Guillermo and his ex-wife divorced nearly a decade ago. They share custody of their son which, Guillermo says, lets her continue meddling in his life. He recently started dating someone and it’s getting serious, but he’s worried that his ex is going to destroy his new relationship. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Bill Eddy, author and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute. Bill explains how to set limits and impose consequences in truly difficult situations to preserve your peace of mind and foster happiness.
If you liked this episode check out: How To Do Divorce Right and How To Save a Friend from a Bad Relationship
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Death, Sex & Money | The Kind of Man a Bullied Boy Becomes
Comedian Gary Gulman is used to dealing with bullies. He grew up with older brothers, who he describes as "aggressive" and “unenlightened,” and he’s witnessed plenty of unkind behavior from his peers in the New York City comedy scene. This is all despite being, in his words, “very, very sensitive.”
This week, Gary talks about managing that sensitivity, standing up for his principles, and becoming more secure in who he is as a comedian and a man.
Podcast production by Andrew Dunn.
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Hang Up | Chiefs vs. Bills: Different Year, Same Story
Hosts Alex Kirshner, Lindsay Gibbs, and Ben Lindbergh discuss the Bills' astonishing proclivity to lose to the Chiefs, plus how the Eagles steamrolled the Commanders. The panel also chats about Madison Keys’ shocking victory at the Australian Open. Finally, they get into the Philadelphia 76ers’ disastrous season, and Alex has an Afterball about Arkadag F.C., and the (disputable) win streak of the soccer club from Turkmenistan.
On the bonus episode available exclusively for Slate Plus members, the hosts discuss EA Sports' sinking stock price.
NFL Conference Championships (2:01): Chiefs and Eagles win again
Madison Keys (23:58): The American wins The Australian Open
Philadelphia 76ers (45:13): The catastrophically bad season continues
Afterballs (55:57): The world-beating football club from Turkmenistan?
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Care & Feeding | Should We Fight In Front Of the Kids?
On this episode: Zak, Elizabeth and Jamilah talk about what to do when you’re arguing with your partner… but you have to do it in front of the kids. We’ll talk about how to model healthy disagreement — and when it’s time to hit pause.
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Jamilah’s check-in: everyone’s fine!
Elizabeth’s check-in: hot mess express!
Zak’s check-in: improv!
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ICYMI: TikTok Is Back…Are We?
Candice Lim and Kate Lindsay make sense of TikTok’s surprise return, and what’s going on with the influencers who said goodbye to the app by sharing controversial secrets, only for it to come back the next day. Then, the pair debunk some of the social media conspiracy theories that have proliferated since the presidential inauguration.
This podcast is produced by Alexandra Botti, Daisy Rosario, Candice Lim, and Kate Lindsay.
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