Big Fat Positive: Pregnancy and Parenting (BFP)

Shanna's drop-off struggles with her youngest escalate, so she lands on an unconventional solution to improve her family's morning routines. Laura scrambles to find last-minute babysitter coverage so she can attend an all-day music festival without the kids. In this week's "Throwback" segment, Shanna confesses to a split-second decision in fifth-grade band class that hurt a friendship, and shares what she hopes for her own fifth grader, who's navigating similar terrain. They also share this week's BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:
• When school drop-off meltdowns keep escalating
• Disclosing an ADHD diagnosis to your child's school
• What a 504 plan is and when to ask about one
• Why leaving 10 minutes earlier changes everything
• Sensory triggers that derail a morning
• Scrambling for childcare when plans fall through
• Talking to kids about friendship conflict and repair
• Fifth-grade identity shifts and changing friend groups
• Peer pressure and mean-girl dynamics
• Using games and novelty to replace nagging
• Podcasts kids and parents can both enjoy

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:
• Greeking Out from National Geographic Kids
• Wheel of Names
• Daisy Chain Fields Festival
• Doechii
• Pigeon in a Peanut

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Choosing between charter, magnet, public and private schools is overwhelming, and so is the trial-and-error process of finding the right ADHD medication for your kid. In this Ask-Us-Anything minisode, Shanna and Laura answer listener questions about how to narrow down school options when you don't know where to begin, and what their families' ADHD medication journeys have actually looked like, including what didn't work and why. Laura also shares an ADHD update of her own.

Topics discussed in this episode:
• How to choose a school: charter, magnet, public and private
• How to evaluate schools in your area
• School waitlists and application deadlines: when to start
• The LAUSD eChoices system and why people hire consultants for it
• Finding the right ADHD medication through trial and error
• Stimulants vs. non-stimulants for kids
• Why immediate release and extended release can work completely differently
• How to monitor whether a medication is helping or hurting your child
• Adult ADHD diagnosis: what finally prompted it

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:
• The ADHD Parenting Podcast - co-hosted by Mike McLeod, referenced on adults staying in charge of medication decisions
• GrowNOW ADHD - Mike McLeod's organization
• SpeakPipe - send us your questions for a future episode!

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Shanna navigates two school drop-off meltdowns in one week and finds an unexpected way to regulate herself afterward. Laura reports on her boys' first week of school and a surprisingly successful shopping trip, and in this week's "Throwback" segment, she takes us back to the summer of 1995, when she gave herself a disastrous 4th-of-July dye job that her mom has never let her forget. They also share this week's BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 years old and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:
• What to do when your kid melts down at school drop-off
• Regulating yourself after your child's big emotions
• Using singing and music to complete the stress cycle
• When a teacher goes on leave at the start of the school year
• Getting intel on your kid's new teacher
• Kindergarten buddy programs for siblings at the same school
• Helping kids who feel unsure about friendships in a new class
• Kids who love shopping in person
• Teaching kids to apply temporary tattoos themselves
• How to remove temporary tattoos
• Letting kids dye their hair bright colors
• Why "temporary" hair dye sometimes isn't
• Beating the heat with a backyard pool setup
• Solo theme park trips for parents

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:
• Toy Story 5
• Manic Panic hair dye
• Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
• Intex above-ground pools
• Thermacell mosquito repellent
• Fast & Furious: Hollywood Drift at Universal Studios Hollywood

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In this week's "What's in Your Bag?" segment, Shanna and Laura confess the items they've somehow ended up hauling around, including one thing that survived a 102-degree drive across town. Also, Shanna preps her daughters for the first day of school and finally delivers the puberty presentation she'd been procrastinating for months, and Laura reports on the tail end of her family's Portland trip and a tiny plane Sebastian refused to leave. They also share this week's BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 years old and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:
• How to spend the last week of summer break
• Creating a buffer day between summer camp and the first day of school
• How schools announce teacher assignments and why they wait until the last minute
• Making a puberty and periods presentation for your kids
• What to put in a tween puberty readiness kit
• Destigmatizing period conversations as a family
• Including younger siblings in big-kid conversations
• Aviation museums with kids: what to expect
• The Spruce Goose and Howard Hughes
• Hanging on to gift cards for way too long
• Using gum or mints to redirect a dysregulated kid
• Changing your child's sensory experience to interrupt a meltdown
• Why your purse becomes a black hole (and what accumulates in there)
• When grandparents win prizes your kids don't care about
• Teaching kids to write thank you cards
• How a small act of kindness came back around

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:
• Evergreen Aviation & Space Museum, McMinnville, OR
• Ice Breakers Sparkling Mints
• Universal Studios Hollywood
• Chuck E. Cheese
• Funny Instagram reel: Bag of clothes for donation in your car
• Next Level Arcade and Pinball Museum

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's "They Said What?" segment, Shanna and Laura cover a bedtime conversation that took a shocking left turn, a sentence Laura never expected to say out loud, and an adult's comment about beauty standards that made a lasting impact. Also, Laura reports on a Portland trip derailed by wildfire smoke and saved by 300 pinball machines, and Shanna navigates her daughter's emotionally charged earring switch. They also share this week's BFPs and BFNs.

Kids' ages: Shanna's kids are 7.5 and 10.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 7.5 years old and 5.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:
• What to do when wildfire smoke ruins your vacation plans
• Getting kids comfortable changing their earrings
• Body image conversations with young kids
• When your five-year-old is in a sweet, grateful phase
• When your kid says something completely out of left field at bedtime
• Using OpenTable and Resi's notify feature to snag last-minute reservations
• Taking your kids to their first concert

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:
• Next Level Arcade and Pinball Museum, Hillsboro OR
• Fox Theater Pomona
• Gado Gado Portland
• OpenTable / Resy
• Indiana Jones soundtrack on Spotify
• Schindler's List soundtrack by John Williams
• Beach Bunny
• Vertigo by Beach Bunny

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• Become a Patreon member for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more.
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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.