Plenty out there on relationships but little insights into the deeper truths about marriages and relationships that Drs Heim talk about in this episode as they discuss a recent insightful article written by psychologist Mark Travers. Along the way … Caroline talks about relationship fears in her students and Christian takes us on a journey to a tropical island to discover more of ourselves
Link to article:
https://www.forbes.com/sites/traversmark/2025/04/05/5-rare-marriage-lessons-no-one-talks-about---by-a-psychologist/
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Managing Finances as a Couple /#11
Do you pool your finances? What does this say about you as a couple? In this episode Drs Heim do a deep dive into couples’ finances by comparing a 2023 study on finance trends in young couples with older couples. Along the way … Christian talks about financial infidelity and Caroline shares some history.
Resilient Relationships book: https://a.co/d/c9WTIdo
Contemporary Family Therapy Article: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10591-023-09666-9
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Forgiving your partner: the science and techniques /#10
Forgiving. Not Easy. Especially when there has been a seemingly unforgivable incident. In this episode Drs Heim see what the scientific literature says about forgiveness in couples and then give a very practical 7 step process of how to forgive. Along the way…Caroline shares a very poignant story about a spouse that forgave an infidelity and Christian explains his own journey of learning to forgive.
Link to The 7 Steps to Forgiveness: https://amzn.asia/d/b47Q5y1
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Balancing separate time and together time in a relationship /#9
How important is it for your to have separate time? What if one wants to do everything together and the other doesn’t? In this episode Drs Heim look to the wisdom of how couples married 40+ years sorted through these thorny questions. Along the way…Christian shares the science behind attachment and Caroline talks about how universities are marginalising coupledom
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Listening to your love partner: the science and techniques /#8
How much do you listen to the emotions behind the words when your love partner is telling you something that’s important to them? In this episode, Drs Heim give you a roadmap for active listening and do some role plays to demonstrate active listening. Listening is a skill that can be learnt. Along the way … Caroline shares how she teaches listening to her Theatre students and Christian enjoys hammering in some nails.
Each episode Drs Heim look at the science behind relationship success, examine the latest relationship science and give practical application tips from Dr Heim's 20 years of clinical experience as a psychiatrist.
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