Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

Finding out your spouse has been unfaithful can feel like your entire world has just shattered. I'm speaking directly to the person who is hurting, confused, and unsure of what to do next in this “best of the best” sweet repeat episode. Whether this terrible discovery is fresh or something you’ve been quietly carrying for a while, this conversation will help you take your first steps toward healing.
I'm also sharing from both sides of the story—as someone who has experienced infidelity and caused it—with compassion, clarity, and a path forward that doesn’t depend on your spouse’s readiness.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, ashamed, or alone… this episode is for you.
What You’ll Hear in This Episode
Why infidelity is more destructive than most people realize
The truth about healing (and why it doesn’t start where most people think)
Why jumping straight into couples or marriage counseling may not be the best first step
The importance of focusing on your personal healing first
Encouragement for those who haven’t told anyone yet
How to begin moving forward—even if your spouse isn’t ready
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We're celebrating our 400th episode and tackling one of the most important topics in marriage—consistency. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like your efforts to improve your marriage aren’t working or wondered if all those small daily actions really matter, this episode is for you.
Today, I’m sharing my personal journey and my not-so-secret struggle with staying consistent—not just in my marriage, but in life! I’ll walk you through a simple, actionable framework that I created called the CARE acronym (Check-in, Affection, Reassurance, Encouragement) to help you build trust, commitment, and affection in your relationship. I’ll also give practical tips for daily connection, show you how to stay motivated when you don’t see instant results, and explain why the little things you do will eventually transform your marriage.
You’ll hear:
Why consistency is a game-changer for marriage

How to use 5-10 minute daily check-ins to reconnect with your spouse

Simple ways to show affection and reassurance every single day—even if it feels awkward at first

Real encouragement to keep planting seeds, even when it seems like nothing is changing

How intentionality transformed my relationship with Shawn after years of inconsistency

Whether you’re newly married or have been together for decades, this episode will equip you with the tools you need to build a stronger, more secure marriage—one small, consistent step at a time. You can create the marriage you want, and I hope this milestone episode inspires you to start today!
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Get my new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples
Ep. 394: Do You Need Help, a Hug, or Just to Be Heard? 3 Questions Show Empathy and Care

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Do you often get frustrated or maybe even sad because it seems you're the only one working on your marriage? Like, your spouse is "in it," but he/she doesn't seem to take the marriage seriously. You often feel taken for granted, or you feel like you take two steps forward and twelve steps back?
Today's episode is just what you need to hear. This is a sweet repeat (an oldie but goodie)... a listener's question that I answered live on the podcast.
My answer still holds true. And it will still work for you, too.
Why You Should Listen?
You’ll learn how to:
Change your step in the 'marriage dance'

Switch your focus

Overcome frustration when nothing seems to be working

Get a new perspective

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Is your relationship recovering from infidelity? Learn about my Infidelity Intensive here.
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As a marriage coach, I know firsthand how unspoken and unrealistic expectations can quietly sabotage even the strongest marriages. In this episode, I'm sharing practical strategies to help you define, communicate, and realign your expectations so you and your spouse can avoid unnecessary disappointment and disconnection.
We'll talk about the five most common unrealistic expectations couples face, including the beliefs that our spouse should never change, should make us happy, or should simply know what we're thinking. I share some of my own personal stories—like how my expectation for Shaun to be the spiritual leader in our home led to unnecessary disappointment and what I learned about the roots of where that specific expectation came from.
You’ll learn how to:
Get curious together instead of assuming your way is the only way

Stay flexible and open to growth as both you and your spouse change

Collaborate and celebrate your unique strengths as a couple

Let go of the pressure to change each other

Develop a gratitude mindset for a more joyful marriage

Resources mentioned in this episode:
Get your copy of my new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples
Related episodes:
Ep. 126 - How to Create a Marriage Vision
Ep. 304 - 4 Expectations Every Marriage Should Have

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Before you get married, there are several important conversations you need to have. In this episode, I'm sharing 12 emotionally healthy questions every couple should ask before getting married. Whether you’re single, engaged, or already married and just want to build deeper intimacy with your spouse, these conversation starters will help you avoid pitfalls and create a lasting connection in your relationship.
Many people enter marriage with unrealistic expectations and without the preparation they truly need. That's why I'm walking you through twelve powerful questions designed to spark vulnerable conversations—including how to make your partner feel heard, set appropriate boundaries with friends, handle conflict, address emotional wounds, and discover your emotional health meters.
You’ll discover:
The essential questions to identify what makes you (and your partner) feel loved, valued, and understood

How to recognize and talk about emotionally unsafe behaviors that can sabotage connection

The importance of knowing how you and your partner respond to hurt, stress, and burnout—and why you need to see each other at your worst as well as your best before tying the knot

Strategies for reconnecting after conflict and not taking each other for granted

Why sharing your dreams, emotional needs, and even moments of sadness can set the stage for greater intimacy and emotional health

I also dive into how friendship dynamics must shift when you get married (yes, even those platonic besties!) and I break down why recognizing your own patterns—and understanding your partner’s—is the foundation for a healthy relationship.
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Download my free audio guide, 7 Secret Marriage Rules to Know Before I Do and After I Did
Grab your copy of my brand new book, Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples.
If you’re engaged, thinking about marriage, or want to refresh and deepen your connection, these 12 questions will transform the way you communicate and understand each other.

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