Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol free life!

Tribe Sober - inpiring an alcohol-free life!

My guest this week is British Psychiatrist Dr Tony Rao.  He is an international expert of alchohol misuse in older people - with more than 20 years experience in this area.

He works with Baby Boomers in the UK who have alcohol issues - I was one of those for many years so found this conversation fascinating..

In this Episode

Dr Tony explains how his interest in the field started with his parents who were both medics

He believes it's essential to understand the community his patients are from if he is to understand their problems

The baby boomer generation is more susceptible to alcohol abuse as we grew up with very different cultural attitudes 

We believed it was ok to get drunk sometimes and the "work hard, play hard" ethos was encouraged in many corporates

After decades of drinking the older generation have not even tried to cut down - many of them rely on it more as they get older

Dr Tony believes that the "low risk" limits for alcohol should be reduced for older people as our bodies are less resilient

Extra risks for older people include falls, mixing with medications and the fact that it takes longer to metabolize

We agreed that although people are living longer the emphasis should be on "living well" for the last 10 years

Dr Tony advises that we take the low risk limits seriously and reach out for help if we need it - there is always help.

He has written a book called "Catch Me When I Fall" which dramatises the issue - available via Amazon


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🎙 Episode 4: Falling in Love With Your Brain
Love Series – Tribe Sober Podcast

 

This month we’ve been exploring love.

Love as compassionate witness.

Love as unconditional.

Love as unbreakable across time.

 

And in this final episode of the series, we go deeper.

What if one of the fiercest acts of self-love in sobriety is falling in love with your brain?

 

Not believing every thought.

Not fighting your mind.

But understanding it. Training it. Leading it.

 

Because if you don’t direct your brain…

it will direct you.

 

And when it comes to alcohol, your brain isn’t protecting you from drinking.

It’s protecting your access to drinking.

That distinction changes everything.

 

In this Episode we explore :


✨ Why your brain isn’t broken — it’s programmable

✨ The five common distortions that argue for alcohol

✨ Why sobriety isn’t about willpower — it’s about leadership

✨ The power of deciding ahead of time who you are becoming

✨ What Olympic champion Eileen Gu teaches us about self-leadership

✨ How curiosity replaces self-criticism

✨ Why loving your brain is an act of fierce devotion

 

Lynette also shares a deeply personal reflection:

Her 54-year-old self — in her “Not This” moment — would absolutely love the 62-year-old woman she has become.

 

Not because everything is perfect.

But because she didn’t stay stuck.

 

She got curious.

She trained her thinking.

She led herself first.

 

And that is available to you too.

The Core Message
Sobriety is not about fighting yourself.

It’s about understanding the instrument you are living inside.

 

When you love your brain, you train it.

When you train it, you change your life.

 

And when you change your life, you become the version of yourself your former self would admire.

Ready for Support?
If you’re still early in sobriety and want structure and compassionate guidance:

 

👉 Accelerate – A practical, science-based program to help you stop drinking and build momentum.

https://www.tribesober.com/accelerate-2/

 

If you’re sober and asking, “Now what?”

👉 Path to Purpose – Lynette’s monthly coaching membership where we apply this work deeply. Identity. Emotional mastery. Conscious self-creation.

https://www.tribesober.com/path-to-purpose/

 

If you are serious about strengthening your brain intentionally:

 

👉 Mental Fitness Program & 1:1 Mentorship – High-level brain training, emotional regulation, and personal leadership work.

DM Lynette directly to explore : [email protected]

 

If this Love Series stirred something in you — don’t leave it at inspiration.

 

Take the next step.

 

Because love isn’t just emotional.

 

It’s neurological.

It’s intentional.

It’s leadership.

 

And sobriety?

 

Sobriety is you deciding to create a version of yourself you are proud to be.

 

💛 See you soon.

Unbreakable Love - Having your own back Across Time

This month we’re talking about love.

And yes… I speak about love a lot.

Because I genuinely believe that love is the most powerful force in the universe.

 

But the most important place to practice love isn’t in your romantic relationships.

 

It’s in your relationship with yourself.

 

In this episode, we explore a deeper, sturdier kind of self-love — the kind that has your back across time.

 

Not fluffy love.

Not “treat yourself” love.

Not self-soothing disguised as self-care.

 

But unbreakable love.

 

The kind that protects your future self.

Honours your past self.

And steadies your present self.

 

Especially in sobriety, this distinction matters.

 

Because if something feels good in the moment but harms your future self — it isn’t love. It’s relief.

 

In this episode, I share:

The difference between romance love and sturdy love

Why self-discipline is actually devotion

How to stop shaming your past self and start integrating her

A powerful bridge metaphor for loving yourself across time

Why loving yourself properly makes you more available to love others

And I offer a simple, practical exercise to strengthen your relationship with:

 

✨ Your past self

✨ Your present self

✨ Your future self

 

If you’re still trying to get a handle on your drinking:

 

👉 Join my free Accelerate Webinar happening today, 21 February.

We’ll explore practical tools to stop the cycle and build momentum.

https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/hpmdAdvxQO-bA0f8loMnIA#/registration

 

If you’ve stopped drinking and you’re ready for deeper growth:

 

👉 Path to Purpose is my monthly coaching community where we apply this work in real life — identity, emotional mastery, purpose, and steady self-leadership.

 

If you want to strengthen your inner steadiness daily:

 

👉 My Mental Fitness Pods are where we practice having our own backs — consistently.

 

If this episode resonated with you, send me a DM - [email protected]

Let’s talk about what support looks like for you.

The world needs more love.

But not just romantic love.

It needs steady love.

Grounded love.

Self-trusting love.

 

And that begins with you.

 

Have a beautiful week. 💛

Episode 2 – Unconditional Love, Lovability & The Sobriety That Follows

 

In this second episode of our February Love Series, we go deeper into one of the most powerful forces in our lives: love.

 

Not romantic love.

Not conditional love.

But unconditional love — and what it has to do with sobriety.

 

What if choosing sobriety is one of the fiercest acts of love you will ever perform?

 

What if withholding love — from others or from yourself — is what keeps you stuck in shame, relapse, resentment or self-sabotage?

 

In this episode, Lynette explores:

Why love is not weak — it is strong and protective

How unconditional love is a skill you can train

The difference between love and expectation

Why lovability is not something you earn — it is something you already are

What to say to yourself at 3am after a slip

Why sobriety powered by love lasts longer than sobriety powered by shame

“I’m sober… now what?” — and how to step into your next chapter

Lynette also shares a client story illustrating how choosing regulation over reaction becomes an act of self-respect and emotional leadership.

Whether you are still questioning your relationship with alcohol, early in sobriety, or months/years alcohol-free and wondering what comes next — this episode will meet you exactly where you are.

 

✨ Ready to Go Deeper?

If you’re exploring stopping drinking or want practical support:

Free Webinar – Accelerate Your Sobriety

Register here: https://www.tribesober.com/accelerate-2/

 

If you’re sober and asking “Now what?”:

 

Path to Purpose – Monthly Coaching Membership

This is where we take this material and apply it.

We train it.

We embody it.

We study it at a deeper level.

https://www.tribesober.com/path-to-purpose/

Music
Opening and closing music: Remember by Sutherland

💛 The Love Series — Episode 1

Intro music:

🎵 “Remember” by Sutherland

 

Love as Self-Leadership: Becoming the Compassionate Witness

February is often called the month of love.

But what if love isn’t something we look for outside of ourselves —

what if love is how we lead ourselves, especially when things feel messy, tender, or hard?

This episode is the first in a four-part mini-series exploring love as self-leadership — through sobriety, self-talk, and the way we meet ourselves in moments of struggle.

In this opening episode, we begin with the idea of the compassionate witness — the part of us that can notice what’s happening without judgment, punishment, or shame.

If you’ve ever woken up in the early hours of the morning replaying a slip, a choice, or a moment you wish had gone differently…

this episode is for you.

Instead of berating ourselves, what if the most loving response sounds more like:

“What’s the matter, love?”

“Help me understand.”

“We’ll solve this in the morning.”

In this episode, Lynette explores:

Love as an act of self-leadership, not self-indulgence

Why how we speak to ourselves matters more than willpower

How sobriety deepens our relationship with truth and self-trust

What it means to meet a wobble or slip with curiosity instead of cruelty

A gentler way to work with early-morning shame spirals and mental noise

This conversation invites you to soften — not to give up, but to grow up emotionally.

To move from punishment to partnership with yourself.

This is not about being perfect.

It’s about practicing love where it matters most — inside.

 

✨ This episode is the beginning of The Love Series.

Over the next three episodes, we’ll explore love through repair, self-trust, choice, and the quiet courage of staying.

 

If this resonates, stay with me.

 

🎧 Listen if you:

Are exploring or recommitting to sobriety

Struggle with harsh self-talk or inner criticism

Want a kinder, steadier relationship with yourself

Are learning to respond to life with compassion rather than force

💌 Stay connected

If you’d like to go deeper into this work — through sobriety, emotional self-leadership, and building self-trust — you’re warmly invited to explore working with Lynette or joining one of her programs. Email [email protected] to set up an exploratory session.