Lessons from a Quitter

Here's what everyone gets wrong about work/life balance. 
 
You run around trying to change everything outside of you in order to try to gain a little "balance". 
If I worked less hours…
If I had more time at home with my kids….
If I could spend some time resting...then I'd feel balanced. 
 
But what happens as soon as you try to do those things?
 
Your brain ruins it.
 
You're at home with the kids and you're constantly anxious about how much work you still have to finish.
 
You're laying down to rest and you're berating yourself for not getting up to run all of your errands. 
 
You're trying to focus on your work deadline and you're feeling guilty about missing your son's soccer practice. 
 
It's no wonder you're exhausted all of the time. 
 
You cannot have balance until you learn that your worth is not attached to your productivity.
 
You cannot have balance until you learn that you deserve rest even when you have a full to-do list.
 
You cannot have balance until you learn that you'll never be perfect and it's ok to stop trying. 
 
Until you can manage your brain to drop all the guilt and shame, there is no magic formula that will create balance for you because you'll constantly be telling yourself you're doing it wrong.
 
This week on the podcast, I dive into how you can finally start working towards having some real balance in your life.

The root cause of all of your problems is a lack of self-validation. Let me explain…
This isn't some self-love, woo-woo kind of thing. 
I want you to think about every one of your maladaptive behaviors: 
People-pleasing - needing other people to be happy with you so that you can feel good about yourself 
Perfectionism- needing everything to be perfect so that you can believe you're good enough 
High-achiever- needing to keep achieving milestones to feel like you're worthy 
Obsessing over what other people think of you - needing other people's approval so you can believe you're good.
Imposter syndrome- insisting on believing you're not good enough when all of your achievements prove otherwise
And on and on. 
Every. Single. One comes from your inability to validate yourself.

On this week's podcast, I'm taking you behind the scenes of all of my UNCERTAINTY and DOUBT around my new membership launch. You might be wondering: "Why are you doing this, Goli?"
Because I want you to stop thinking that other people have it figured out.Because I want you to see that the entire process is filled with fear and doubt. Because I don't want to just show you results; I want to show you the messy middle.

This week we talk all about discomfort. And I don't mean the dictionary definition of discomfort. I mean the feeling that you have when you are pushing towards your goals and you feel like you might throw up...or die. Yeah, that's discomfort. And if you're going to live the biggest life possible, you have to learn to get better at feeling it and not making it mean anything about you. In this episode, I dive into how you can get better at dealing with the inevitable discomfort and keep going!