The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

We had a listener write in and share this experience. She and her husband have four kids and a great marriage. They’ve both decided they don’t want any more children. The challenge is that she feels a lot of anxiety around intimacy because she’s afraid of getting pregnant. She’s asked her husband to get a vasectomy, but he doesn’t want to, and he may have very valid reasons for feeling that way.
So now they’re at a bit of a marital standoff. Neither of them knows what to do or how to resolve it.
The truth is, they both have valid reasons. They both feel strongly about their perspectives. Neither one is necessarily right or wrong. But this is the kind of issue that, if left unresolved, can grow into a much bigger problem and create serious conflict and tension in the marriage.
And this situation isn’t uncommon. In fact, it happens all the time. Couples often find themselves with differing opinions where both people feel justified and both may actually be right.
So the question becomes: how do you resolve something like this?
In situations like this, it’s easy for things to escalate. A wife might say, “Well, then we’re not going to be intimate until you go get a vasectomy,” drawing a hard line and issuing an ultimatum. On the other hand, a husband might respond with, “I’m not doing it, and you’re just going to have to deal with it,” which can leave his wife feeling dismissed and anxious every time intimacy comes up.
You can see how dynamics like this, and so many others like it, can quickly lead to resentment, hurt feelings, and deeper marital strain.
The good news is, there are solutions. Not just for this situation, but for the many conflicts couples face in marriage.
In this episode, we’re going to share our thoughts on this specific scenario and also talk more broadly about how to navigate disagreements like this, the kinds that show up in marriages every single day.
If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!
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The grass is not greener in someone else’s marriage. It is green where you water it. We have learned that firsthand. There have been seasons where our marriage felt easy, connected, and full and other seasons where things felt off, not because love disappeared, but because we stopped being intentional. Most couples do not have a love problem. They have an attention problem. When something feels dry, it usually just means an area has not been nurtured.
Over time, we have realized that strong marriages are built on six kinds of passion. Sexual. Fun. Emotional. Purpose. Growth. Spiritual. When these layers are healthy and working together, a marriage feels hot, joyful, deep, united, growing, and spiritually anchored. When even one is neglected, you can feel the shift.
Sexual passion keeps the spark and exclusivity alive. Fun passion keeps you laughing and enjoying each other. Emotional passion creates safety and vulnerability. Purpose passion unites you around shared direction. Growth passion pushes you to become better together. Spiritual passion keeps everything centered and sacred. Each one plays a critical role. Sexual keeps your marriage exclusive. Fun keeps it light. Emotional keeps it secure. Purpose keeps it aligned. Growth keeps it progressing. Spiritual intimacy protects them all.
If your marriage feels off, do not panic, evaluate. Ask yourselves which area needs more water right now. Not with criticism, but with curiosity and commitment. Thriving marriages are not built overnight. They are built through small, faithful investments over time. Start watering intentionally this week, and watch what begins to grow.
If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!
Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.

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Follow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.

If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at [email protected] and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.
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What if the key to transforming your marriage isn’t more time, but clearer priorities?
In this episode, Nick and Amy are joined by therapist Austin to discuss one foundational truth: your marriage should be your priority. Not work. Not kids. Not phones. The marriage.
Austin explains that many couples enter therapy focused on surface problems or looking for a “bad guy.” But when couples strengthen their emotional, physical, and spiritual bond, many issues naturally improve. When the relationship is healthy, everything else such as parenting, careers, stress functions better.
It’s Not About Time, It’s About Intention
Prioritizing your spouse doesn’t require hours each day. It’s often small, consistent actions:
A thoughtful text
Planning intimacy before a busy day
Protecting date night
Choosing your spouse over your phone
These simple efforts say, You matter to me.
When a spouse feels prioritized, connection can rebuild quickly.
The Distraction Problem
Most couples live in “urgent but not important” mode — constantly reacting to notifications, emails, and distractions while neglecting what matters most.
If your marriage is truly the priority, it should go on the calendar first — not last.
A weekly “couples council” can help you stay aligned: express appreciation, review schedules, and intentionally plan time together before filling your week with everything else.
A Covenant Mindset
Marriage isn’t just a commitment — it’s a covenant. When you drift, repair isn’t about blame. It’s about course-correcting and saying, You matter most. I’m all in.
A strong, intimate, playful marriage isn’t complicated.
 It’s intentional.
If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!
Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.

WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HERE

Follow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.

If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at [email protected] and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.

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Is it just us… or is everyone exhausted?
In this honest and relatable episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy tackle a question so many couples are asking: Are we too tired for our marriage?
Between careers, kids, packed schedules, hormones, and everyday stress, exhaustion feels constant, and intimacy is often the first thing to fade. But here’s the real challenge:
Are you truly too tired… or have you stopped prioritizing your marriage?
With humor and real-life perspective from 23 years of marriage, Nick and Amy unpack what’s behind the “I’m too tired” excuse, and how to shift back into connection.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why exhaustion is often more mental than physical
The difference between being tired and simply bored
Why you find energy for what you’re committed to
How overscheduling drains your relationship
The power of small, intentional moments
Why putting your phone down changes everything
How dividing responsibilities reduces burnout
Why laughter, play, and celebration actually create energy
A Powerful Reminder
Marriage isn’t about feeling perfect every day — it’s about choosing to show up, even when you’re tired.
Intimacy doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. Sometimes it’s five focused minutes, holding hands, a compliment, or protecting a weekly date night. If you have energy to scroll, you have energy to connect.
If you’re exhausted, you’re probably doing a lot of good things. But this episode will challenge you to look at your priorities, set better boundaries, and intentionally protect your marriage.
Because when you get out of boredom and back into connection, energy follows.
If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!
Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.

WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HERE

Follow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.

If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at [email protected] and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.
Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

It’s easy to think love in marriage is only shown through romance, gifts, or intimacy. But one of the most powerful ways to show love to your spouse is through healthy boundaries. Boundaries aren’t about control, distance, or keeping your spouse out, they’re about respect, emotional safety, and creating a marriage where both of you feel valued, understood, and protected.
In this week’s episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we sit down with therapist and expert Austin to talk about boundaries in marriage. 
Many couples wonder: Is it too late to set boundaries after years of marriage? What happens if we never established them early on? The answer is no, it’s never too late. Boundaries can be set at any stage of your marriage, and when implemented with intention, they actually strengthen connection, trust, and intimacy.
Boundaries teach your spouse how to love you in the way you need. They show care by clarifying expectations, protecting your emotional space, and fostering mutual respect. Without boundaries, couples can unintentionally hurt each other, feel resentment, or struggle with emotional closeness. Whether you’ve experienced betrayal, miscommunication, or just want to prevent hurt from ever happening, boundaries are a key tool for maintaining a healthy, loyal, and passionate marriage.
In this episode, we talk about:
Why boundaries are an essential act of love in marriage
How to set boundaries together as a couple, even if you’re years into marriage
The boundaries we personally feel are most important and why
How boundaries protect your emotional connection and help you prioritize your spouse
How implementing boundaries prevents small conflicts from becoming big issues
We also discuss real-life examples and practical tips for couples to start setting boundaries today, plus guidance on how to communicate your needs respectfully and effectively. Boundaries aren’t about rules or rigidity—they’re about creating a safe, loving environment where both spouses can thrive emotionally, mentally, and physically.
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Is it too late to set boundaries in my marriage?” or “Will my spouse understand what I need?”, this episode is for you. You’ll learn how boundaries can actually bring you closer, deepen trust, and enhance intimacy. Austin shares expert insights, and we share personal stories and lessons that make these principles relatable and actionable for every couple.
If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!
Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.

WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HERE

Follow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.

If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at [email protected] and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.
Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!