Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

We're taking a break for Labor Day Weekend and we hope you'll get some rest too. In the meantime, check out these popular episodes from this year:
#595 4 Lies We Believe About Sex 
#603 5 Ways to Navigate Differences & Build a Stronger Marriage
#612 How Your Story Shapes the Way You Approach Sex & Intimacy
 
We'll be back right here next week. See you then!

We all do it—the little "tests" we give our spouses without ever telling them they're being tested.
Will he notice? Will she remember? Does he even see me? Does she even care?
Maybe it's the party we planned, the extra hours we put in at work, or that new haircut or dress we're hoping they'll notice. We put in the effort…and then quietly wait to see if they pass the test.
And when they don't? Well, let's just say it doesn't always go the way we hoped.
So why do we do this? And is there a better way to get the connection and attention we're really longing for?
Grab your Java and join us for the conversation.
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
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Follow-up Resources:
Finding the Hero in Your Husband by Dr. Juli Slattery
What's It Like to Be Married to Me? And Other Dangerous Questions by Linda Dillow
Blog: Did He Pass the Test? by Juli Slattery
Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

Your sex life shouldn't be the one area of marriage you never discuss.
It's awkward—we get it. And you probably don't think talking about it will help. But research shows that talking about sex is strongly associated with a more thriving sex life. So, how do you actually have the conversation?
This week, Juli walks through five conversations couples should be having about sex. If you've ever thought, "We should probably talk about this…" this episode is for you.
Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Josiah Bogue
 
Follow-up Resources:
Hot Topic Kit: Building a Great Sex Life
God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery
Research cited in this episode is from The Secrets of Sex in Marriage by Dr. Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn.

What do you do when your child tells you something that changes everything?
What constitutes abuse? And, when should you report it? 
This week, Juli sits down with trauma expert Dr. Debi Grebenik to talk about how parents can respond when a child has experienced sexual abuse. They discuss what signs to watch for, how trauma affects children, why empathy is more powerful than panic, and how parents can protect their kids while raising them with confidence—not fear.
Guest: Dr. Debi Grebenik
 
Follow-up Resources:
National Children's Advocacy Center
Java #460, How to Have Mini and Many Conversations About Sexuality with Your Kids
God's Healing Stinks by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)
Follow Debi at @drdebigrebenik
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

After eight weeks away, Juli is back—and she's sharing what really happened on her sabbatical.
This week, Juli opens her journal and shares the biggest lessons God taught her about burnout, rest, leadership, and learning to live within the limits He designed for us. We also talk about why so many of us struggle to slow down, how Sabbath is more than a day off, and what it looks like to build rhythms of rest into everyday life.
Plus, you'll get a first look at an exciting new vision for Authentic Intimacy and what's ahead for the ministry.
If you've been feeling exhausted, spiritually dry, or like you're running on empty, this conversation is for you.
Guest: Hannah Nitz
Follow-up resources:
Encountering the Radical Love of Jesus by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)
5 Secrets to Intimacy With God by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)
Satisfy My Thirsty Soul by Linda Dillow