Heads up: This episode contains adult content—pop in your earbuds if the kids are around!We are excited to dive into a topic we haven’t discussed in a while: intimacy. Whether you're newly postpartum or deep in the trenches of parenting, we know that maintaining a healthy sex life with your partner can feel complicated—and sometimes like just another thing on your to-do list.We’re sharing what has worked for us personally, how our sex lives have shifted through different seasons of motherhood, and how we’ve learned to reconnect with our partners along the way.In this episode, we discuss:How sex changes during different stages of parenthood (especially postpartum).The impact of hormonal and physical shifts on your desire for intimacy.The difference between spontaneous vs. responsive sex drives—and why understanding yours matters.Tips for improving communication in the bedroom (hint: start with what you do want).Easy ways to rekindle connection and feel more like a team again.And make sure you stay tuned to the end—we polled our community and we share your amazing, real-life recommendations for improving intimacy that you won’t want to miss.Whether you're looking to reignite the spark or simply feel closer to your partner, this episode offers practical advice and heartfelt insight to support your relationship.LINKS AND RESOURCES:GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herselfBETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfFORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest locationSPICY BOOKS LIST- curated by us and all our listeners! Affiliate LinksLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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293. How to Raise Mentally and Physically Strong Pre-teens with Dr. Talib
If you’re parenting little ones now, the idea of raising pre-teens or teenagers might feel far off—or a little intimidating. These years often come with a tough reputation, but what if they didn’t have to?In this insightful episode, we’re joined by pediatrician Dr. Hina Talib to talk about how we can start preparing now to enter the teen years with more confidence, connection, and compassion. Too often, teens get labeled as the problem, when in reality, it's our job as parents to prepare and empower them to navigate the challenges ahead.Dr. Talib shares powerful tools to help our kids feel more respected during this season of life—including the importance of putting ourselves in their shoes, approaching situations with curiosity (not judgment), and creating a safe space for open conversation.We dive into:Why starting family traditions now creates strong connection laterHow to foster independence in preteens to build confidence and resilienceBody image and how to talk about our kids’ bodies in ways that don’t focus on weightThe truth about teen mental health—and the most important (and surprising!) thing we can do to support itWhether your kids are in preschool or approaching middle school, this is a must-listen conversation that will leave you feeling more prepared for what’s ahead—and more empowered to raise confident, connected teens.Follow Dr. Talib on Instagram and LinkedInLINKS AND RESOURCES:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFVUORI: 20% off first purchase at: http://vuoriclothing.com/herself Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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292. Our Health Update: Learning to Work With Our Bodies
In this heartfelt Amy and Abby episode, we’re diving into a topic that’s close to both of our hearts: our health and our relationship with our bodies. If you’ve been a long-time listener, you know how important this conversation is to us — and how complex it can be.We begin by sharing pivotal moments from our high school years—each involving a coach’s comment that stuck with us for decades. One of those memories was encouraging, while the other left a lasting wound. These stories opened the door to a much deeper conversation about how our bodies have changed—through motherhood, aging, and personal growth.Between us, we’ve carried and birthed six children. Our bodies have stretched, healed, and transformed in ways we never could have predicted. Amy opens up about a time when she didn’t feel at home in her body, and gets emotional as she reflects on how that same body carried her through some of the hardest seasons of her life. Abby shares her own experience with body fluctuations and the frustration of not seeing immediate results—even when making significant changes to her diet and lifestyle.The message we hope you carry with you from this episode is this: Work with your body, not against it. Be gentle. Show gratitude. And remember—aging is a gift.No matter where you are on your wellness journey, we hope this conversation encourages you to treat your body with care, kindness, and respect.Links & Resources:CORNBREAD HEMP: 30% off with code HERSELF cornbreadhemp.com/herselfGOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herselfLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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291. Bring on the Men: Parenting from a Dad’s Perspective
Last week, our partners Drew and Colin joined us to talk all things partnerships—and they’re back today, but this time we’re diving into the world of parenting.We know many of you love hearing a father’s perspective, and in this episode, Drew and Colin share candid insights, relatable struggles, and plenty of wisdom from their own parenting journeys.We talk about what’s going well for us as parents right now and the areas where we’re still learning. If you’re parenting multiple kids with different personalities, you’ll definitely relate to the challenges—and joys—of finding balance.With summer in full swing, we’re also sharing what we’re most excited about this season and what’s already proving to be a little tricky. Between practices, games, and trying to carve out true downtime, it’s a lot—and we’re talking about how we’re navigating it all.Our kids range from 5 to 9 years old, and we reflect on what’s working at this stage and what continues to challenge us. Plus, we open up about how we keep work stress from seeping into family time and the way we approach big parenting decisions as a couple—especially when we don’t initially see eye to eye.This is a great episode to share with your partner. If you enjoyed it, be sure to send it to them so the two of you can learn together.Links & Resources:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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290. Bring on the Men: What It Takes to Sustain a Long-term Partnership
We are excited to have our husbands back on the podcast today. If you are new to the show, Drew is Amy’s husband and Colin is married to Abby. We have both been married for 11 years and the guys tend to be a crowd favorite around here. Today we are focusing on our partnerships. The men truly have no problem getting deep with their answers and hold nothing back! They share what’s working well, what’s NOT going well and some self-reflection/areas for improvement. They also share the ways they work to continue prioritizing quality time during this full season of life. We also get into the hot topic of health - how can we actually have a conversation with our partner if they’re struggling to take care of themselves? Make sure you listen all the way through to hear their advice on this sensitive topic! Be sure to tune in next week for part 2 when we bring the guys back to talk about all things parenting! Links & Resources:GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herselfVUORI: 20% off first purchase at: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest locationLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
As women and mothers of young children, it can be easy to compare ourselves to others. But your life isn't supposed to look like hers! Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose. Are you wanting more ease in your marriage? Or more enjoyment as a parent? Are you looking for a strategy to the health challenges you have been facing recently? Do you feel like you have been staring at a stranger in the mirror since becoming a mother? Abby and Amy get vulnerable with topics around partnership, motherhood, health, and self improvement by interviewing authors, therapists, experts and everyday mothers. Our conversations will meet you with solutions and solidarity as you find a life path that feels aligned for you. If this sounds like you, hit play on your favorite episode title and make sure you're following the HERself podcast.
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