After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

You walk into a room and have absolutely no idea why you’re there. You can’t find the word you were JUST about to say. You’re exhausted, foggy, forgetful - and everyone tells you: welcome to motherhood.

But… what if we stopped brushing all of it off??

Today, Deena sits down with Emma Heming Willis and clinical psychologist Dr. Nicole Beurkens from Make Time Wellness for a fascinating (and refreshingly non-doom-and-gloom) conversation about women’s brain health and why we should be thinking about our brains LONG before there’s a problem - especially in the context of potential Alzheimer’s disease prevention.

We’re getting into brain fog, hormones, perimenopause, sleep, movement, stress, dementia risk, and the simple things we can start doing now to support our brains for the long haul. And thankfully, this is NOT another episode telling you to wake up at 5 a.m., meditate for 45 minutes, eat superfoods, hit 10,000 steps and become a completely different person by Tuesday.

You’ll learn:
When brain fog and forgetfulness are part of a season (and when it’s worth talking to your doctor)
The five basic pillars that support brain health over time
What’s actually happening inside your brain while you sleep
Why you absolutely do NOT need a perfect workout routine
Why women are at greater risk for Alzheimer’s disease - and why prevention starts decades before we think it does
How to advocate for yourself when a doctor tells you everything is “normal” but you know something feels off

Plus why 10,000 steps is not the magical number we’ve been led to believe, why the exercise you’ll actually do wins, what your 30s and 40s have to do with your brain decades from now, and how to advocate for yourself when a healthcare provider dismisses what you know you’re feeling.

This isn’t about becoming afraid of getting older. It’s about realizing we have more power than we think - and your brain deserves to be part of the conversation NOW.

After Bedtime listeners can get 20% off with code AFTERBEDTIME20 at maketimewellness.com

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Would you let your kid wear pajamas to school? Forget their homework and face the consequences? Tell Grandma they don’t want a hug? Quit a sport halfway through the season? Eat candy for breakfast? You probably have an immediate answer to at least a few of those. But here’s where it gets interesting: What if the parenting “rule” you’re following is actually making things harder for your kid… and for you?

SO much of parenting is spent wondering: Am I holding a healthy boundary…or am I fighting a battle that literally does not matter? Am I helping my kid…or rescuing them? Am I teaching resilience…or ignoring what my specific kid actually needs? If you’ve ever spiraled over whether you’re being too strict, too permissive, too involved, or somehow doing the exact thing that’s going to screw up your kid forever, this is the episode you need.

We're playing an unfiltered round of “Would You Let Your Kid...?” and get into the parenting decisions that sound black-and-white online but get a whole lot messier IRL.

We get into:
* Pajamas at school and how to know when a battle is actually worth fighting
* Forgotten homework and when helping is NOT the same thing as “rescuing”
* Why your kid should always be allowed to say no to a hug — even with Grandma
* Allowance, chores, and whether you let them blow their own money on something completely ridiculous
* Sleepovers, birthday party exclusions, and quitting a sport mid-season
* How neurodivergence can completely change what the “right” answer looks like

Between the hot takes and spicy debates, we get into the fact that there usually isn’t one clear answer for every kid. Sometimes it's yes. Sometimes it’s absolutely no. And sometimes you just have to know the kid standing in front of you before you can answer at all.

If you’ve been second-guessing your parenting lately, listen to this one. You might walk away realizing you can let go of way more than you thought.

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If you watched Amanda Kloots during the early days of COVID, you probably remember her story. Her husband, Nick Cordero, spent 95 days in the hospital before dying from complications of COVID-19. Their son, Elvis, had just turned one. And Amanda was suddenly living a life she never, ever imagined for herself.

But this conversation isn't just about what Amanda lost. It's about everything that comes after.
Six years later, Amanda sits down with Kristin for an incredibly honest conversation about grief, motherhood, resilience, love, and what it means to keep building a life when the one you planned disappears.

Amanda opens up about something we don't talk about enough: you don't actually "get over" the people you lose. You don't have to stop loving them in order to love someone new. And finding moments of happiness doesn't mean you're grieving them any less.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The tiny rule Amanda swore by to get her through her darkest days
- Why the best thing her friends did after Nick died involved almost no words at all
- The advice she'd immediately retire when talking to someone who's grieving,
- Why she refuses to pretend her marriage was perfect just because Nick is gone.
- Her perspective on what grieving people ACTUALLY need

We also talk about the signs Amanda still receives from Nick, raising Elvis with his dad's memory woven into their everyday life, her unexpected friendship with Harry Jowsey, and the part of her future she's still scared might never happen.

And maybe the biggest takeaway: grief and joy aren't opposites. You can be devastated and laugh. You can miss someone forever and still want something new. You can deeply love the life you have while still grieving the life you thought you'd have.

You'll leave this episode with a completely different perspective on grief, what it actually means to "move forward," and how to show up for someone you love when there truly are no right words.

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Our last Q&A became our MOST-LISTENED-TO episode, so Besties: WE’RE BACK. You sent us your hardest parenting questions, and once again, we’re answering them all. Your kid was doing GREAT, and then school started and suddenly they’re melting down, fighting everything, and acting like a completely different person. Your three-year-old has turned absolutely feral since the new baby arrived. And what do you do when you KNOW you need therapy, but adding one more thing to your schedule feels literally impossible?

We cover:
Back-to-school meltdowns and why your kid suddenly seems like a completely different person
What’s actually happening when kids hold it together all day at school and completely fall apart at home
How to make the back-to-school transition easier (and why now might be the time to LOWER demands)
Why three-year-olds can feel absolutely feral, and the small shifts that can prevent some of the biggest daily power struggles
New sibling jealousy, meltdowns, and helping your older child adjust to a new baby
What to do when YOU are completely at capacity
How to make time for therapy when you literally do not have one more hour to give
The mindset shift that can completely change how you think about taking care of your own mental health

Plus:
Kristin is in an anxiety spiral, Deena is officially having a midlife crisis, we reveal what we’re watching right now (or why Kristin is watching absolutely fucking nothing), and somehow we land on spa baths as a legitimate mental health intervention. Basically: feral toddlers, back-to-school chaos, nervous systems, therapy, and the real-life strategies that will help your whole family get through this season with a little more ease.

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If your kid has ever looked you directly in the eyes and lied, even when you KNOW they know that you know the truth…you probably know the immediate panic spiral:

Why are they lying to me? Is this normal? Can I trust them? If they're doing this at five, what happens when they're FIFTEEN?!

And suddenly, this isn't about who ate the cookie or knocked over the toy, you're imagining your teenager lying about where they are, who they're with, what happened at the party, or something much, much bigger.

But here's what most of us get wrong: If we want to raise kids who tell us the truth when it really matters, we have to be careful that our reaction to lying doesn't accidentally teach them that telling us the truth is dangerous.

In this episode, Deena puts on her child therapist hat and breaks down what's actually happening when kids lie and why lying doesn't automatically mean you're raising a dishonest kid. In fact, there are several completely different reasons kids lie, and each one needs a different response.

You'll leave this episode knowing why your kid is lying, what their lie is actually trying to accomplish, and exactly how to respond in the moment plus:
- What to say when you know they're lying
- When to use consequences
- Why you don't need to force a confession
- How to hold your boundary without making your kid afraid to tell you the truth next time.

Most importantly, you'll learn exactly what to say and do when your kid lies to your face, without being permissive, letting them "get away with it," shaming them, or turning the whole thing into a 45-minute interrogation.

Someday, the mistake won't be a stolen cookie, an iPad after bedtime, or marker on the table. It'll be something bigger. And in that moment, we want the thought that's louder than I'm going to be in so much trouble to be:

I need to tell my mom.

This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.

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