It Aint for Sissies

Two weeks offline, a few unforeseen circumstances, some health drama, and approximately 47 life events later… we are BACK! 🎙️
In this episode of It Aint For Sissies, we catch you up on what’s been happening in our lives while we’ve been off the air. Because apparently, life doesn’t believe in taking a little break just because we’ve decided to take one. There’s been a lot to unpack, a few things to get off our chests, and naturally, absolutely no shortage of things to talk about.
We’re easing ourselves back into the podcasting world with our usual unfiltered banter, questionable life commentary, and the kind of catch-up that starts with “so, what’s been happening?” and ends up somewhere nobody could possibly have predicted.
We may have been quiet for two weeks, but don’t worry — we haven’t run out of opinions. Not even close.
Normal service has officially resumed. You’ve been warned.

LET THEM… AND LET ME TRY NOT LOSE MY SHIT?
This week, we deep dive into Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory — the revolutionary concept of simply letting other people do whatever the hell they’re going to do… and then figuring out what we are going to do about it.
Sounds simple, right?
Except we’re women, and apparently we’ve made it our life’s work to analyse why someone didn’t reply to a WhatsApp, why our husbands don't ask if we need anything from the shops, why our friends aren't inviting us and what the passive-aggressive Instagram story actually meant.
We unpack the difference between “Let Them” and “Let Me”, and whether relinquishing control is actually liberating… or just another way of saying, “Fine. Do whatever you want. See if I care.”
From friendships and family drama to parenting, relationships, boundaries and the exhausting business of worrying about what everyone else thinks, we ask the very important question:
Can we actually let them… or are we going to need to discuss it for another 45 minutes first?
Spoiler: probably the latter.

Teenagers. Retail shopping. Two things that should come with warning labels.
In this week’s mini rant, we unpack the baffling vapidness of teenagers — where conversations are apparently optional, eye contact is offensive, and asking a simple question can result in the emotional equivalent of a hostage negotiation.
Then we turn our attention to the modern-day nightmare that is shopping in an actual shop. Because apparently we’ve reached the point where finding someone to help you, and paying for something without having a minor psychological breakdown is too much to ask.
From teenage indifference to retail staff who seem personally offended by your existence, this is essentially two women asking: When did everything become so unnecessarily difficult?
Come for the rant. Stay because you’ve probably experienced both and need to know you’re not alone.

Ever wondered why your friend can disappear for six months and come back with “OMG, I’ve missed you!”… while you’re sitting there thinking, “Bitch, I thought we were dead to each other”?
Turns out, you might not have a friendship problem. You might just have a different friendship style.
This week on It Ain’t For Sissies, we dive into social scientist Kasley Killam’s four friendship styles — the Butterfly, Wallflower, Firefly and Evergreen — and, naturally, use them as an opportunity to psychoanalyse ourselves, our friends and probably a few people who should never have been given our phone numbers.
Are you the friend who needs constant contact? The one who can go months without speaking but still considers someone a bestie? The social butterfly who knows everyone? Or the person who would genuinely prefer to cancel dinner and stay home in your pyjamas?
We get brutally honest about friendship jealousy, being left out, unanswered WhatsApps, the friend who only calls when she needs something, friends who become more successful than you, outgrowing people, toxic friendships and the awkward business of making friends when you're a grown-ass adult.
Plus, we ask the question nobody wants to answer:
Are your friends actually the problem… or are YOU the problem?
Because apparently friendship has a science.
We just wish there was a science for explaining why you can be furious with someone at 10am and sending them a TikTok by lunchtime.
Listen in. You might finally discover your friendship style — and find out which of your friends needs to hear this episode more than you do.

Sometimes you plan a podcast episode with a proper topic, a structure and the vague illusion that you’re two functioning adults.
And then you press record and realise you’d rather just catch up on everything that’s been happening in your lives.
So, that’s exactly what we do this week.
No big agenda. No carefully researched topic. No pretending to have our shit together. Just two friends chatting about life lately, the things that have been happening, the things we probably shouldn’t admit out loud, and all the random detours that happen when you give two women a microphone and absolutely no supervision.
Basically, it’s a catch-up… but you get to listen in.
Because apparently, after five seasons and countless episodes, we still haven’t learnt how to stay on topic.

*If you or someone you know is struggling with your mental health, feeling overwhelmed, or having thoughts of suicide, please know that help is available. In South Africa, you can contact SADAG’s 24-hour Suicide Crisis Helpline on 0800 567 567, or the Cipla Mental Health Helpline on 0800 456 789. You do not have to face it alone.