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This episode originally aired on 04/14/2026
What does it really take to rebrand your life? In this episode of Awf The Record, Mona and Jeannette sit down with Les, host of the Balanced Black Girl podcast, to talk about reinvention, discipline, and stepping into the person you want to be.
Les shares her journey of rebranding—not as a one-time makeover, but as a daily commitment to intentional growth. She dives into the mindset shifts that helped her stay consistent, the habits that shaped her transformation, and how financial discipline played a key role in her journey.
This conversation breaks down the difference between wanting change and actually making it happen. Les explains why rebranding isn’t about aesthetics but about aligning your identity with your actions. She shares how she holds herself accountable, the power of daily deposits, and why tracking progress is key to building confidence. She also opens up about overcoming a scarcity mindset and embracing abundance, recognizing that more is always possible.
If you’ve ever felt stuck or unsure about how to start your rebrand, this episode is the reality check and motivation you need. Rebranding isn’t a look—it’s a lifestyle. Tune in now and start shaping the future you.

KEY POINTS 
- Les’s journey as a content creator and her rebrand
- Experiences with rebranding and its challenges
- How to take actionable steps towards rebranding
- The importance of willingness to try new experiences 
- Mona and Jeannette’s strategies to stay disciplined 
- Have the “why” to stay motivated 
- Celebrating wins and overcoming challenges 
- On optimizing daily routines and habits
- The main role of social media and accountability 

QUOTES 

“Instead of being like, do I want to get up and do this thing today? I tell myself: I am a person who does this thing, whether that's working out or whether that's like reading.” – Les Alfred

“It's important to be mindful of what you consume because, sometimes, we tend to try to embody other people's habits. I tell people all the time: ‘Don't try to do what I do’.” – Les Alfred

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Les Alfred 

IG | @balancedles

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This episode originally aired on 04/10/2026 
Dating isn’t just about having chemistry or “vibes”—it’s actually data. 
In this eye-opening episode of Awf The Record, dating and relationship expert Anwar White joins Jeannette and Mona to break down the real numbers behind modern dating—and why Black and Brown women need a different playbook.
From match rates to money, Anwar exposes the hard truths about dating in today’s age: how systemic issues impact your love life, why marriage isn’t always a financial win for Black women, and what the data actually says about dating success. But this isn’t about discouragement—it’s about empowerment.
He dives into why dating outside your race isn’t betrayal, it’s strategy. Why setting boundaries is non-negotiable. And why the real glow-up starts with emotional healing and self-worth.
If you’re ready to stop guessing and start dating with clarity and confidence, this one’s for you.

KEY POINTS

- Dating: qualitative and quantitative analysis 
- Navigating dating journeys for black and brown women 
- Transitioning to dating coaching as a career 
- Challenges and misconceptions in dating (as women) 
- The societal pressure, setting realistic standards
- Difference between feminine and masculine energy 
- Strategies for successful dating 
- On navigating cultural and racial preferences 
- Is using dating apps still effective? 
- Dating 101: Set boundaries and timeline 
- Anwar’s client approach as a dating coach 

QUOTES 

“Your type is your trauma. And when you're able to actually heal the trauma, you will have the opportunity to actually widen your net and find your person.” – Anwar White

“If a man is truly in his masculine, his pleasure is derived from your pleasure.”  – Anwar White

“I don't believe in potential. I think potential is not real, it's imaginary, [and] it's a projection of what you want, but not what is.”  – Anwar White

“You become irresistible when you become irresistible to yourself, which is like, you just can't get enough of you, and that will radiate and attract everyone.”  – Anwar White

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Anwar White

IG | @datingcoachanwar
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Etiquette is not about being stiff, fake, or elitist. It is about knowing how to move through a room, make people feel seen, and carry yourself with confidence. In this segment, etiquette expert Elaine Swann breaks down the everyday habits that can instantly change how people experience you, from giving a proper handshake to greeting people, making a graceful exit, and commanding presence without doing too much. Elaine also shares why confidence is not about being loud or perfect, but about slowing down, using your voice with intention, and honoring the people who are actually present. Whether you are at a networking event, dinner party, Zoom meeting, or family gathering, this conversation is a reminder that the small things speak loudly.

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Elaine Swann 

Website | www.elaineswann.com
IG | @elaineswann

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“Etiquette, and the concept behind it, is accessible, and it's for everyone.” –  Elaine Swann
In this episode of Awf The Record, Elaine joins Jeannette Reyes and Mona Kosar Abdi for a crash course in modern etiquette, from fine dining, networking, Zoom meetings, and corporate happy hours to dating, ghosting, apologies, compliments, and navigating luxury spaces without feeling like you do not belong. She breaks down what the rich actually do differently, why confidence is often quieter than we think, and how the habits we overlook, like oversharing, arguing to prove a point, or making people wait, may be quietly sabotaging us.

KEY POINTS 

00:00 - Cold open: Elaine Swann previews the etiquette mistakes quietly sabotaging you
01:38 - Introduction to Elaine Swann and the crash course in modern etiquette
02:38 - Etiquette is about how you show up and how you make people feel
09:22 - The handshake mistake people still make in professional settings
11:37 - Why we need to bring back greeting people and being neighborly
14:14 - How eye contact, posture, body language, and voice signal confidence
18:00 - Why hosts should start on time and honor the people who are present
22:03 - What the rich and famous actually do differently with luxury etiquette
27:55 - Fine dining rules that help you feel more confident at the table
32:58 - Relationship etiquette and the “shower rule”
38:23 - The proper way to accept an apology and receive a compliment
40:54 - Is etiquette rooted in white supremacy or used to police people of color?
44:42 - How to navigate alcohol and relationship-building in corporate spaces
47:28 - Go Off or Log Off: Elaine rules on modern etiquette dilemmas

QUOTES 

“Etiquette is being aware of how you present yourself to other people, and it is also, it also has to do with how you make others feel.” – Elaine Swann 

“Every single thing that comes out of your mouth, and every single thing you do becomes some part of somebody's history.” – Elaine Swann 

“Honor the people who are present.” – Elaine Swann 

“In relationships, you cannot change people. What you have to do is sometimes shift and turn that nozzle the other way.” – Elaine Swann 

GUEST RESOURCES

Elaine Swann 

Website | https://www.elaineswann.com/ 
IG | https://www.instagram.com/elaineswann/ 

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WeezyWTF gets honest about shame, sexuality, marriage, and the rules society still places on women. She reflects on growing up confident enough to reject outside judgment, building a community that made sexual liberation feel safe, and realizing even she had internalized hierarchies around sex, promiscuity, and respectability. From sugar dating to bisexuality, non-monogamy, marriage, and the pressure to be “chosen,” Weezy breaks down why women are still treated as more worthy once a man validates them with a ring.

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Weezy WTF 
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IG: @weezywtf 

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