We Talk Back

AJ Holiday and TamBam return to We Talk Back with their signature unfiltered humor, catching up on Tam becoming a “grandma” after her cat Dasha gives birth to kittens, Costco adventures, and Black college homecoming season, including AJ’s Benedict College homecoming experience and concerns about event safety. The conversation takes a serious turn as the ladies react to reports about Laurence Fishburne acknowledging past domestic abuse while portraying Ike Turner, sparking a discussion about intimate partner violence, consent, trauma, and accountability. They also examine research linking supportive partners to career success and debate masculinity, dating expectations, and gender roles following Justice Smith’s comments about no longer dating women.
The ladies then dive into the episode’s central debate: Should men be more generous with women, and is generosity about more than money? Exploring the spiritual connection between money, energy, giving, and receiving, AJ and TamBam challenge traditional relationship dynamics while emphasizing mutual respect, emotional investment, and financial generosity. From recognizing when a relationship becomes transactional to knowing when to walk away from resentment and disrespect, the duo delivers a candid conversation about love, boundaries, self-worth, and what it really means to show up for your partner.
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*Originally aired January 21st, 2021
On the first episode of "We Talk Back" listeners will meet co-host AJ and Tambam! These ladies kick off the episode with a favorite random "Sex fact" of the day. AJ & Tambam speak with three gentleman, all from different backgrounds, but one thing they have in common is their familiarity with the term cheating. We all understand the emotional distress caused by stepping out on a partner, especially if the partner finds out, so AJ and Tambam explore to find out what is the reason for the cheating?
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AJ Holiday and TamBam welcome Chantal Heide, known as “Canada’s Dating Coach” and author of No More Assholes, to We Talk Back for an unfiltered conversation about modern dating, relationship standards, and the importance of boundaries. Chantal breaks down her “corporate model” for intentional dating, encouraging women to date multiple people while avoiding kissing, sex, sleepovers, and exclusivity for at least three months. She explains the difference between “guys” and “men,” challenges questions about body count, and argues that rushing physical intimacy can make it harder to recognize red flags and walk away from unhealthy relationships.
Drawing from 20 years as a stripper, her personal dating experiences, and the journey to meeting her husband, Chantal shares why screening potential partners matters just as much as setting boundaries. The conversation explores emotional attachment, self-worth, meditation, accountability, and choosing long-term compatibility over instant chemistry. Ultimately, AJ, TamBam, and Chantal challenge listeners to rethink their dating habits, communicate expectations early, and prioritize character, consistency, and emotional maturity when looking for lasting love.
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AJ Holiday and TamBam catch up after AJ’s relaxing Jamaica getaway and Tam’s busy salon season before jumping into “SINS.” They debate whether Savannah James should be expected to upgrade a friend from coach to first class, defend Jasmine Guy against criticism of her appearance surrounding the A Different World revival, and discuss Kendrick Sampson’s comments about potentially having children with close female friends rather than within romantic relationships.
For the main topic, AJ and Tam explore “cliteracy,” inspired by Regina Thomashure’s Pussy: A Reclamation, and the importance of understanding and communicating what brings you pleasure. The candid conversation covers desire, boundaries, sexual communication, faking orgasms, and becoming more comfortable expressing your needs, before closing with a self-date exercise centered on self-care, affirmation, and prioritizing yourself.
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In this episode of We Talk Back, AJ Holiday and TamBam kick things off with some Jamaica banter before diving into “SINS,” including a disturbing Florida arrest involving alleged bestiality caught on home surveillance and reported changes involving FBI background-check disqualifiers. They also react to the controversy surrounding Every Woman, artist Tschabalala Self’s new “Lady in Blue” sculpture in London’s Trafalgar Square, before unpacking racism, prejudice, and violence within communities. The conversation gets even more personal after discussing a Kansas man who discovered a racial slur printed on an oil-change sticker from a Ford dealership.
For the main topic, AJ and TamBam ask a question many people confront after a relationship ends: Did you waste your time—or did you stay too long? They unpack why women may feel the weight of lost time differently, accountability for ignoring signs and overstaying relationships, biological clocks, boundaries, and the contrast between women regretting time invested and men regretting money spent. Ultimately, the ladies encourage listeners to choose themselves, demand reciprocity, stop waiting for the “perfect” time to make a change, and release relationships and situations that no longer serve them to create space for something better.
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