Healing is like peeling an onion. The final episode of this season is a story about love, although it's not a traditional love story. It's about love addiction, the fear of not being loved and the kind of love that can keep you alive.
It's about a mother's love, facing your greatest fear and learning to love yourself through it all.
Sara-Jayne shares her complex family background, the trauma of being abandoned and adopted at 7 weeks, and her struggles with addiction alongside her partner's relapse.
Through it all Sara-Jayne Makwala-King emphasizes that the opposite of addiction is not soberity, but rather connection.
SJ is a journalist and author and has written two books about her life story. 'Killing Karoline' and 'Mad, Bad Love'. Both are available online and in all good bookstores.
QUOTES:
'My biggest fear had just happened, and yet I was the one that had told him to go. I’d facilitated that. So that was the quake—the worst thing in the world that could happen to me as I exist is happening, which is that I am a single parent, and it’s all on me.'
'You feel as if it must be personal, and it isn't. If somebody's not ready to get well from addiction, there's nothing you can do. I am powerless over another person in their addiction.'
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I phoned The Chaeli Campaign for Podcasthon 2025
My plan was to visit The Chaeli Campaign HQ. But life happened.
So instead, I picked up the phone and spoke to the CEO, Zelda Mycroft.
Zelda shares The Chaeli Campaign's mission to drive social justice and inclusion for people with disabilities.
Highlighting the crucial role of advocacy in changing how society views and supports those with disabiliities, we speak about initiatives such as inclusive education and adaptive sports.
Listen to how Athletics South Africa came to include wheelchair athletes to their rulebook because of the advocacy work done by The Chaeli Campaign.
This episode forms part of Podcasthon 2025, using podcasting for good and raising awareness for charitable causes.
QUOTE:
"Inclusion can't be learned; it has to be lived. That is central to all the work that we do, seeing challenges as opportunities and inviting others along for the journey."
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"Pick up your pen and write a different story."
There's a saying that you regret more the things you didn't do than the things you actually did.
Verity's dad was 48 when she was born. He passed away suddenly when she was 24.
When she was in her teens and didn't want to listen to his advice, he took to writing her letters. Filled with positive affirmations, she didn't realize the value of these letters then, but her dad stuck with it, knowing in his hard-earned wisdom that these things would be important in time. And boy, oh boy, was he right.
In this episode, Verity Price tells a story filled with twists and turns. From losing her dad at 24, to walking the Camino de Santiago in his honor, writing a letter to the future, and even following a man to America. Verity went on to sell 2,000 copies of an album before it was even recorded, and in 2021, she beat 35,000 people to become the World Champion of Public Speaking.
QUOTES:
"I was shaken to my core. We had a week with him, and it was really rough because he was paralyzed. So this very verbal father that I'd had could just look at me with his eyes, and he was totally paralyzed from the stroke."
“The biggest lesson I learned from that was that your ego often has one idea of what your life should look like and your soul has another.”
"I cried so much while rehearsing them and hoping they could hear how much I love them, and my speech that I won with was literally saying, "Your life is a book. If you're not enjoying the read, pick up your pen and write a different story."
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SONG: "Forever In Me"
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"Half my face had collapsed."
If you've been listening to something shifted for a while, you've probably wondered about your own life quake.
For Lesego, there are two distinct moments when the ground beneath his feet gave way.
When he was fifteen, his dad passed away.
And again when he was 32, when he thought he was having a stroke.
Eventually it was confirmed that Lesego Majatladi had Bell's Palsy.
Bells Palsy is a strange condition which doctors can only diagnosis once every other possibility has been ruled out.
An unexplained paralysis of facial muscles often associated with the latent effects of stress, bell’s palsy begins suddenly and can get progressively worse.
In Lesego’s case, contracting bell’s palsy was an acknowledgement that the life he had wasn’t what he wanted for himself, and things needed to change.
QUOTES:
'I stopped interacting with the world more than anything because it became an irritation. You walk into a room and people literally gasp, and then you must explain what's going on.'
'Experiencing Bell's palsy at 32 was terrifying, but it forced me to reevaluate my life and priorities.'
'The gift of Bell's palsy is an appreciation of mortality. You suddenly realize that life is not guaranteed, and if you want to do things, you better do them.'
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"Whose afraid of little old me?" - Chaeli Mycroft.
Today’s story is a little different to some of our previous episodes.
We generally meet guests post-life quake, who have the benefit of hindsight, and we learn how "That Big Thing" has changed the direction of their life - but we meet them on stable ground.
Not everyone is on the other side of an event that has changed the way they see how they fit into the world… sometimes we meet someone that is mid-quake.
Chaeli has cerebral palsy and is a full-time wheelchair user. A big part of her journey is being able to say "I am disabled and" not "I am disabled but."
While Chaeli is not always okay with being a disabled person, she lives openly, sharing her perspectives along the way.
Chaeli Mycroft started the Chaeli Campaign at the age of nine to raise funds for her own motorised wheelchair. Chaeli won an International Children’s Peace Prize in 2011 and she was awarded the Social Activism medal by the Nobel Peace Laurates in 2012. Today, the Chaeli Campaign is a social justice organisation that serves more than 7000 beneficiaries every year.
Chaeli is disabled, and she completed a masters in human rights law. She's been to the top of Kilimanjaro. Chaeli has completed the comrades, published a book and is an adaptive athlete. Chaeli is also the only person I know that has seen the Taylor Swift Eras Tour, live, twice.
QUOTES:
"It took us a long time to reach a point where I could say, like, just say the sentence, I'm not always okay with being a disabled person. Right? Because you put out this persona of like, I'm the positive, solution-finding disabled person who's trying to not be an issue to somebody."
"My whole life I have very supportive people. I have a phenomenal support network. I do everything that I need to, I want to do. Never in my entire life had anyone said to me that supporting my 18,000 needs in a day is a privilege to them."
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Something changes your life today. How does it shift your life tomorrow?
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For Sean Loots, that something was becoming a parent to a child with special needs.
Something Shifted tells meaningful stories at the intersection of joy and discomfort. In each episode Sean and his guests connect the dots between their lifequake and what it takes to thrive in their new normal.
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