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A month ago she found out. He denied it, then admitted it. She still doesn't know if she has the full story.

She's been talking to her pastor, her friends, anyone who will listen. Everyone keeps telling her the same thing — rebuild trust, do the work, give it time. She knows they mean well. But at two in the morning when she can't stop replaying everything, that advice doesn't tell her what to actually do.

Corey and Pam sit with her story this week — not to fix it, not to hand her a reconciliation roadmap, but to name what's actually happening and what's actually hers to do something about.

Including the question nobody's asking her that matters more than the one everybody is.

It's not how do I trust him again.

It's how do I learn to trust myself with someone who's proven they're capable of this?

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A listener asked a simple question: is there such a thing as Christian erotica? They'd done the research, found some authors, and sent the links.

But that's not really what they were asking.

What they were asking — what most of us are asking when we frame a question that way — is: can someone just tell me if this is okay?

Corey and Pam don't answer that question. Instead they go after the one underneath it — what does it mean that you need permission? What's the mechanism underneath erotica, Christian or otherwise? And what would it look like to actually examine what you believe rather than borrowing someone else's verdict?

Plus — the Song of Solomon is in the Bible. So what exactly are we arguing about?

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He does oral sex almost every time. Toys every time. Bondage, spanking, dirty talk — all things he pushed through because she wanted them. She agreed to reciprocate. She hasn't. Not once.

So is he being selfish for wanting more?

That's not quite the right question.

The real question is what the word return reveals about what's actually been going on. Corey and Pam unpack the difference between genuine generosity and giving to get — why they look similar from the outside, why your spouse can always tell the difference, and what a ledger does to intimacy over time.

Plus — what's her side of this? What does it mean that she said she would and didn't? And what would it take for both of them to stop keeping score?

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On this week's episode of SMR …

This week's episode explores the deep psychological patterns that influence marriage dynamics, focusing on our expectations, meanings, and self-awareness.

It offers insights into how understanding our shadow motivations and settling ourselves can foster healthier, more authentic relationships.

The post What Am I Wanting? #790 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This week's episode explores how life-changing events can serve as catalysts for personal growth and relationship transformation. We discuss a woman's journey from rejection to self-discovery and how she redefines her marriage after a betrayal, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and adaptive responses.

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