BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko

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Welcome back to Being Her, where we are officially entering our selfish era. After years of talking about how to get over an ex, move from anxious to secure attachment, and create the life you want, Margarita has realised the answer to all of it is the same: become a little bit more selfish. Not selfish as in taking from others, but deliciously selfish, putting yourself at the centre of your own life and owning it. In this episode, Margarita explains why “decentring men” keeps you thinking about men, why being the good girl hasn’t made you happier or more valued, and how guilt conditioning keeps women convenient instead of unforgettable. She gets candid about her own people-pleasing, finally buying herself caviar, and the difference between being needed and being valued. She also reveals Selfish 30, her brand new 30-day challenge to help you stop delegating your life to others and actually start doing the behaviours of a woman who puts herself first.

In this episode:
1. How is being a good girl actually working out for you
2. Your life is a result of what you repeatedly prioritise
3. Stop volunteering for self sacrifice nobody is giving you a medal
4. Why being selfish feels so uncomfortable
5. Nobody is coming to hand you the life you want
6. Selfish women ask for what they want because they know what they want
7. Become less available to everyone else to become more available to yourself
8. Stop confusing being needed with being valued
9. You cannot think your way into becoming a different woman you have to do the behaviours
10. Selfish 30, 30 days to become the woman you actually want to be

If you are ready to stop thinking about it and actually do something, this is your sign.

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This week’s episode comes straight from the DMs: “Can you please make a video about your partner sleeping soundly while you are crying next to him?” It’s a message Margarita gets often, and one she lived herself in her twenties. The internet’s answer is usually just “leave him,” but Margarita argues that skips the most important part: understanding what is actually happening. In this episode, she breaks down the pursue-withdraw dynamic, why men and women experience conflict so differently, and how anxious and avoidant partners are both trying to feel safe in opposite ways. She gets candid about emotional sovereignty, rumination, and handing your emotional weather to someone else. She also explains how to tell a healthy break from stonewalling, emotional overwhelm from emotional punishment, and the one simple test that shows whether it really is time to leave him.

In this episode:
1. Three separate reasons this could be happening and they are all different
2. The pursue withdraw dynamic and why it is so painful
3. Anxious versus avoidant attachment and why these two always find each other
4. Sleep does not prove emotional indifference
5. Why women ruminate and men shut down during conflict
6. Emotional invalidation versus nervous system overload
7. Stonewalling versus taking a healthy break
8. Why women carry the emotional labour of the whole relationship
9. Contempt and emotional punishment disguised as withdrawal
10. What the next day actually tells you about everything

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Mentioned in this episode:
Unbothered by Margarita Nazarenko

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Episode mentioned: The Bossticks with Margarita Nazarenko
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Books mentioned:
Unbothered by Margarita Nazarenko
The New Rules by Margarita Nazarenko
To learn more about Margarita Nazarenko, visit https://www.margaritanazarenko.com

Welcome back to Being Her, where today it’s getting juicy, spicy and real life. Margarita is launching her new Substack, Unfiltered with Margarita, and using a viral moment from her recent appearance on The Bossticks to unpack why so many women feel burnt out, frazzled and in constant conflict with the people they love. When a clip about her husband forgetting the diapers in Las Vegas blew up online, the comment section revealed something bigger: women are carrying loads that were never theirs to carry. In this episode, Margarita breaks down the psychology of over-functioning, the difference between caring and controlling, and why stepping back and letting natural consequences play out can transform your relationships. She gets candid about her own over-functioning roots as the child of an immigrant, the mental load, catastrophizing, and why being unbothered means knowing exactly what deserves your energy. As always, 10 takeaways and 10 actionable steps.

In this episode:
1. Stop turning inconveniences into emergencies
2. You are not an emergency service for every adult in your life
3. The psychology of over functioning in a family system
4. Stop confusing caring with controlling
5. Consequences are often the best teacher, stop removing them
6. Your nervous system does not know you are arguing about small things
7. Stop treating every mistake as evidence of something bigger
8. Women are exhausted from monitoring everything
9. You cannot complain about carrying everything while refusing to put it down
10. Being unbothered means knowing what actually deserves your energy

If you do everything and nobody notices, if you correct how everyone else does things because your way is right, or if you are exhausted but cannot actually let go, this one is going to hit home.

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You already know what you need to do. You are just scared of what it is going to cost you.

Margarita is back from her book tour in America, freshly moved into a half renovated house with two small children, and she has things to say.

In this episode she shares the 10 mindset shifts that came up for her on the trip, the permissions she had to stop waiting for, and why the life you want is already inside you and has been the whole time.

In this episode:
1. You are probably not confused you are just scared of the consequences
2. Stop collecting advice you already have the answer
3. Distance tells you things proximity cannot
4. Your next life requires disappointing someone from your current one
5. Stop waiting to feel ready confidence only comes after evidence
6. When you transform the old identity will fight back hard
7. Stop making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions
8. Your life changes when you stop negotiating with what you know
9. There is no future version of you coming to save you
10. Give yourself until the end of the year to prove you can do hard things

If you know what you need to do but cannot bring yourself to do it, if you keep asking everyone else what you should do with your life, or if you are waiting to feel ready before you start, this one is for you.

This is your sign. Lock in.

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Join me for the Final round of The Unbothered Woman Ever - We start October 2nd.

She was a fashion editor at GQ and Allure. She built a fashion line that dressed every A list celebrity. Then covid shut it all down.

And at 52 years old she started over. And built the biggest success of her entire career.

In this episode Margarita sits down with Mary Alice Haney in Hollywood and has the conversation every woman in her thirties, forties and fifties needs to hear. About reinvention. About the why not me mentality. About what it actually costs to build something.

We talk about how Mary went from fashion editor to founder to podcaster, why confidence is not something you wait for it is something you fake until it becomes real, what nobody tells you about balancing motherhood and ambition, why your biggest success might still be ahead of you, and why your age and your children are not the excuses you think they are.

If you have ever thought you are too old, too busy, too far behind, or that the window has closed, this episode will change your mind.

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