Who Would You Tell

In this episode of Who Would You Tell, I sit down with my brother for a conversation we've been circling for years on the podcast, the journey of addcition, in probably the most personal episode, we discuss what this has been like for him.We talk about what actually helps someone in recovery (and why most advice doesn't), the pressure to become a completely different person overnight, why making amends isn't always the right move, and what it means to hold someone accountable without holding a grudge. If this episode means something to you, comment, like, and share it with someone who you think would benefit from listening to this.More Who Would You Tell is on its way soon

This week's episode didn't go as planned. My brother was set to join me to talk about addiction, accountability, and sobriety, a topic he actually suggested, but he couldn't make it, so I recorded solo instead.This is not the planned or final version of the episode, but more an intro into what got me here in relation to the episode itself. An honest look at what it's actually been like to watch people I love go through addiction and recovery. I talk about the guilt of judging people I care about, what it means to love someone "from a distance" when you don't know how to help, and navigating the feeling of losing that sense of closeness when someone you care about is in throes of itThis is a behind-the-scenes version of an episode that's still coming, the full episode with my brother will be released once we reschedule. Consider this the setup: why this topic matters to me, and what I hope the full conversation offers anyone navigating addiction in their own life.

In this episode of Who Would You Tell, I'm joined by Cairo, to open a new series on public accountability and atonement. We discuss why apologising has become a performative, almost commercial act, and what comes with thatWe talk about the difference between personal amends (like those made during sobriety journeys) and the public, often hollow apologies celebrities and influencers issue to "the internet." We get into specific cases and ultimately, the limits of accountability when mental health is involved, the BAFTAs slur incident, and the different points where apologies stop being for individuals but become public content instead.We also dig into South Africa's own complicated relationship with public atonement through the TRC, why we hold influencers more accountable than politicians, and what a healthier, more forgiving culture of accountability could actually look like.

In this incredibly raw episode, we have a returning guest in Palesa Maloisane as she joins Khanya to unpack the fear of failure.Palesa is a successful lawyer, one of the funniest people I know, and for the purposes of this episode, thankfully she is also one of the most open people I know. This episode is not as strutured as I would have liked, and honestly it is because at this moment in time I still don't have the answers myself. I hope that somehow, the episode is still helpful for you.Hope that you enjoy this episode

How would you know you were failing? How do you gauge success? And when is it time to pivot? This week on Who Would You Tell, Khanya sits down with Malcom following his return to South Africa after 9 years abroad, MBA in hand, earlier than planned, and in the middle of figuring out what comes next.9 years. An MBA. International work experience. By most estimations, that sounds pretty good, In this episode, Khanya and Malcom get into making sense of the journey so far, and what progress actually looks like when life is this unpredictable? How do you measure success when the goal posts keep moving? All this and more discussed in the latest episode of WWYT