Trin Told Me

this is a heavy one loves, so please read this first 🤍 this episode talks about sexual assault, what it is, what it isn't, and how to protect yourself. if that's a hard topic for you right now, listen when you feel safe or skip this one. i love you either way.
i read a story this week that had me crying all day, and i couldn't stop thinking about the excuse "boys will be boys" — the thing we're told when something happens, and the thing that lets it keep happening. so we're talking about it. all of it.
in this episode:
🎙️ the story that broke me and why that excuse needs to die
💬 the "does it count?" questions so many of you have been carrying alone
🧠 why freezing is your brain protecting you, not you agreeing
🗣️ how to say no and actually mean it, without the guilt
🤍 and how to stop blaming yourself and start healing
if something happened to you — i believe you. it counted. it wasn't your fault.
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this is a heavy one loves, so please read this first 🤍 this episode talks about sexual assault, what it is, what it isn't, and how to protect yourself. if that's a hard topic for you right now, listen when you feel safe or skip this one. i love you either way.
i read a story this week that had me crying all day, and i couldn't stop thinking about the excuse "boys will be boys" — the thing we're told when something happens, and the thing that lets it keep happening. so we're talking about it. all of it.
in this episode:
🎙️ the story that broke me and why that excuse needs to die
💬 your stories — the "does it count?" questions so many of you have been carrying alone
🧠 why freezing is your brain protecting you, not you agreeing
🗣️ how to say no and actually mean it, without the guilt
🤍 and how to stop blaming yourself and start healing
if something happened to you — i believe you. it counted. it wasn't your fault.
📞RAINN: 1-800-656-4673
📱 crisis text line: text HOME to 741741
new episodes every friday 🫶🏻
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It’s officially cuffing season, and I fear I need to save some of you from yourselves. 😭🍂
In this episode, I’m giving you my ultimate Cuffing Season Survival Guide because just because it’s getting colder, everyone’s posting their cute fall dates, and you suddenly want someone to go to the pumpkin patch with does NOT mean it’s time to lower your standards.
We’re talking about why cuffing season can make being single feel so much more dramatic than it actually is, the situationship red flags I need you to stop ignoring, mixed signals, getting over an ex, friendship drama, and how to know when it’s time to stay, walk away, or talk it out.
I’m also reading some of your DMs and giving you my big-sister advice on messy situationships, trust issues, breaks, breakups, confusing men, and that horrible little feeling of wanting a relationship just because it seems like everyone around you has one.
And most importantly, I want you to remember that you do NOT need a relationship to romanticize this season of your life. Go on the friend dates. Get the pumpkin coffee. Have the sleepovers. Wear the cute fall outfits. Go to the haunted house. Build a life you’re obsessed with—with or without a boyfriend.
Because being lonely for a season is a whole lot better than getting cuffed to the wrong person just because you were cold. 😭
The right person won’t need a season to choose you. 💗
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Can you keep a guy interested without having sex with him? Spoiler: YES. 💋In this episode, we’re talking about how to build attraction, chemistry, emotional connection, and sexual tension without ever feeling like you have to cross your own boundaries to keep someone around.We get into the difference between a guy genuinely liking *you* versus simply wanting something physical, how to create anticipation without sex, and what to say when someone starts pressuring you or making you feel guilty for saying no. Because your boundaries aren't something you have to earn the right to have—and the right person isn't going to require you to abandon them just to keep their attention.Then we answer some of your questions about waiting until marriage, first kisses, guys with different expectations around physical intimacy, confusing touch, consent, and knowing when a situation needs to be brought to a trusted adult. We also talk about recognizing when someone is testing your boundaries and why you're ALWAYS allowed to say no, change your mind, or leave—even if you previously said yes.And obviously, we had to put ourselves to the test with STAY, WALK, OR TALK IT OUT: What if he respects your no immediately? Keeps asking after you've said no? Hits you with the dreaded “if you loved me, you would”? Supports your decision to wait? Gets annoyed when you set a boundary? We're giving our verdict on all of it.Whether you're waiting until marriage, waiting for the right person, not ready yet, or simply don't want to—you never owe someone access to your body to earn their love or attention.The person who's right for you won't need you to sacrifice your boundaries to keep them interested. 💗Welcome back, queens. Let's talk about it.
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My twin KJ and I tried something new: I read your DMs out loud and we both write our advice on a card — no peeking, no cheating — then reveal to see if twin telepathy is real or if we're actually two different people lol. This episode we get into a friend acting way too comfortable around a crush, a "joke" from a guy friend that actually hurt, the ick that keeps ruining my talking stages, and figuring out if a guy who's amazing in person but dry over text actually likes you. We also do story time on a theme park love triangle gone wrong, quick hits on cuddling and dead-end snap streaks, and our game "Would She Say It or Would I?" — guessing red flag vs. no big deal on stuff like liked exes' photos at 2am, "I don't like labels," and being told you're "not like other girls." Ending it soft with something I needed to hear during a hard season, in case you do too.
Send me your story or question — KJ and I might answer it blind on the next one.

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