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In this episode, we’re diving into something that Abby has struggled with for most of her life: the feeling that she’s never doing enough. Whether it’s parenting, work, or her home, she shares how she can hit one goal and immediately move the bar higher, which makes it hard to actually feel proud of what she’s accomplished or be present in the moment. We talk about where this drive comes from, how it can turn into overfunctioning and burnout, and what it looks like to start letting go of the constant pressure to do more. She's still figuring this out, but Abby's learning that being “enough” isn’t something she can achieve. It’s something she has to decide.
Key Topics Covered:
The connection between achievement, praise, and belonging
How comparison can fuel negative self-talk
Why rest and play can feel uncomfortable for high achievers
Prompts to help redefine your priorities and recognize when you’re already doing enough
Letting go of perfection without losing the parts of yourself that make you a high achiever

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We often think communication is the key to a strong marriage, but what if the real secret is friendship? In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to actually be friends with your spouse, how that can get lost when life gets busy and kids need more from you, and the ways we’ve each seen this play out in our own marriages. We’re also sharing some simple ways to rebuild connection that can help you find your way back to liking each other again.
Key Topics Covered:
How to show genuine interest in your partner’s hobbies and interests
The mental load and how sharing responsibilities can create more room for connection
Why small acts of kindness and quick repairs matter
Ways to turn toward your partner instead of away during frustrating moments
Creating more opportunities for fun and shared experiences

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Listen to episode 10 with Molly Millwood: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000466502777 
Grab the books mentioned in the episode:
To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma by Molly Millwood: https://amzlink.to/az0O8mPASBGdi 
Drop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less by Tiffany Dufu: https://amzlink.to/az0xopPThIfNo 
Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://amzlink.to/az0P01tackqJA 
Read the blog post from The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/blog/thirty-years-later/ 

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Today, we’re talking all things motherhood, mindset, and youth sports with Chandler Ashcraft, the creator behind @chanwiththeboys and founder of Moms Away. Chandler brings her background in education and her experience raising four boys to the conversation, sharing why perspective can help us take the pressure off, how to set developmentally appropriate expectations for our kids, and why confidence often comes from being willing to do hard things. We also get into the reality of youth sports, from the pressure to do more to the mental load that comes with keeping everyone’s schedules moving, and how to make choices that actually fit your family.

Key Topics Covered

How exposure to hard moments builds confidence and resilience
Teaching kids to take ownership of their attitude, effort, and response
Why confidence, especially for women, is built through failure and trying again
How to evaluate the tradeoffs that come with youth sports
Keeping the long game in mind when making decisions for your family

CONNECT WITH CHANDLER:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chanwiththeboys
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chanwiththeboys
Learn more about Moms Away:
Website: https://www.momsaway.co/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moms.away 

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Since it’s Labor Day here in the U.S., we’re bringing back one of our favorite conversations on shifting jealousy and comparison into inspiration and possibility. It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to other women and feeling jealous, intimidated, or like you’re somehow behind. But what if you could shift that mindset and instead feel genuinely inspired by the success around you? In this episode, we share a recent real-life experience from a mastermind we attended with highly successful business owners and how it challenged us to see comparison differently. Instead of letting the “small fish in a big sea” feeling discourage us, we used it as proof of what’s possible. We talk about the mindset shift that helped us move from comparison to inspiration, why personal growth plays a huge role in that process, and how surrounding yourself with the right people can change the way you view your own potential.

In this episode, we discuss:
What it felt like walking into a room full of highly successful entrepreneurs.
The surprising common habits we noticed among women operating at a high level.
Why taking care of your physical health often supports long-term success.
The “highlight reel vs. inner life” trap and why it distorts how we see other people’s journeys.
Questions to ask yourself when someone else's success triggers comparison.
The hidden sacrifices and personal work that often sit behind visible success.
Practical ways to shift from jealousy to curiosity and inspiration.
Why your mindset about others’ success can either hold you back or move you forward.
How getting support, such as a mindset coach, can help you break out of negative thought patterns.
The powerful question to ask when a negative thought about someone else pops up.

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Have you ever found yourself taking your child’s behavior personally, getting defensive, or reacting in a way you wish you could take back? Today, we’re talking about how the Gottman Institute’s Four Horsemen of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling can show up in our parenting, why our kids’ emotional development means we have to take the lead when it comes to navigating conflict, and how much they learn from the way we handle hard moments. We’re not going to get it right every time, but becoming more aware of our patterns can help us model healthier communication, repair, and relationships for our kids.
Key Topics Covered
Why criticism can feel like an attack or humiliation to a child
How to tell the difference between taking a break and stonewalling
Why self-regulation has to come before trying to coach your child through a conflict
How to soften the start-up and communicate your feelings more clearly
The importance of taking responsibility and modeling a genuine apology

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