Perimenopause Symptoms, Stages, and Self-Advocacy with Xoli Madlala.
Are you feeling lost in the confusing world of perimenopause? Hot flashes, mood swings, sleep troubles... where do you even begin?
Join Mpeo Nkosi as she sits down with South African menopause advocate Xoli Madlala, author of The Perimenopausal Globetrotter, to unravel the mysteries of this significant life transition. In this candid conversation, they dive into the 34 symptoms of perimenopause, discuss how to advocate for yourself with your doctor, and share practical tips for thriving through this often-challenging time. Learn about healthy lifestyle changes, the importance of partner support, and how to navigate the cultural and religious perspectives surrounding menopause.
If you're ready to take control of your health and embrace this new chapter, this episode is for you!
You can follow Xoli Madlala on @maskoffwithxoli on Instagram to order her book.
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THE ART OF SELF-FORGIVENESS
Meet yourself with compassion.
In this powerful episode, Mpeo Nkosi and Coach Tumi Sibanda dive deep into the vital practice of self-forgiveness. If you've ever struggled with letting go of past decisions, this episode is for you.
Coach Tumi Sibanda is a recalibration catalyst, author, and coach who helps professionals and entrepreneurs align their lives with their authentic selves. She is the author of "You Are Enough" and owns SAHNO (Sahno.africa), a company focused on personal and professional development.
Key Discussion Points:
• Understanding the difference between shame and guilt, and how shame can hinder self-acceptance.
• The importance of recognising human evolution and change in the context of personal growth.
• A practical four-step process for moving forward from past mistakes: acknowledgment, personal responsibility, emotional processing, and forgiveness.
• The power of daily rituals, including a mirror session, to reinforce self-forgiveness and commitment.
• How idealistic notions and societal pressures can drive decisions that aren't aligned with your true values.
• The role of self-awareness in making deliberate life decisions and aligning your choices with your authentic self.
• How to make new choices
• How to give yourself some grace Tumi Sibanda's website
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CO-PARENTING TRUTH: DON'T WEAPONISE YOUR CHILDREN
Thandi Domingo on Single Parenting, Co-Parenting, and Blended Families.
In this episode, Mpeo Nkosi welcomes Thandi Domingo, a leading coach specialising in single parenting, co-parenting strategies, and the unique dynamics of blended families. She is the author of "To Single Moms with Love" and co-author of "The Blended and the Beautiful." Thandi shares her transformative personal journey from navigating the challenges of single motherhood to successfully co-parenting and building a thriving blended family.
Thandi dives into key topics such as:
• The "Single Mom" Label: Understanding its impact and redefining motherhood beyond marital status.
• Co-Parenting Evolution: From parallel parenting to effective communication and a functional co-parenting relationship.
• Mediation in Co-Parenting: How mediation can regulate emotions, establish structure, and create court-ordered parenting plans that prioritise children's needs.
• Dating as a Single Parent: Guidance on timing, introducing new partners, and navigating the complexities of dating while parenting.
• Blended Family Dynamics: The importance of pre-marital counselling, communication, and understanding in blended family situations.
• Restoring the Black Family: Thandi's vision for empowering women and encouraging men to embrace their roles in nurturing children. Thandi and Lunga's episode on The Conversation Capital with Ursula Mariani · Co-Parenting WorkBook and Resource
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WHAT WILL THE NEIGHBOURS SAY?
Go Deeper with Coach Alicia - Breaking Free from Fragile Peace.
Welcome back to "Go Deeper," the segment where host Mpeo Nkosi and Coach Alicia Pieterse dive into the questions that linger after thought-provoking guest interviews. This week, they unpack the concept of "fragile peace" and its impact on individuals and communities.
Inspired by a conversation with Lesedi Molefi, author of Patient 12A, on the episode “The Cost of Fragile Peace” Mpeo and Coach Alicia explore the idea of "fragile peace" and how we prioritise silence over truth to maintain appearances. We discuss how this dynamic manifests in black and brown communities, the generational impact of suppressing emotions, and the steps individuals can take to break free from these harmful cycles.
Key Discussion Points:
• Defining "fragile peace" and its prevalence in certain cultural contexts.
• The roots of fragile peace in working-class families and the pressure to maintain appearances.
• The generational impact of fragile peace: how trauma and coping mechanisms are passed down.
• The cost of suppression and pretence: depression, substance abuse, and numbing behaviours.
• The importance of breaking the cycle of silence and finding the courage to speak truth.
• The difference between loyalty and complicity.
• Practical steps for breaking free from fragile peace: self-reflection, honest conversations, and seeking professional help.
• The power of finding your voice and creating safety for authentic expression.
• The importance of starting with small changes in your immediate environment.
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THE COST OF FRAGILE PEACE
Mental Health & Systemic Issues in South Africa (Part 2).
Mpeo Nkosi continues her powerful conversation with Lesedi Molefi, author of Patient 12A, exploring the profound impact of systemic issues on mental health in South Africa. Lesedi shares his experiences navigating poverty, confronting suppressed anger, and overcoming the stigma surrounding mental health within his community. He challenges the notion of “fragile peace,” highlighting the need for authentic emotional expression and systemic change. This essential episode tackles complex issues of race, trauma, and societal structures, offering valuable insights into mental health and well-being.
Key Discussion Points:
- Emotional Suppression & Depression: Lesedi explains how societal pressures and personal experiences led to the suppression of emotions.
- Anger and Trauma: The various ways suppressed anger can manifest, the importance of healthy anger expression.
- Privilege and Poverty: Lesedi's unique experiences navigating both privilege and poverty and how it shaped his life.
- Workplace Dynamics & Trauma: The challenges faced by Black professionals in corporate environments, the rewards of high-functioning depression, and the suppression of authentic emotions.
- Mental Health Stigma: The stigma surrounding mental health in Black communities, historical factors contributing to this stigma.
- The Cost of Fragile Peace: A critical examination of the detrimental effects of maintaining a façade of peace over addressing family issues. Purchase this powerful memoir here
The Power Within.
A podcast about the questions we all face as we navigate life, love, work, purpose, and the absurdity of middle life. Together, we’ll laugh, learn, and dig deep into what it means to face this season with courage, grace, and authenticity.
Let’s unlock the power that’s already within us.
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