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Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Infidelity
Emily & Johnny Spigelmire | Christian Marriage Recovery Coaches
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180 | Infidelity Has Just Been Discovered: Is Your Marriage Over?
2026/10/19 | 15 mins.Have you just found out that your spouse has been unfaithful to you? Or, have your own secret sexual choices just been discovered?
Whichever side of this painful discovery you find yourself, your mind is racing with the same terrifying questions: Now what? Where do we go from here? Is our marriage over?
The truth is hard to swallow: Yes, the marriage you had is dead.
Facing life after infidelity means stepping onto a path you never asked for, never anticipated, and don’t know how to navigate.
The fear is real, the confusion is overwhelming, and the security you built your life upon feels completely shattered.
The old normal cannot be salvaged, and trying to patch up the rubble on your own will only lead to further heartbreak.
In this episode, we pull back the curtain on an early discovery story from our own marriage. We reveal the devastating mistake we made—sweeping the truth under the rug without qualified help, leaving an unexploded fuse that detonated years later.
You cannot navigate the fallout of sexual betrayal alone. Hit play to trade panic for direction and find your footing in the middle of the storm.
We pray this blesses you!
Johnny and Emily
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Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 59. Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery
Episode 89. Considering Divorce After Sexual Betrayal? 3 Good Reasons to Stay Married
Episode 100. Getting Real Help for Your Marriage: 10 Obstacles to Counseling and Coaching
Episode 103. 9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal for Him and Her
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2026/10/12 | 5 mins.We have a quick episode for you today with some important reminders, some encouragement, plus a beautiful word of hope from scripture.
Join us for a few minutes to help you get grounded this week and remember that you are not alone and there is hope!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RESOURCES:
Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”
Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)
RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity
Episode 118. Is It Okay to Take a Break While Recovering from Sexual Betrayal?
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2026/10/05 | 29 mins.Recovery is not a straight line, and hitting an unexpected landmine years down the road can feel like falling all the way back to day one. Recording from our anniversary trip, we unpack a sudden trigger that hit Emily in a hotel pool, dragging up painful memories of the past and the heavy reality of betrayal trauma.
Instead of old patterns taking over—withdrawal, defensiveness, or panic—this moment became a test of the tools we’ve fought to build. Emily shares what it looked like to reach for Johnny rather than pull away, and how staying connected in the middle of the wave changed everything.
Johnny breaks down the vital shift from defensive reaction to grounded, empathetic listening, offering the reassurance and space Emily needed to let the grief move through them instead of tearing them apart.
Triggers aren't proof that healing failed; they are flashing lights pointing to the exact spots still asking for grace. Tune in to hear how faith, community, and relentless honesty turn unexpected pain into deeper intimacy.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com
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💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com
💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe
RESOURCES:
Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”
Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)
RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity
Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery
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✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.177 | Beaches, Bikinis, and Boundaries: Real-time Vigilance After Sexual Betrayal
2026/09/28 | 28 mins.Geography holds memory—and for couples healing from sexual betrayal, certain places can feel like emotional minefields.
Eight years after Discovery Day, we returned to a beach tied to some of the most painful pre-D-Day memories of our marriage.
We didn't go back to pretend the past never happened; we went to reclaim the ground. But stepping onto that sand meant facing the reality of the setting: the ocean breeze, the crowds, and women in bikinis walking right across our path.
In earlier days, that scenario would have sparked silence, panic, hyper-vigilance, and quiet dread. Instead, we took an early morning walk and did something radically different—we talked through our vigilance plan out loud, in real time.
In this episode, we share the raw, honest conversation we had on that shoreline and unpack a critical truth for couples in recovery: in the real world, simply seeing someone does not mean a husband has failed. Recovery isn't about avoiding sightlines—it’s about the choice that happens after the seeing.
If you’ve ever dreaded a vacation, a summer trip, or just walking down a crowded street with your spouse, this episode will show you how to move from walking on eggshells (or seashells) to standing on solid, peaceful ground.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!
💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com
💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner
💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com
💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe
RESOURCES:
Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”
Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)
RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity
Episode 95. Weddings and Pirates and Triggers. Oh, my!
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✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!
✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast.
✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.176 | Buried in Shame, Anxiety, or Fear? Exposing the Root Cause for True Healing, with Heather O’Brien
2026/09/21 | 29 mins.Before packing our bags for our wedding anniversary trip to intentionally reclaim and redeem a beach tied to pre-D-Day memories, we sat down for a raw, foundational conversation with returning guest Heather O’Brien.
If you have spent months or years in betrayal recovery, you know how exhausting it is to manage the daily fallout. The anxiety spikes, the sudden triggers, the paralyzing shame, the defensiveness—it’s easy to spend all your energy playing defense against the symptoms without ever understanding the deeper spiritual and emotional dynamics driving them.
Heather O’Brien, licensed minister and author of the new training manual Heal With God, joins us to break that cycle. Heather pulls no punches about why traditional advice often leaves believers stuck in a loop of shame, unforgiveness, and fear. Instead of managing behavioral fallout, Heather outlines a Spirit-led process of asking God curious questions, exposing the toxic internal agreements we’ve made, and taking healing one specific root at a time.
Whether you are wrestling with hidden bitterness, suffocating self-protection, or the lie that you have to fix everything all at once, this episode offers a practical, grounded roadmap to hearing God's voice in your deepest wounds.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!
💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com
💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner
💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com
💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe
CONNECT WITH HEATHER O’BRIEN:
Heal with God podcast
Heal with God book
Heal with God Workshop – Free 1 hour online, Spirit-led healing workshop designed to experience the Heal with God approach with live coaching.
RESOURCES:
Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”
Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)
RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal
Episode 75. Heal With God From Sexual Betrayal, Shame, and Unforgiveness: feat. Heather O'Brien
NEXT STEPS:
✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!
✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast.
✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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***Top 1.5% Global Podcast***Dear Betrayed,Are you in shock? Confused, devastated, hurt, angry and feeling like you are not enough? Do you feel like it must be your fault, like you should have somehow seen the signs? Are you grieving the death of the marriage you thought you had?Dear Betrayer,Have you been believing the lie that if people knew what was really in your heart and mind, they would turn their back on you? Have you been convinced that your wife and family would leave you and you would lose everything if/when you came clean? Beloved, do you both feel like your marriage is over?Well, you’re right. That marriage full of secrets and lies IS over. But now there is hope for an honest and transparent marriage - one full of trust, safety, connection, forgiveness, acceptance, and intimacy that you’ve never known before. Bold statement, right? You may be thinking, “No way!” That’s okay. We understand…Hi, we are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and we have been where you are...As a result of adultery fueled by pornography, the marriage vows we had exchanged as starry-eyed newlyweds and had worked so hard to keep were eventually shattered. We’ve been through hell and back. But we are here, together, to let you know that this devastation we experienced was actually a gift.Of course, we didn’t see it that way at first and you probably don’t either. But, through a commitment to recovery, our faith in God, and our hope for redemption, we set out on a journey of healing, and we can’t wait to share what we’ve learned with you. We now have a marriage that continually blows our minds, and we give God all the glory!So, if you’re ready to move from heartbreak and pain to hope and healing, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and join us on a journey of faith as we talk through difficult questions like;Is there hope for our marriage?Can I fix all the damage I’ve done?Can I ever trust again?Is true intimacy even possible?We will also do deep dives into the topics of:* Isolation* Guilt and Shame* Anger* Rejection* Addiction* Trauma* Body Image* Triggers* Communication* And more…Our story, like yours, is a messy one. But, with God’s help, it is possible to recover what was lost, stolen, or given away. We know this because God has turned the ashes of our lives into something beautiful and we believe he can do that for you too.You can connect with us at:support@beyondbrokenvows.comhttps://insider.beyondbrokenvows.com/https://coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com/We would love to be part of your journey to healing and wholeness!
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