Healing Anxious Attachment

Can an avoidant man commit? Our engagement was not picture-perfect. We were aligned on a future together but had never talked about getting engaged, so when it happened spontaneously, it brought up uncertainty, stress and contraction as well as joy.
We get honest about how an avoidant and anxious pairing shows up in a moment of big commitment. We also share the personal work that helped us stay steady, including journaling, coaching and learning to move through fear loops rather than pushing emotions away or putting them on each other.
If you're in a relationship with an avoidant partner, or you're working on your own attachment patterns, this episode will make you feel a lot less alone.
📚 Book mentioned: The Game by Neil Strauss
A real look at what it takes - from both sides - to build a secure relationship.
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Call Your Power Back - Live October 8th
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My husband joins me for an honest conversation about his path out of avoidant attachment - the pattern of intense connection followed by pulling away, and how he finally recognized it as his own to heal, not something caused by his partners.
We talk about the difference between "me" problems and "you" problems in relationships, the somatic work Björn did to shift beyond just intellectual understanding, and why healing is more like peeling an onion than crossing a finish line.
📚 Book mentioned: The Child in You by Stefanie Stahl
A real look at what it takes - from both sides - to build a secure relationship.
Go Deeper:
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LIVE WORKSHOP OCT 8 * Call Your Power Back
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Come learn how somatic practice is the key to unlocking your empowered, secure self.
For the woman who:
Is self-aware but still spirals
Wants real love, not situationships, chaos or emotional breadcrumbs
Has done therapy but wants deeper work
www.becomingsecurecommunity.com/workshop
Call Your Power Back - Live October 8th

Why do so many of us find ourselves drawn to emotionally unavailable men - again and again?
In this episode, we unpack how low self-worth, harsh self-talk, and struggles like body dysmorphia and disordered eating quietly shape our relationship patterns.
We get into why breaking this cycle isn't about mindset or strategy. it's about the body and the nervous system, and why the real work starts before the relationship even begins.
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Mentioned in this episode:
LIVE WORKSHOP OCT 8 * Call Your Power Back
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Come learn how somatic practice is the key to unlocking your empowered, secure self.
For the woman who:
Is self-aware but still spirals
Wants real love, not situationships, chaos or emotional breadcrumbs
Has done therapy but wants deeper work
www.becomingsecurecommunity.com/workshop
Call Your Power Back - Live October 8th

He cancels plans, his tone shifts, he says he's busy, or needs space..and suddenly you're spiraling, convinced this is the moment he leaves.
In this episode, we talk about that panic and how to tell the difference between when it's time to self-soothe and give him room, and when it's actually time to have a conversation.
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Mentioned in this episode:
Come learn how somatic practice is the key to unlocking your empowered, secure self.
For the woman who:
Is self-aware but still spirals
Wants real love, not situationships, chaos or emotional breadcrumbs
Has done therapy but wants deeper work
www.becomingsecurecommunity.com/workshop
Call Your Power Back - Live October 8th
LIVE WORKSHOP OCT 8 * Call Your Power Back
www.becomingsecurecommunity.com/workshop

Getting a man who's willing to commit isn't about being more available, liking what he likes, or being "perfect." It's the opposite.
In this episode: slowing down instead of rushing in, asking yourself how does this make me feel, paying attention to his communication and choices, and keeping your options open. Because staying in your power starts with staying with yourself first.
Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love.
Live workshop monthly
Live Q&A monthly
Access the 21 day Nervous System Reset Path
50+ somatic exercises

-and more! First 7 Days Free >> Join Us
Mentioned in this episode:
Come learn how somatic practice is the key to unlocking your empowered, secure self.
For the woman who:
Is self-aware but still spirals
Wants real love, not situationships, chaos or emotional breadcrumbs
Has done therapy but wants deeper work
www.becomingsecurecommunity.com/workshop
Call Your Power Back - Live October 8th
LIVE WORKSHOP OCT 8 * Call Your Power Back
www.becomingsecurecommunity.com/workshop