Husband Material

How can we help teens start outgrowing porn and unwanted sexual behavior? Licensed counselor Blake Brinkman believes teens are NOT too young, too immature, or too unwilling to start healing. In this episode, you'll hear Blake's overview of the teen brain, why recovery must start "bottom-up" with safety rather than "top-down" with rules, how (not) to respond to teens struggling with porn, and why apologizing after mistakes creates deeper trust than attempting to parent perfectly.
Blake Brinkman is a mental health counselor, recovery coach, and co-host of the new podcast Start Younger: Outgrow Porn At Any Age. 
Blake is the founder of Redefine Student Recovery, where he works with teens and families through one-on-one coaching, recovery groups, and parent guidance. He specializes in helping adolescents understand the emotional and relational roots of addictive behavior and develop healthier beliefs, relationships, and patterns for lasting change, integrating recovery principles, family systems insight, and faith-based care in a developmentally appropriate, shame-free way. Blake is also the author of Alliance Groups: Empowering Student Recovery. He lives in New York City and enjoys exploring the city and world with his wife, Katherine.
Listen to the Start Younger Podcast at startyoungerpodcast.com, co-hosted by Blake Brinkman, Drew Boa, and Dr. Doug Carpenter. New episodes come out on Thursdays every two weeks.
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Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
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What if couples devastated by sexual betrayal could heal together instead of separately? Clinton and Charity Muñoz expose a massive gap in traditional porn recovery's focus on sexual addiction for husbands and betrayal trauma for wives that leaves couples without guidance on how to actually restore their relationship in community. 
In this episode, you'll hear:
The power of hearing other spouses' stories
Healthy boundaries to keep communication safe
Why you need to turn on your brain's "relational circuits"
What it looks like to process your pain with Jesus
How post-traumatic growth is a picture of the gospel
Clinton and Charity Muñoz are the founders of Restored 2 More, a Christ-centered nonprofit ministry helping couples heal after betrayal, pornography/sexual addiction, and broken trust. After walking through their own story of betrayal, trauma, repentance, recovery, and restoration, they felt called to create a safe and hope-filled pathway for other couples who are longing for healing.
Through their podcast, courses, coaching, resources, and ambassador program, Clinton and Charity equip couples, churches, and leaders with practical tools to restore safety, rebuild trust, process pain with Jesus, and move toward deeper connection. Their heart is to see marriages not simply survive betrayal, but become restored to more. Learn more at restored2more.com
Take The Bridge Back To Us 8-Week Course here:
https://restored2more.thinkific.com/products/courses/thebridgebacktous
Find additional Restored 2 More resources here:
https://restored2more.com/resources/
Listen to the Restored 2 More podcast here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/restored-2-more/id1503954507
Connect with Restored 2 More on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/
Friends, a marriage marked by betrayal doesn't have to settle for "not divorced." It can become something better than either spouse imagined!
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Take the Husband Material Journey...
Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy
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In this vulnerable demo, Jordan Castille guides Jason Mellard in processing a sexual fantasy through inner child work. As Jason listens to his body, he travels back to a pivotal memory of being violated and rejected by his father. With Jordan’s help, Jason offers love to "Little Jason” and leads him from a place of powerlessness to a place of grace, space, and unconditional belonging with Jesus.
***Trigger Warning*** The description of a sexual fantasy at the start of this episode may be triggering for some listeners. Even though no graphic details are shared, please use discernment. If you feel triggered, stop listening or skip to another section.
This episode is an example of Inner Child Thursday, one of the 12 weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA at joinHMA.com
Jordan Castille is the founder of Castille Coaching, where he helps men break free from pornography and live a life of purpose. He is a Board Certified Christian Counselor, Certified Clinical Sex Addiction Specialist, APSATS CPC Certified Partner Coach, and Certified Husband Material Coach. Jordan leads a weekly HMA Coaching Call, Inner Child Thursday, on Thursday mornings.
Jason Mellard is the founder of Own Your Identity, where he empowers men experiencing unwanted same-sex attraction to live the life they truly desire. Jason is a Certified High Performance Coach and Certified Husband Material Coach. Jason leads a weekly HMA Coaching Call, Vision Sunday, on Sunday nights.
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Take the Husband Material Journey...
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Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy
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"Accountability" is one of the most controversial topics in porn recovery. Some men find it healing; some men find it harmful. What's the difference between healthy and unhealthy accountability?
Traditional accountability groups often get hijacked by fear, control, and shame—unintentionally incentivizing secrecy and acting like a prison rather than a path to freedom.
In this episode, Drew Boa argues that the secret to lasting transformation isn't a shift in theology or psychology, but a shift in posture. He introduces the concept of Attunement Groups—a curious, compassionate approach focused on meeting core attachment needs so you can truly outgrow porn. 
Want to learn more about attunement?
Listen to this 30-minute deep dive episode: Attunement: The Key To Connection
Interested in being part of an attunement group?
Join a Husband Material Academy small group (triad) when you enroll at joinHMA.com.
Looking for a small group led by a professional coach?
Apply to join a private Husband Material group at husbandmaterial.com/group
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Take the Husband Material Journey...
Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy
Thanks for listening!

Have you ever felt like there is a war raging inside of you between conflicting feelings or desires? If so, this episode will empower you to lead your thoughts, emotions, and sexual attractions with compassion rather than condemnation through an exercise called "the table." You'll learn why the table—not just the cross—is the ultimate symbol of grace, belonging, and transformation. Grounded in both Christian theology and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, this exercise shifts your internal posture from hostility to hospitality. It can be life-changing!
Keep in mind that most of this episode is a step-by-step guided audio meditation. So find a quiet, comfortable space to sit back, slow down, and welcome all parts of yourself into the healing presence of Jesus.
IFS Resources mentioned in this episode:
Boundaries For Your Soul: How To Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts And Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller
Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You by Jenna Riemersma
Altogether You: Experiencing Personal and Spiritual Transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy by Jenna Riemersma
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Take the Husband Material Journey...
Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube
Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community
Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn
Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy
Thanks for listening!