Become New with John Ortberg

What can a therapist teach us about prayer?
John Ortberg sits down with his longtime friend and therapist Dr. Rick to explore the Psalms as a kind of “divine therapy with God.”
The Psalms are messy. Angry. Afraid. Contradictory. Unfiltered.
And according to Rick, that's exactly where healing begins: ruthless honesty inside a relationship where we know we're accepted.
So what would happen if we approached God that way?
Can we tell Him what we actually think and feel, not merely what we believe we're supposed to say?
Can God become our fully disclosing friend?
Maybe the path toward becoming who God made us to be begins by bringing Him who we actually are.
In this episode: prayer • therapy • Psalms • emotional honesty • healing • friendship with God
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00:00 Salvation, Healing & the Psalms
 00:27 The Psalms as Divine Therapy
 00:48 What Can Therapy Teach Us About Prayer?
 01:13 The Psalms Are Messy
 01:36 How Raw Are Our Actual Thoughts?
 01:56 Psalm 88: Darkness and Despair
 02:19 Psalm 83: Angry, Contradictory Prayers
 02:39 Psalm 89: From Anguish to Praise
 03:24 What Therapy Is Trying to Do
 03:58 Your Ideal Life vs. Your Actual Life
 04:35 The Me I Want to Be
 04:54 Ruthless Honesty
 05:18 “I Don't Talk Like This Anywhere Else”
 05:51 The Psalms as an Emotional Handbook
 06:18 Do You Actually Understand Yourself?
 07:03 Why We Resist the Truth About Ourselves
 07:20 We Need Feedback
 07:49 Getting Under Our Defenses
 08:06 Rick Blackmon, Sneaky Psychologist 😂
 08:31 Pain Drives Personal Growth
 09:22 What Is a Therapeutic Alliance?
 09:48 Why the Relationship Matters
 10:21 No Secrets. Tell the Truth.
 10:52 Acceptance Creates the Place for Change
 11:35 Why Rick Reads the Psalms
 11:56 Do You Have a Therapeutic Alliance With God?
 12:22 Do You Feel Safe With God?
 13:04 The Power of a Fully Disclosing Friend
 13:35 Can God Be That Friend?
 14:04 Why Honesty Feels Risky
 14:30 “I Feel a Little More Whole”
 14:57 A Healing Relationship With God

Suffering can do one of two things: break us or break us open.
Beginning with Frederick Buechner's unforgettable image, John Ortberg explores Psalm 110 and one of the deepest ways Christians have read the Psalms: seeing the story of Jesus in their suffering, longing, and hope.
Drawing from C.S. Lewis, Plato, and the mysterious biblical figure Melchizedek, John looks at how Jesus brings together two ancient hopes: the victorious king and the suffering servant.
Jesus doesn't overcome suffering by avoiding it.
He enters it.
And because the story ends in resurrection, suffering doesn't have to get the final word.
The difference between being broken and broken open is hope.
In this episode: Psalm 110 • suffering • hope • Jesus • C.S. Lewis • Melchizedek • resurrection
#Psalm110 #JohnOrtberg #Suffering #Hope #Jesus #CSLewis #Psalms
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00:00 Broken or Broken Open?
 00:10 What Will Suffering Do to You?
 00:37 The Danger of Armoring Yourself
 00:54 Seeing Jesus in the Psalms
 01:20 Is Biblical Prophecy a Crystal Ball?
 01:55 How the New Testament Reads the Old
 02:15 C.S. Lewis and “Second Meanings”
 02:41 Plato's Remarkable Picture of a Righteous Man
 03:32 Written Hundreds of Years Before Jesus
 04:02 The Great Story Behind the Story
 04:28 The Most Quoted Psalm in the New Testament
 04:50 The Difference Is Hope
 05:06 “The LORD Says to My Lord”
 05:27 Who Is David Talking About?
 06:10 Our Longing for a Good King
 06:30 What If God Himself Comes?
 06:54 The Mystery of Melchizedek
 07:16 A Priest Before Israel Had Priests
 07:39 God Is Bigger Than Our Tribe
 08:13 God Is Way Bigger Than That
 08:34 A Priest Who Is Also a King
 08:59 Israel Expected a King Who Would Crush Enemies
 09:18 The Other Story: The Suffering Servant
 09:41 Jesus Brings the Two Together
 09:50 The King Who Gets Crushed
 10:13 Suffering Doesn't Get the Last Word
 10:35 The Heavens Are Broken Open

Are you actually experiencing joy, or are you mostly experiencing relief when problems finally go away?
In Psalm 68, John Ortberg explores the biblical idea of exultation: deep, expressive joy that can exist even when life isn't going perfectly.
Drawing from C.S. Lewis and Dallas Willard, John looks at why we can spend our lives clearing one hurdle after another and mistaking the resulting relief for genuine joy.
Lewis called the Psalmists' delight an “appetite for God.”
So how's your appetite?
Maybe we've filled ourselves with so much achievement, entertainment, information, and distraction that there's little room left for something better.
Today, try getting hungry again.
In this episode: Psalm 68 • joy • relief • C.S. Lewis • Dallas Willard • fasting • appetite for God
#Psalm68 #JohnOrtberg #Joy #CSLewis #DallasWillard #SpiritualFormation
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00:00 Do You Exult Enough?
 00:10 What's Your Exultation Quotient?
 00:35 What Does “Exult” Mean?
 01:02 Exultation in Psalm 68
 01:25 God's Not Worried About How Things Are Going
 01:49 Paul and Psalm 68
 02:12 God Daily Bears Our Burdens
 02:35 There He Is!
 02:57 Let the Celebration Begin
 03:18 David Danced Before God
 03:43 Why We Exult at Baseball Games
 04:10 Where Did Our Sacred Joy Go?
 04:34 What's Your Exultation Threshold?
 04:54 C.S. Lewis on Delight in God
 05:32 Do You Have an Appetite for God?
 05:57 Their Fingers Itch for the Harp
 06:19 Rowdy Worship
 06:48 Our Terrible Concern With Good Taste 😂
 06:57 What Spoils Your Appetite?
 07:22 Filling Up on the Cheap Stuff
 07:39 Why Spend Money on What Isn't Bread?
 08:04 We Have So Much to Fill Ourselves With
 08:23 The Problem With Achievement
 08:45 Clear the Bar. Move the Bar. Repeat.
 09:08 Are You Mistaking Relief for Joy?
 09:38 What Real Joy Feels Like
 10:01 How's Your Appetite for God?
 10:24 Try a Little Fast
 10:47 Fast From Self-Promotion
 11:16 Is Another Day Enough to Celebrate?
 11:42 What's Your Threshold for Joy?
 11:54 It's Your Day for Exultation

There are three kinds of friends. Two can be valuable, but the third can actually help you become the person God created you to be.

Beginning with Psalm 122 and the simple words “Let us go,” John Ortberg explores why friendship is so essential to human flourishing and why it seems increasingly difficult to find.

Drawing on Aristotle's three kinds of friendship, John looks at useful friends, pleasant friends, and spiritual friends: people with whom we can be honest, vulnerable, challenged, encouraged, and pointed toward God.

So take inventory today:
Do you have that kind of friend?
And perhaps more importantly:
Are you becoming one?

In this episode: Psalm 122 • friendship • loneliness • Aristotle • spiritual friendship • community

#Psalm122 #JohnOrtberg #Friendship #Loneliness #Community #SpiritualFormation

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00:00 I Rejoiced When They Said “Let Us Go”
00:44 The Joy of Doing Life Together
01:04 “Let Us Go”
01:23 I'm Always the One Reaching Out
01:49 The Three Kinds of Friends
02:09 Jesus's Greatest Miracle? 😂
02:38 Why Friendship Gets Harder With Age
03:00 America's Friendship Paradox
03:34 The Anti-Social Century
03:59 Even College Students Are Lonely
04:27 We're Spending Less Time Together
04:59 An MIT Student Who Eats Alone
05:22 Thou Shalt Goof Off 😂
05:31 When Clubs Become Jobs
06:02 Aristotle's Three Kinds of Friendship
06:32 #1: Useful Friends
07:25 #2: Pleasant Friends
07:54 #3: Spiritual Friends
08:14 Flatterers vs. True Friends
08:38 Who Helps You Become Your Best Self?
09:25 A City Closely Connected
09:56 Who's in Your Tribe?
10:24 What Shalom Really Means
10:56 People Have Always Been Lonely
11:31 Value Your Friends
11:58 Call Someone. Thank Someone.
12:20 Let Your Loneliness Lead You to God

There are two kinds of commitments: contracts and covenants.
We need both. But John Ortberg explains why one can enhance your life while the other can actually transform it.
Beginning with Psalm 35, John explores the difference between transactional relationships and covenant relationships, from Casablanca to a remarkable moment in American history when Psalm 35 was read before the Continental Congress.
A contract protects individual rights.
A covenant creates a “we.”
And Scripture doesn't describe God as the God of contract. He is the God of covenant, inviting us into relationships built on something deeper than what we can get from one another.
So where might you be treating a covenant like a contract?
In this episode: Psalm 35 • covenant • commitment • relationships • American history • spiritual formation
#Psalm35 #JohnOrtberg #Covenant #Relationships #SpiritualFormation #Psalms

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00:00 Let's Try This Again 😂
00:22 Two Kinds of Commitment
00:54 One of Them Will Transform Your Life
01:09 Psalm 35
01:31 A Psalm That Changed American History
01:50 Rabbi Soloveichik's Discovery
02:14 Contract vs. Covenant
02:41 What a Covenant Does
03:08 When Relationships Become Transactions
03:21 God Is Not the God of Contract
03:54 What Casablanca Teaches About Covenant
04:40 Covenant Can Enrich Your Life
05:16 Covenant at Sinai
05:25 The Declaration vs. the Constitution
06:19 Benjamin Franklin Calls for Prayer
07:07 A Divided Continental Congress
08:02 Psalm 35 Is Read
08:28 John Adams's Stunning Reaction
08:53 A Psalm Prepared for That Moment
09:28 A Common Destiny
09:45 Three Lines That United a Room
10:10 Humble and Inspired
10:36 From Quarreling Delegates to “We”
10:58 The Psalms Belong to Humanity
11:24 It's Time to Cut a Covenant
11:45 A Contract Is Transactional. A Covenant Is Transformational