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• Double Dates & Separation: Navigating Couple Friendships

  When was the last time you thought about the complex dance of couple friendships? Those relationships that form when marriages intertwine, creating communities that laugh together, pray together, and sometimes even weather the storm when one marriage doesn't survive.In this raw, honest conversation, we dive deep into the beautiful mess of couple friendships – exploring everything from the strength these relationships bring during our lowest moments to the uncomfortable reality of comparison that can poison even the closest bonds. As one guest powerfully shares, "When me and mine are at our lowest point, we have a community that carries us where we are weak." But what happens when that same community faces the test of a marriage ending?We tackle the delicate dance of boundaries – knowing when to step in and when to step back, understanding that "how you iron cotton is not how you iron linen." Each friendship requires its own care and consideration. From navigating late-night texts to another's spouse to deciding how much of your marriage struggles to share, we offer practical wisdom for maintaining healthy connections without crossing lines.Most powerfully, we confront the reality of supporting friends through separation and divorce. As one participant vulnerably shares from personal experience, "I am Lebu before I am the wife" – a profound reminder that true friendship recognizes the person beyond their marital status. You'll hear first-hand accounts of how presence matters more than perfect words during these transitions, and how true community shows up not with judgment but with practical support and unconditional love.Whether you're building your couple friendship circle or navigating the changing dynamics when relationships shift, this conversation offers both comfort and challenge. Join us as we explore why, despite all the complexities, creating community around our marriages remains a risk worth taking.Thank you for tuning in beloveds. Don’t forget to comment , rate the podcast and share . Watch the Podcast here: https://youtube.com/@bulimakhubo?si=Whq1AiPP_Big4hyr Let’s connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/buli_makhubo?igsh=MWR5ZDExcndubDk1bw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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• Fathers are parents too: Redefining What It Means to Be a Dad

  What does it truly mean to be a present father? Beyond showing up at occasional soccer games or providing financially, the depth of fatherhood remains murky territory for many men—especially those who grew up without strong father figures themselves.This eye-opening conversation with Sbu Zikalala takes us on a journey across continents as he shares how moving from South Africa to Taiwan completely transformed his understanding of what engaged fatherhood looks like. The cultural differences revealed a startling truth: many fathers don't realize how much more they could be bringing to their families."Being with your children IS being occupied," Sbu explains, challenging the common mindset that time with children is somehow less productive than other activities. This powerful perspective shift represents just one of many practical insights shared throughout our discussion. We explore his surprising hierarchy of fatherhood priorities—with finances and security at the top, and love appearing last—not because love matters less, but because for many men, love is demonstrated through these practical expressions rather than treated as a separate emotional currency.For fathers who don't live with their children, we offer honest guidance about making the most of a non-ideal situation. And for those struggling with spiritual leadership, Sbu provides accessible approaches that don't require biblical expertise but still position fathers as family anchors.Whether you're a new father, a seasoned dad looking to level up your involvement, or someone trying to understand the men in your life better, this conversation offers fresh perspectives on raising the bar for what present fatherhood can and should be. Join us as we work to create a clearer template for engaged fatherhood—one that benefits children, strengthens partnerships, and fulfills men in one of their most important roles.Thank you for tuning in beloveds. Don’t forget to comment , rate the podcast and share . Watch the Podcast here: https://youtube.com/@bulimakhubo?si=Whq1AiPP_Big4hyr Let’s connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/buli_makhubo?igsh=MWR5ZDExcndubDk1bw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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• Whose Voice Is Steering Your Life?

  We're in a critical season of shifting where the voices we listen to will determine our direction and decisions. Guard your heart, for out of it flow the decisions that will steer your entire life.• When things reach our ears, they affect our heart, and our decisions are a result of what we hear• The voice of distraction pulls our attention away from God's mandate without being inherently bad• Misdirecting voices lure us away from our God-given purpose, causing us to invest in wrong directions• Our inner voice (flesh) cannot be trusted until it's fully aligned with the Holy Spirit• Popular figures don't automatically have sound doctrine—many use Jesus as a brand without substance• Read a chapter of the Bible daily to ground yourself in God's voice• Don't despise who God's word might come through—size of following doesn't equal spiritual authority• Take inventory of current voices in your life and be willing to cut cords with those not leading to GodTake stock of who you're listening to this season. If you unplugged from all your current influences for three months, would you still know what to do with your life?Thank you for tuning in beloveds. Don’t forget to comment , rate the podcast and share . Watch the Podcast here: https://youtube.com/@bulimakhubo?si=Whq1AiPP_Big4hyr Let’s connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/buli_makhubo?igsh=MWR5ZDExcndubDk1bw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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• Your marriage bed doesn't have to be a battlefield.

  Movies portray an idealized version of marriage where the honeymoon phase never ends, but real intimacy often includes unexpected challenges that couples aren't prepared to discuss openly.• Sexual compatibility isn't automatic but requires active cultivation through communication and effort• Understanding each other's desires and expectations is fundamental to building a healthy sex life• Knowledge about hormonal cycles helps couples navigate libido differences without taking them personally• Emotional connection plays a crucial role in physical intimacy, especially for women• Supplements and medical advice can help address libido issues when appropriate• Difficult seasons like grief or stress require patience, grace, and ongoing communication• Sex isn't a reward but a necessity in marriage that requires mutual service and understandingEmail questions to [email protected] if you're shy about commenting below. We don't promise perfection, just authenticity and the boldness to discuss what others might avoid.Thank you for tuning in beloveds. Don’t forget to comment , rate the podcast and share . Watch the Podcast here: https://youtube.com/@bulimakhubo?si=Whq1AiPP_Big4hyr Let’s connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/buli_makhubo?igsh=MWR5ZDExcndubDk1bw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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• Navigating Seasons of Shift: When God Says "It's Time to Move"

  Navigating seasons of shift requires understanding the difference between stewarding what God gives versus owning it as our identity. When God leads us through transitions, we must learn to recognize the signals and trust His provision for what comes next.• The biblical story of Elijah at the brook illustrates how God provides in one season before calling us to move• Spiritual maturity develops when we learn to yield to God's timing rather than clinging to comfortable seasons• Intimacy with God through consistent prayer and Bible study helps us recognize divine signals of upcoming transitions• Success doesn't always indicate alignment with God's will, and hardship doesn't mean we're out of His will• Discomfort, boredom, or restlessness often signal that a season is ending and God is preparing something new• Our true identity is found in who God created us to be before any experiences or achievements• Winter seasons of pruning are necessary for growth and prepare us for summer seasons of abundance• We should steward what God gives us without making it our identity, knowing seasons will changeGod is freeing you for what comes next. When you release your grip on the current season and trust Him with the transition, you'll discover provision you never imagined on the other side.Thank you for tuning in beloveds. Don’t forget to comment , rate the podcast and share . Watch the Podcast here: https://youtube.com/@bulimakhubo?si=Whq1AiPP_Big4hyr Let’s connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/buli_makhubo?igsh=MWR5ZDExcndubDk1bw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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