Psychology of the Inner Critic: Releasing Negative Beliefs
The inner critic and negative self-talk often feels like our own voice, but many of its harsh words aren’t truly yours. In this episode, I unpack how limiting beliefs get handed down through parents, teachers, and society, and how even one painful comment can loop in the mind as self-criticism. You’ll also learn how projections shape the way you see yourself and others, and I’ll guide you through a simple questioning process to dismantle unhelpful beliefs so you can move toward a kinder inner dialogue.In this episode, you’ll:Discover how the inner critic is formed and why it speaks so harshly.Learn how projections influence your beliefs about yourself.Explore a practical questioning process to dissolve negative self-talk.Go Deeper: Join me in the Becoming Secure women's membership. Tools, teachings, and practices to do the inner work, and Heal Anxious Attachment 🧡
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Trauma Explained: How Your Mind and Body Hold (and Heal) the Past
Trauma isn’t only about life-threatening events, it’s also the smaller wounds and unmet needs that shape how we think, feel, and protect ourselves. In this episode, we explore the layers of the mind (conscious, subconscious, unconscious), the difference between Big T and Little T trauma, and the trauma response or defense systems that develop as a result. You’ll learn how the body holds these memories and why healing through somatic work can feel surprisingly safe and natural.Go deeper inside Becoming Secure. A high-touch Women's Group with live workshops and Q&A calls, somatic healing videos, accountability for your personal growth, and a place where you'll immediately remember that you're not the only one going through this 🧡 Join the Becoming Secure membership here. 7 Day Free Trial. Monthly subscription and cancel easily, anytime.
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Inside Your Nervous System: Survival Modes & How to Feel Less Anxious
Your body has a default survival pattern like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn which shape how you respond to stress, emotions and triggers. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, understand your “window of tolerance,” and work with your nervous system to feel calmer and more in control.By the end you'll Understand the four core survival responses and how they can show up in subtle, everyday behaviors.Learn what the “window of tolerance” is and why it’s essential for emotional and nervous system health.Discover practical tools to move from anxiety back into calm.Resources Mentioned: Join my Becoming Secure women's group for 30 Days of Somatic Practices, and monthly live workshops and coaching calls. Connect with me on Instagram, I love receiving your messages 💖
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Discovering Your Core Needs (+Somatic Practice)
One of the most powerful things you can do on your healing journey is get good at knowing and trusting what you need — not what you were told to need, not what you think you should need, but what your body and heart are truly craving. This episode answers a question from a Becoming Secure Community Member who asked: “How do I even know what my core needs are? And once I do… how can I meet them on my own?”Together, we explore:Neediness versus NeedsWhen to meet your own needs and when to ask for your needs to be met Discovering your deeper emotional or relational needsHow to reconnect to your needs through your bodyCore needs in the realms of intimacy, sex, safety, self-expression, and relationshipsThe connection between your needs and your valuesThis episode also includes a somatic practice to help you tune in and feel your needs rather than just think about them. You’ll walk away with clarity, direction, and a deeper sense of connection to your inner world.Resources Mentioned: Quiz - Which Anxious Attachment Type Are You?Becoming Secure Community - Course + Community + Coaching
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Why You Struggle to Receive (Even Though You Want Love)
In this episode, I’m talking about why receiving often feels uncomfortable — especially for women with anxious attachment — and how this survival pattern shows up in your body and your relationships.We’ll explore:Why high-functioning women resist supportThe somatic signs you’re in survival modeHow childhood patterns shaped your ability to receiveWhat it really takes to let love landAnd if you’re ready to shift this not just in your mind, but in your body — join me for my upcoming live workshop: Held – Letting Love In. In the Becoming Secure Membership.In the workshop we go deep into the somatic healing needed to turn off survival mode and turn on your capacity to receive.
A podcast on Healing Anxious Attachment.
I unpack the myths that keep you from healing, and share the road map and tools to become securely attached in love and life.
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