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Some comments linger longer than they should. A tone, a look, an offhand remark from your partner, your child, or a friend can spiral into a story in your head before you even realize it. This conversation unpacks what it really takes to not take things personally, especially in the relationships that matter most. From defensiveness and truth triggers to slowing down your reactions and separating someone else’s mood from your responsibility, we share practical mindset shifts that create more peace at home and in your friendships.
Key Topics Covered:
• The connection between defensiveness and hidden truths.
• Why pausing before reacting changes everything.
• Separating your partner’s emotions from your own sense of worth.
• The role tone plays when giving and receiving feedback.
• Helping kids regulate before expecting repair or apology.
• Teaching children awareness of how their words impact others.
• Navigating the sting of feeling like a means to an end as a parent.
• Modeling reciprocal conversations and emotional awareness at home.
• How past friendship wounds shape present reactions.
• Real life examples of working through friendship conflict without escalation.

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No one really tells you how much parenting shifts once your kids reach school age, and there are a few things we deeply wish we had known sooner. The early years are all-consuming and survival-focused, which makes forward thinking feel nearly impossible. Now on the other side of that stage, we reflect on the bigger transitions kids experience once they enter school and the areas that deserve a little more intention.

Key topics covered:
What changes once kids enter school and why it can feel like a whole new parenting phase.
How friendships evolve from “everyone is invited” to more complex social dynamics.
Coaching kids through hard friendship moments, apologies, and repairing relationships.
Why it’s important to remember your child’s experience may look different from your own.
The impact of words and helping kids understand how their choices affect others.
How to handle notes home from school and why the truth often lives in the middle.
The value of volunteering at school and gaining perspective on a teacher’s day-to-day.
Being pro teacher and why believing the teacher matters.
Managing the overwhelm of school paperwork, sign-ups, and assignments.
Creating systems at home so responsibilities don’t fall through the cracks.
Teaching kids to apologize with intention, not just to avoid consequences.
Why school-aged parenting can be challenging and incredibly fun at the same time.

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We turned the conversation over to you and asked one powerful question: In what ways do you struggle with comparison? The overwhelming response was the realization that comparison shows up far more often than we think, especially around money, careers, bodies, relationships, and even our kids. We unpack why comparison feels so loud today, how much of what we see is a highlight reel, and why everyone’s starting point, values, and circumstances are completely different. From navigating career shifts and body image to friendships, marriage, and parenting, this episode is a reminder that you are not behind, broken, or doing life wrong. You are simply living your own version of it.
In this episode, we talk about:
The sneaky ways comparison shows up, especially the thought of “What am I doing wrong and how can everyone else afford this?”
Why social media hides financial stress, marriage struggles, and real life challenges.
How different values and priorities shape what people choose to spend money and energy on.
Career comparison and promotions, including Abby’s experience leaving the corporate world and redefining fulfillment.
Why your job might not be the problem and how finding fulfillment outside of work can change everything.
Body comparison, genetics, and why not everything is meant to come easily or naturally to everyone.
The truth behind our friendship and why working together skews what people see.
Comparing kids, milestones, achievements, and even siblings within the same family.

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Parenting in a village isn’t anything new. It’s a necessity for many families, especially when extended family isn’t close by. In this episode, we talk candidly about what it really looks like to build and rely on a village of friends, neighbors, and other families. If you’ve never done this before, know that it can feel intimidating at first. Trusting others with your kids, your schedule, and your needs takes time and practice but it gets easier, and it’s worth it.

Key Topics Covered
What it means to build a parenting village when family isn’t nearby.
Why relying on others often starts out of necessity.
How to ask for help clearly, specifically, and in a way that feels fair.
Making drop-off birthday parties work for your family.
When and how to incorporate paid support into your village.
The impact of unexpected support and paying it forward.
How building a village models healthy relationships and help-seeking for kids.
Letting go of what you thought your village would look like and getting creative.
Abby’s go-to coaching prompt for asking for help.

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What if the missing ingredient in your marriage, friendships, and parenting isn’t more fixing, but more fun? In this episode, we explore a powerful shift inspired by a viral quote: instead of always focusing on what’s wrong, what happens when we intentionally prioritize joy and play in our relationships?
We reflect on how fun often comes naturally in dating but slowly fades as responsibilities, exhaustion, and parenthood take over. Through our honest stories, we unpack why fun is essential, how to bring it back in small, realistic ways, and how it can transform not just your marriage, but your friendships and your experience of parenting.
In this episode, we cover:
Why having more fun can be just as important as therapy for long-term relationships.
How marriage dynamics shift after kids and why fun is often the first thing to disappear.
Simple questions to help you take inventory of what actually feels fun and energizing right now.
The difference between fun that happens away from your kids and fun you can create with them.
Why shared experiences are key to deeper adult friendships and the power of being the one who sends the invite.
A simple question to ask your kids to uncover when they feel most connected to you.
Realistic, everyday ideas for adding more fun into parenting, even in busy seasons.
Fun isn’t optional. It’s often the thing that restores energy, strengthens connection, and makes this season of life feel lighter and more sustainable.

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