Book your FREE Discovery CallEver started pulling away just when things got good? If calm, consistent love feels boring—or even threatening—you’re not broken. You’re human.In this episode, Shanenn explores why “safe” love can trigger your nervous system, especially if you grew up in chaos or experienced emotionally unpredictable relationships. You’ll learn:Why peace can feel like a red flag to a dysregulated nervous systemThe hidden link between chaos and connectionSubtle ways we sabotage healthy love without realizing itA powerful affirmation to ground yourself when you’re spiralingHow to begin rewiring your system to trust calm instead of rejecting itIf you’re ready to stop pushing away the love you crave, this episode is for you.💎 Golden Nugget: “Peace isn’t the problem. My pattern is.”Timestamps:1:15 – Why calm triggers fear in a chaos-wired nervous system3:00 – How your past relationships shaped your patterns6:30 – A real-life story (with a German Shepherd!) that explains stored trauma10:40 – Signs of self-sabotage when things feel “too good”12:50 – Tools to rewire your nervous system for trust15:40 – The mantra that can change everythingResources & Links:📄 Free Download: 5 Signs You’re Subconsciously Sabotaging📞 Book a Free Discovery Call with Shanenn🔗 Follow Shanenn on Instagram: @topselfcoLoved this episode? Leave a 5-star review—it helps others find healing too. 💚Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
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Tapping Into Emotional Freedom W/ Amy Vincze EP 115
Book Your FREE Discovery Call With ShanennWatch on my Youtube Channel hereIn this episode of Top Self, Shanenn welcomes tapping expert Amy Vincze to explore how tapping can help release jealousy, insecurity, and emotional triggers. With over 17 years of experience, Amy shares how she went from skeptic to certified coach—using tapping to navigate personal trauma, anxiety, and even breast cancer recovery.This isn’t just theory. Amy walks listeners through the science of tapping, the emotional patterns that fuel insecurity, and a powerful guided tapping session to help you shift from emotional reactivity to grounded self-worth.If you’ve ever felt consumed by jealousy or struggled to manage emotional overwhelm in relationships, this episode is a must-listen.Golden Episode Nuggets:💎 You can’t heal what you’re afraid to feel💎 Jealousy and insecurity are symptoms—not the root problem💎 Tapping helps regulate the nervous system and release stored trauma💎 Emotional honesty is a gateway to confidence and connection💎 Healing is an inside job—and tapping gives you the tools to do itKey Moments:· 1:30 – Why most of us avoid uncomfortable emotions and why that’s a problem· 4:45 – Amy’s backstory with tapping and how trauma triggered transformation· 10:15 – How emotional energy gets trapped in the body· 14:30 – The neuroscience of tapping and what happens in the brain during a session· 20:00 – A full guided tapping session focused on jealousy and insecurity· 34:10 – The real goal of tapping (hint: it’s not to be positive all the time)· 38:00 – How to create your own tapping practice without overthinking itAbout Our Guest:Amy Vincze is the founder of SOAR with Tapping and a certified Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) practitioner. She combines energy therapy, cognitive techniques, and somatic work to help people process emotional triggers and build resilience. Her mission is to make tapping accessible for anyone ready to break emotional patterns and reclaim their peace.Resources Mentioned:SOAR with Tapping by Amy Vincze: Quote of the Episode:“You can’t release what you refuse to feel—and tapping helps you face it with compassion.” – Amy VinczePerfect for listeners who:· Feel consumed by jealousy or insecurity in their relationships· Want a practical way to manage emotional triggers· Are curious about tapping but unsure where to start· Are tired of suppressing uncomfortable emotions· Are ready to reclaim peace and self-worth on their healing journeySchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
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3 Stages of Jealousy Management EP 114
Book your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.🎧 In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down the 3 stages of jealousy that sabotage emotional security—and how to work through them.If you’ve ever felt stuck in spirals, constantly checking your partner’s phone, or craving reassurance just to get through the day—this episode is for you.Through her own experience and years of coaching clients through jealousy, Shanenn identifies 3 specific levels most people go through: High Alert, Distance Dependent, and Emotionally Equipped. You’ll learn how to recognize where you are, why each stage feels the way it does, and how to move forward with more self-trust and less shame.This is your roadmap out of relationship anxiety and into emotional strength.🔑 Key Moments:2:00 – The High Alert stage: spiraling thoughts, hypervigilance, and the toll on your nervous system10:00 – Breaking out of unhealthy validation habits using the Think-Do-Say framework17:00 – The Distance Dependent stage: calm on the surface, but still triggered by what you see23:00 – Using self-focus and small wins to rewire your emotional patterns28:00 – The Emotionally Equipped stage: meeting your own needs without over-relying on your partner31:00 – How to bounce back after a setback without shame or spirals💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:Jealousy isn’t just emotional—it becomes physical stress if left uncheckedThe Think-Do-Say model helps break compulsive habits by replacing them with conscious choicesYou can stop checking the phone without stopping all the habits—just start with oneSelf-validation is the gateway to emotional safetyYou don’t need your partner to fix your jealousy—you need tools to manage your emotional responses❤️ Perfect for listeners who:Feel overwhelmed by jealousy or insecure thoughts in their relationshipAre trying to stop spiraling and start self-soothingWant practical, non-judgmental tools for emotional growthAre ready to take their healing seriously but with compassionCrave deeper connection—without losing themselves✍️ Leave a review and let us know—what stage do you see yourself in right now? And what’s one habit you’re working to change?Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
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A Nervous System Reset For Jealousy EP 113
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn unpacks one of the most misunderstood truths about jealousy: it doesn’t start in your mind—it starts in your body.If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just going to think positive thoughts” or “I’ll be chill tonight”—only to spiral the moment your partner picks up their phone—then go ahead and hit play now.Shanenn introduces a nervous system-based approach to jealousy, built around her signature BAM Method: Body And Mind. You’ll learn how to stop shaming your reactions, calm your nervous system, and respond in a healthier way—rather than fear, panic, or reactivity.This episode is a must-listen for anyone stuck in the cycle of body-based jealousy and emotional spirals.Golden Episode Nuggets:💎 Jealousy isn’t crazy—it’s a stored survival response from your nervous system💎 Your body reacts before your brain can even form a thought💎 BAM = Body And Mind (Breathe, Acknowledge, Move) is your new reset tool💎 A safer body allows you to choose a better thought💎 Explaining your nervous system reactions to your partner can build deeper understandingKey Moments:3:25 – Why jealousy can’t be “thought away” (and why 95% of your reactions aren’t logical)7:17 – The real reason your stomach drops when he texts—and what your nervous system is doing10:28 – Introducing BAM: Why calming your body comes before calming your thoughts15:02 – The “hot stove” analogy to help explain jealousy to your partner19:33 – BAM, defined: Breathe. Acknowledge. Move.24:51 – What to do when your body believes an old wound is happening again27:42 – How to shift into your “choice moment” once your body feels safeResources Mentioned:Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp – Join the next session starting June 18th. Register hereWatch THIS episode on YouTube Shanenn's new podcast:On Apple Lead Without LimitsOn YouTube Lead Without LimitsQuote of the Episode:“When your body feels safe, your brain can finally tell the truth.”Perfect for listeners who:Feel overwhelmed by jealousy, even when “nothing is happening”Struggle with reactivity, spiraling thoughts, or reassurance-seekingWant to learn nervous system tools to feel safe in their relationshipAre ready to replace shame with self-compassion and emotional safetyAre doing the deep work to heal attachment wounds and regulate from the inside out📝 Leave a review and let us know—what’s one way you’re helping your Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
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Unhealthy Thought Patterns And How To Spot Them w/ Amy Kemp EP 112
In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with thought habit strategist and author Amy Kemp to unpack one of the most damaging patterns women struggle with—tying our self-worth to performance.From subconscious thought loops to resentment signals, Amy shares the surprising truth behind why we feel exhausted, unseen, and over-obligated—and what we can do to reclaim our identity and energy.If you're spiraling in your own pool of thoughts, this episode will help you understand the thought habits secretly draining you and how to replace them with empowering defaults.Golden Episode Nuggets:💎 You are not your thoughts—your brain’s habits can be rewired💎 Resentment is a neon sign flashing: “Missing boundary here”💎 “I should” and “I have to” are energy leaks disguised as productivity💎 Confidence isn’t a feeling—it’s what shows up after you act💎 Your natural genius is the thing that feels easy to you but amazes othersKey Moments:· 3:45 – Why 80% of our thoughts are subconscious (and how to catch the unhealthy ones)· 7:10 – The “value vs. performance” hand exercise that could change how you see yourself· 12:50 – What resentment actually means (hint: it’s a missing boundary)· 15:00 – The 3 most common toxic thought habits women carry· 21:40 – The Resentment Audit: a practical way to uncover unspoken needs· 25:15 – How to find your “natural genius” and stop undervaluing your giftsAbout Our Guest:Amy Kemp is a leadership coach, speaker, and author of I See You: A Guide for Women to Make More, Have More, and Be More. Her work helps women reprogram limiting thought habits so they can stop second-guessing themselves and start living and leading with clarity and energy.Take her free Habit Finder assessment to discover your subconscious thought patterns and how to shift them at www.amykemp.com.Resources Mentioned:The Habit Finder Assessment – Free at amykemp.comI See You by Amy Kemp – available on Amazon, Audible, and Bookshop.orgQuote of the Episode:“Every time you feel resentment, imagine a neon sign flashing ‘Missing Boundary’—because your energy is trying to tell you something.” – Amy KempPerfect for listeners who:· Constantly feel like they “should be doing more”· Struggle with people-pleasing, burnout, or overthinking· Want to break free from perfectionism and performative self-worth· Are ready to understand their energy leaks and reclaim peace· Are looking to rediscover their identity beyond roles and titles📝 Leave a review and let us know—what’s one thought habit you’re ready to rewire?Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.
About TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships
Struggling with jealousy, insecurity, or self-doubt? You're not alone. Join Pattern Transformation Expert Shanenn Bryant as she combines humor, hard-won wisdom, and practical strategies to help you break free from the patterns keeping you stuck. From 2 AM social media stalking sessions to second-guessing yourself at work, each episode tackles the real struggles women face with jealousy, insecurity and confidence. Shanenn draws from her experience and expertise in attachment theory to help women transform from overwhelming insecurity to unshakeable confidence in both relationships and career. Whether you're battling relationship jealousy or letting imposter syndrome hold you back in the workplace, you'll discover how to recognize your patterns, regulate your emotions, and transform your story.Ready to stop letting insecurity and jealousy run your life? Subscribe now to start writing a new story - one that isn't controlled by old patterns or endless overthinking.
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