Dating Intentionally

Don't let your situationship stop you from getting into a relationship. In this episode, I'm getting into how situationships happen in the first place to why leaving feels impossible to the exact words to use when you finally end it. I share my own 2-year situationship story, break down the difference between situationships and casual dating or friends with benefits, and give you a real plan for healing that works. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about how to handle inconsistent communication early on when someone takes three days to confirm date plans.

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Signs you're in a situationship (ep 69)

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I'm chatting with Amy Chan, relationship expert, retreat founder, and author of the brand-new book Unsingle, about why most people are just a few strategic adjustments away from finding their match. We're discussing everything from the dating funnel (and which stage you're most likely sabotaging) to the spectrum between having no standards and over-icking yourself out of love to why dating is a personality game, but relationships are a character game. Amy also breaks down the difference between preferences and non-negotiables, why narcissists are actually great daters, and how to build intuition so you stop overriding your gut. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about taking it slow with a work crush you've known for seven months.

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In this episode, I'm covering one of the biggest sticking points in early dating: feeling connected between dates. I'm getting into the mindset work and how to stop the spiral, including my top practical tips for building connection between dates without overdoing it. Along the way, we talk about the role of phone calls, texting habits, and how to bring this up on a date without making it awkward. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who's questioning her long-term compatibility with an on-and-off boyfriend of 2 years.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Ep 244: Building inner security
Epi 209: Why self-trust is key to feeling safe
Ep 138: Developing self-compassion
Texts that are better than "how are you?"
What are you looking forward to this week?
What was the best part of your day?
What’s a win you had today?
What’s the most interesting thing that happened to you this week?
What did you see recently that’s living rent-free in your mind?
If we could skip to the weekend right now, what's the first thing you’d do?
What food are you currently craving?

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I'm chatting with Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine, the husband-and-wife hosts of Dear Shandy, one of my favorite reality TV recap podcasts. We're discussing everything from what Love Is Blind contestants keep getting wrong (and how it mirrors real life) to why Andy believes online dating is the slow death of modern romance, to how to bring up the "big" topics on a first date. This episode is packed with practical dating advice from a couple who have seen it all. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a woman who's not sure whether her boyfriend's travel issues are a dealbreaker.

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Ruby the dog: @shandyspoo
My 5 needs in a partner

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I went on about 150 dates with over 60 people in a year before I met my now husband, and don't for a second think "hope" is what got me through it and kept me motivated. In this episode, which originally aired in 2024, I'm sharing why hope is useless and what to focus on instead: your beliefs. I didn't hope I'd meet someone; I believed it was inevitable. Listen to this episode if you're ready to work on your beliefs so you don't burn out after the rejection, false starts, and ghosting (that's also inevitable if you're dating). At the end, I get into a new dating dilemma about a dramatic reaction to a last-minute date switch-up.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Episode #68 with Jackie Glaser (self-worth + beliefs)
Thank you, More Please by Lily Womble
F the Fairytale by Damona Hoffman
Breakup Bootcamp by Amy Chan
How to Identify Your Needs course

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