How High-Functioning Anxiety Blocks Love — and What to Do Instead
You never “need” anything. But underneath, you’re anxious, and wishing to feel more held.In this episode, we explore what happens when high-functioning anxiety plays out in relationships — from early dating to long-term partnership.And most importantly, how it impacts your ability to be met, supported, and chosen.You’ll hear:Why overfunctioning can push love away — even when your intentions are pureHow emotional management erodes polarity and leads to motheringThe kinds of men we attract when we’re performing vs. when we’re rooted in selfAnd what to practice instead — so you stop chasing safety and start receiving loveIf you’ve ever said “I did everything and he still pulled away, why wasn't I enough?” this episode is for you.WORK TOGETHER 🧡🌻 🫳🏼 BECOMING SECURE MEMBERSHIP COMMUNITY - Course + Coaching + Community 📲 Find me on Instagram Mentioned in this episode:July 3rd Workshop - Held: Letting Love In 👇🏼Sign up for the Becoming Secure Community to join me Live Thursday July 3rd 8pm ET for the Letting Love In somatic healing workshop. https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment/about
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She’s Calm, Collected… and Anxious AF: High-Functioning Anxiety
You look like the woman who has it all together — grounded, reliable, composed.But underneath? You’re feeling urgent, worried, and overthinking. Managing everything. And maybe quietly unraveling.This episode is for the high-achieving, high-functioning woman who knows something feels off but can't break through on it. We’re talking about the kind of anxiety that hides behind performing calm.Inside, we’ll explore:What high-functioning anxiety really is — and how it hides in plain sightHow emotional repression becomes self-abandonmentThe signs your body is waving the white flag (even if your mind won’t admit it)What your nervous system is actually cravingWhy healing requires more than just self-awareness If you’ve been doing all the “right” things but still feel disconnected from yourself… this one will land.Resources Mentioned:🔗 Join the Becoming Secure Membership for access to 30+ guided somatic practices, monthly coaching calls, and high touch support from me. 📲 Message me on Instagram ❓ Take the Which Type of Anxious Attachment Are You? quizMentioned in this episode:July 3rd Workshop - Held: Letting Love In 👇🏼Sign up for the Becoming Secure Community to join me Live Thursday July 3rd 8pm ET for the Letting Love In somatic healing workshop. https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment/about
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Anx. Attch. in Friendships: People-Pleasing, and the Fear of Being Replaced
We talk so much about how anxious attachment plays out in romance—but what about friendship?If you’ve ever felt too sensitive, too intense, or too dependent in friendships—or you’ve abandoned them for romance—this conversation is for you.In this episode, I explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways anxious attachment shows up in our platonic connections: overthinking texts, people-pleasing, jealousy, and the pain of feeling replaceable. We also look at deeper patterns—like recreating dynamics with your mother or sister, using male friendships as emotional placeholders, and disappearing from your friends when a new love interest enters the picture.Go beyond understanding your patterns and actually start healing them at the root, come join us inside my membership, Becoming Secure. You’ll get nervous system-based tools, somatic practices, and community support to help you feel safe, grounded, and secure in love and life.⏱️ TimestampsNote: These are approximate and meant to help listeners follow the flow.00:00 – Intro & why this topic matters02:15 – What anxious attachment in friendship actually looks like05:50 – How to tell if you're over-functioning or emotionally over-relying on a friend09:30 – The mother/sister dynamic in female friendships13:20 – Male friendships as placeholders for father wounds16:45 – The quiet pattern of abandoning your friends for romance20:30 – Self-reflection and starting to shift these patterns23:00 – Invitation to go deeper inside Becoming SecureMentioned in this episode:July 3rd Workshop - Held: Letting Love In 👇🏼Sign up for the Becoming Secure Community to join me Live Thursday July 3rd 8pm ET for the Letting Love In somatic healing workshop. https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment/about
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Healing the Guilt That Keeps You Small
If you’ve ever felt guilty for having needs, setting boundaries, or taking up space—this episode is for you.We’re unpacking the kind of guilt that doesn’t come from doing something wrong, but from trying to stay safe.For those of us with anxious attachment, guilt can feel like a constant hum in the background—shaping our choices, silencing our truth, and keeping us small.In this episode, I’m diving into:The difference between true guilt, false guilt, and shameHow guilt shows up in anxious attachmentHow to heal unhelpful guilt responses on a nervous system levelWhat it really looks like to forgive yourself and move forwardAlso mentioned: The Becoming Secure MembershipHang on Instagram:@johhhannamariaMentioned in this episode:July 3rd Workshop - Held: Letting Love In 👇🏼Sign up for the Becoming Secure Community to join me Live Thursday July 3rd 8pm ET for the Letting Love In somatic healing workshop. https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment/about
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How to Find Yourself Again After a Breakup
After a breakup, it’s easy to feel lost—like you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, we’re diving into how to reconnect with you after a relationship ends.We’ll explore what that relationship revealed about you, where you may have lost yourself, and the moments that felt out of alignment. I’ll guide you through ways to help you reclaim your identity and step back into your truth.Connect with me on Instagram @johhhannamaria. Please send me a DM letting me know that you're coming from the podcast! 🧡Mentioned in this episode:July 3rd Workshop - Held: Letting Love In 👇🏼Sign up for the Becoming Secure Community to join me Live Thursday July 3rd 8pm ET for the Letting Love In somatic healing workshop. https://www.skool.com/healing-anxious-attachment/about
A podcast on Healing Anxious Attachment.
I unpack the myths that keep you from healing, and share the road map and tools to become securely attached in love and life.
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