories like the raising of Lazarus and the healing of Jairus's daughter, the author paints a picture of a Savior who was fiercely present, completely unhurried, and never agitated by interruption. That kind of peace has a name we hear a lot today: a regulated central nervous system. In this episode, we break down what that actually means, share some eye-opening data about how many of us are functioning in a state of chronic stress, and then make the case that Jesus didn't just model a regulated nervous system — He modeled something that surpasses the very standard modern science is striving toward.
We then dig into the concept of margin — the space between your load and your limits — and get practical about what it looks like to actually build it into your life. From contingency planning and backup childcare to protecting your mornings and setting an evening shutdown time, this episode gets real about what margin looks like for busy women wearing multiple hats.
From there, we explore the trellis metaphor: just as a trellis gives a vine the structure it needs to grow and bear fruit, a rule of life gives your walk with Jesus the structure it needs to actually take root. We talk about why Jesus must be the center — not career, not motherhood, not success — and how the structures we build either support or undermine that priority.
We close out with the intermission from the book, which sets up Part Three by distinguishing between discipline and spiritual discipline — and why the latter gives you access to a power that willpower alone simply cannot reach.
In this episode:
Why Jesus is the ultimate example of a regulated nervous system (and then some)
What nervous system dysregulation actually looks like — and the stats that prove it's a public health issue
The difference between a full schedule and a hurried one
How to create a contingency plan so that life's interruptions don't blow up your whole week
What a "rule of life" is and why it started in the monastery, not Silicon Valley
The trellis metaphor and why structure isn't the enemy of freedom — it's the path to it
How to approach the four Gospels the same way you'd read a biography of someone you admire
Willpower vs. spiritual discipline: why one gets you so far and the other gets you to Jesus

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