EP285 How to co-parent with someone who makes you want to scream with Amy Armstrong
What if the biggest problem in your high-conflict relationship isn't your ex—it's that you keep handing them your power? In this conversation, Amy Armstrong breaks down why conflict is a skill deficit, not a character flaw, and how focusing on what you're willing to do (instead of what the other person is doing wrong) changes everything. In this episode, we cover: → The critical difference between boundaries and requests (and why most people are just begging for change) → Why it only takes ONE person to end a conflict—and how to be that person without becoming a doormat → The uncomfortable truth about drama addiction and stress hormones (are you actually attached to the chaos?) → How to stop reading those texts that ruin your entire day (and why you keep opening them anyway) → The "of course" method for instant self-compassion when you're triggered → Why saying "no" keeps you stuck in resentment—and what to focus on instead  This episode is for you if: You're co-parenting with someone who pushes every button you have You feel like you're constantly defending yourself and still losing You're exhausted from trying to change someone who refuses to change You want your power back but don't know where to start You're ready to stop being a victim to someone else's bad behavior  Amy's approach: Practical, no-BS skills for handling high-conflict relationships without losing yourself in the process. Want to Learn More About Coaching in The "High Octane Moments" Click Here for A Free Guide that includes 3 Self-Mastery Tools to help you show up fully, care deeply and stay grounded when working with clients, even in the most explosive situations and toughest rooms. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc
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EP284 Minisode: Try my favorite tool: Full Body Reset
In this episode, Colleen revisits a recording in which she introduces a powerful tool that continues to help women interrupt autopilot and reconnect with their bodies — The Full Body Reset. She originally shared it on a morning when she didn't use it — a reminder that growth isn't about perfection, it's about awareness, compassion, and reconnection. When we're tired, stressed, or overstimulated, the brain will always reach for what's easy. The Full Body Reset helps you pause, remember what's true, and let your body cast a vote for what you really need. Through this story, she normalizes what it means to be human — to miss cues, to wish you'd chosen differently, and to repair with yourself instead of spiraling into shame. It's a simple, embodied practice that anchors emotional sobriety: building trust, honoring truth, and returning to yourself one pause at a time.  🔑 Key Takeaways The absence of alcohol use disorder isn't perfect behavior — it's the absence of shame when you stumble. Your body always knows what you need — you just have to pause long enough to listen. A Full Body Reset interrupts autopilot and reestablishes self-trust. Repairing with yourself builds the emotional maturity needed for long-term change. True power is being "Team You" — even when you don't get it right.  If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.  Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!  Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc  Transcript Â
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EP283 Minisode: Why you need small group support
The truth is, you can't out-think a thinking problem. And yet, that's what so many women try to do—reading, journaling, "working on themselves"—all while staying quietly trapped inside their own minds. In this episode, Colleen reveals why the real work of emotional sobriety doesn't happen in isolation. It happens in connection. Through years of observation, data, and lived experience, she's found that the single most powerful predictor of lasting success inside The Next Chapter isn't perfection or willpower—it's participation. When women join accountability groups and actually show up, something profound shifts. They start learning faster, healing deeper, and rebuilding trust in themselves through the simple act of reflection. That's not luck—it's neuroscience and emotional regulation working together in real time. If you've been trying to "figure it out" alone, this episode will help you see why connection is not a luxury in recovery—it's the catalyst. You'll understand how community accelerates self-trust, quiets shame, and helps you live from power instead of performance. Because emotional sobriety isn't about never falling down—it's about finally having the support, skills, and structure to rise in a different way. 🔑 Key Takeaways True change happens through reflection and relationship, not isolation. Emotional sobriety deepens when you feel seen, heard, and safe to be honest. Shame dissolves in connection—the accountability group is where courage grows roots. You don't need to "do more." You need to belong more. Healing happens faster when you stop performing and start participating.  If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.  Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!  Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc  Transcript  Â
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EP282 How to eat to change how you drink, with Dr. Brooke Scheller
Here's what nobody tells you when you're trying to change your drinking: Your alcohol cravings at happy hour are not just about needing a break after a hard day. And they're definitely not about how much you "just love wine." In reality, you haven't eaten since noon and your blood sugar is in the basement. This is about what you ate for lunch–or more accurately, what you didn't eat. What I've learned doing this work—and what my guest today is going to blow your mind with—is that you can't white-knuckle your way through a nutritional deficiency. You cannot mindset your way around a physiology problem. And yet most of us try to do exactly that, and then beat ourselves up when it doesn't work. Today I'm sitting down with Dr. Brooke Scheller, Doctor of Clinical Nutrition and author of "How to Eat to Change How You Drink." And she's going to explain why your evening drinking habits are not a sign that you lack willpower. You lack protein, vitamins and minerals. This conversation will give you easy, simple ideas for how to bridge the gap between where you're at and where you want to be. Spoiler: You don't need to try harder. You need to eat breakfast. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.  Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!  Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc Connect with Dr. Brooke Scheller: Website: Brooke Scheller Instagram: @drbrookescheller Substack: @drbrookescheller Book: "How to Eat to Change How You Drink" (Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Audible)
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EP281 Minisode: Primal versus Power states
In this minisode, Colleen distills emotional sobriety into its simplest form: learning to recognize when you're operating from your primal state versus your power state. Most of us spend our lives reacting to the world from old programming—patterns shaped by fear, pain, or the need for control—without realizing that we can pause, interrupt, and return to presence. She explains how to move from being controlled by your mind to consciously using it as a tool, how emotional energy drives every "problem," and how the act of letting go—physically and mentally—is the real path to peace. This is more than nervous system regulation; it's a full reclamation of agency over your inner world.  🔑 Key Takeaways You live in one of two states: primal (reactive) or power (conscious). Every problem is emotional—it begins with the meaning your mind assigns. Letting go is a physical skill that quiets the mind by releasing tension in the body. You can't think your way out of stress; you have to feel your way back to calm. Power isn't something you find—it's the moment you remember you already have it.  If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.  Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!  Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc  Transcript Â
Would you like to reduce your alcohol consumption by 80 percent so you can enjoy drinking socially without relying on alcohol to manage your stress, anxiety, loneliness and boredom when you're by yourself?
Most high achieving women assume over-drinking is caused by a lack of willpower--or worse, the incurable disease of "alcoholism." So they beat themselves up and avoid asking for help because they feel ashamed and out of control.
Whether you're a daily drinker who can't break the habit, or you're still going to sobriety meetings even though you don't drink anymore, the real problem is that you don't trust yourself.
Which means it's not about the alcohol. It's about your relationship with yourself.
I'm an intuitive drinking coach helping professional women learn how drinking less (or not at all) is actually a superpower, even when the idea of giving up the only thing that helps them quiet their mind feels impossible.
The solution to alcohol use disorder is a FEELING. If you felt comfortable in your own skin and at ease in your life, you would drink like someone who is comfortable and at ease!
Join me each week for holistic, evidence-based strategies to fix your dopamine deficit, regulate your nervous system, cure imposter syndrome, manage sugar cravings, improve your sleep and reclaim your mental health so you no longer have the urge to escape your own body.
Get happy, not sober. Because happy people don't drink themselves into a stupor.
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